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Easy: How To Make a Girl Fall in Love with You

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The thought of tricking a girl into falling in love with you is a disturbing one. Love is a huge emotion that can radically and completely dictate someone’s life. If it was possible to perform a few magical steps in order to make a girl fall in love with you, we would live in a harsh world of broken hearts. Uh oh… don’t we already?

You cannot make anyone do anything and you certainly cannot make anyone love you. In my experience, the more you try to make a girl fall in love you, the less she will. Its kind of a catch-22 in that way but fortunately there are two aspects you can concentrate on to help you along the way.

What do you love in life?

Usually its the things that make you happy and the things that we attribute the most value to. Keeping in mind these two aspects of human nature, we can therefore conclude that in order for someone to love us, we must make them happy and we must be valuable to them.

making a girl fall in love

Happiness is contagious

Let’s work on making them happy first, its really simple and is overlooked by most people. The simple rule to making someone happy is to be happy yourself. Being happy is contagious and people in your presence will automatically feel similar to you. If you’re happy about life, then the people around you will want to have you around them as well. If you’re always down, depressed or angry, then you are making yourself very hard to love.

Example #1 – Love Images

Think of someone that you love or loved. Imagine them in your mind until you can see a picture of their face. In this picture, are they happy or sad ? Its very likely that in the mental picture that you have, they are smiling or happy. If it worked for you, then it should also work for others.

The things you love the most consequently have a lot of value. Can you really love something that has no value? Things that are replaceable, or are easily attainable have little value in our lives. So make yourself valuable and people will love you. Being valuable isn’t as hard as people think.

The concept of value is relative, in an organization, the most valuable person is the boss even if in another situation, he could be completely insignificant. This is why so many secretaries are attracted to their boss. He has the most value. Let’s take this concept and apply it in practical situations.

Example #2 – Value

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  • tendai

    good points

  • sushanto

    i am falling in love of a girl. But don’t understand how give offer her and what she like.please help me to do my job.

  • saduglyboy

    i love this girl but she likes this other guy and she hates me. she be cursing at me and stuff. but we hardly talk.

  • saduglyboy

    i need help i am ugly with lots of pimple and a scar. i am so poor i dress ugly. i suck. i get bullied. please help me get this girl

  • Erik

    It´s a good comentary, I´m gonna use these advices, hope they work. thanks.

  • Umair

    I dont agree with you at all. My girl says that she is happy with me, she wants me to be with me, she wants to marry me but she is not attracted to me and doesnt love me. Further to your discussion, she always feels like a queen when i am around too.

    so why does she says that she doesnt love me or is not attracted to me????

  • John

    For every one here who think that he’s ugly and that’s why he don’t get the girls… stop right there !!! From what I know, girls dont see the same things as we see… Let me explain with my bad English. The only thing that girl see in a man it is self-esteem, if it’s too low, well guess what , girls wont get attracted to you. Sure they will feel good with you cause their self-esteem is higher than yours… but they will only be friend, most of the time pretty good friend, even become your best friend.It could be nice but it’s not what you want, doesnt?First: Stop judging yourself or complain about the way you talk,walk,look, build your self-esteem…Love you as you are. If you cant love yourself how do you think you gonna make feel the love to someone else.Second: please don’t be scared to make a move.Hug her often,not too much cause they will think your gay… lol just kidding. Hold her in your arms to make her feel that you can provide to her security… I was suffering from very low self-esteem before and guess what… never had a girl friend. But now, girls are the one who makes me compliment, instead of me. they want me, they fight for me!!! But common guys don’t turn out and be a completely ass hole like every other guys who gets the girls. Stay nice to girls, compliment them but not too much, make her happy,listen to her for better communication, make all of this naturally.This will be your secret arsenal that other guys don’t have :)Don’t forced yourself to say or do things that you don’t want or feel(this is very important)…Don’t cry in front of a girl you want. She will think your not strong enough emotionally to give her what she needs the most security, stability etc.

  • Matt

    saduglyboy: Read the post. It’s not all about looks.

    Umair: Because you’re a doormat :>

    I strongly suggest you read the double your dating book as suggested in this article.

    Best of luck.

  • ……..

    Some people told this girl i like her. Then the next week she hates me, but we still have eye contact with each other. What should I say if we dont even talk any more

  • Socrates

    Have you the courage to ask her out? Women want their men without fear. Only then can you know the answer you seek; ask her.

  • AJITH

    Let me try your valuble tips on my lover who hates me a lot when i love her more.

  • marcos

    what if you ask her to go out and she always has an excuse…she donsn’t feel like it…or whatever..but the point is after several attempts she does not go out with you.

  • http://www.seductionbooks.org/ Chris Calo

    Marcos:
    If you ask her out and she always has an excuse, it’s likely she doesn’t want to go out with you.

    That usually means that you didn’t build enough attraction initially. I’d read up on more specifically on creating chemistry, flirting and building attraction.

  • kyle

    4 years ago a beautiful girl asked me out..we were goin great about 9 months on we broke up and from then on we were off and on constantly. i tried everythin but we always fought so one day i found the perfect opportunity to say i love and she said it back. few months on we crashed and burned again. and nothin happened between us for ages. until now..i want her back again we’ve been talkin for last few days..and secretly meetin up to talk bout old times..but she has a boyfriend and they’ve been together for 7 months now and she says she likes him but we text like everyday..what can i say to her for her to be mine once more?

  • albert

    i think,the best way of making a girl to love someone,is for the guy to love the way he is and have the boldness to confront sure girl.

  • Filip

    i have a problem of the interesting nature. As it happens, i’ve been with a girl of my dreams for one year and 11 months. for the first couple of months, she has been the one that kept our relationship alive, and after that, she was, and still is the women of my life. but, in the past several weeks, it seems her love for me is fading. I love her with all my heart, and i tell her that, but she can’t seem to tell me that she loves me. I need help to keep her with me

  • Umair

    My girl says that she is happy with me, she wants me to be with me, she wants to marry me but she is not attracted to me and doesnt love me. Further to your discussion, she always feels like a queen when i am around too but she is not in love with me WTF (i know its frustrating).

    if she is not in love with me or not attracted to me so then why does she wants to marry me????

  • john

    I’ve liked this girl for awhile now and she started to like me too we flirted and talk from when i woke up till like 2am and even sometimes 5am but then she started coming up with excusses and said “everything reminded her of her ex” now a days we just talk like friends i do love her as a freind but sometimes i just don’t know what to do becuase i still do like her a little and she is back with her ex so i dont want to get in the way of them and get her to like me. help plz?

  • robin

    if you ask about my life ,…..I will say…. I am bored..
    Ya totally bored.
    No one is their to have a talk with me. No one that is a girl to have some relationship,..at least to get part time(flirt) or for full time. Secondly i feel nervous to have talk with a girl.

    please help me so that a girl come to me and propose me ( i.e,for flirt or full time)has i won’t be able to go first attempt to them.
    wherever i go i never seen a girl having at least a look on me.
    I have a good posture, pale color,fine looking, have an average height, nice communication in English a bit. still all these i have, but not a single glance from girls.
    what should i do? Can u help me out from this. if u then please help me.

  • kieran

    there’s this girl i really like but she doesnt like me back. she said so herself. now i feel as if i havent got a chance with her at all and its getting me down.

  • Himel

    1.5 years before there was a relation between me and Swarna.may be it was friendship. on proposing her i did little bit foolish task. But i love her more than i can say. Still now i love her. my every breath feel her. But now she loves another guy. i cant forget her. i cant concentrate another girl. what can i do now?

  • mahfuz

    i love this girl, she’s in my maths class i sit opposite her. im in year 8 in london. i love her after five years of friendship but i dont know how to tell her that i love her. Why cant she say i like you mahfuz. If she is reading, Fahmida, please keep it to yourself, but remember.

  • Ramakant

    I love one girl but many times i tell her that i love her too much i can’t live without her love. so how can she love me please help me with what i can i do then she love me .

  • sahar

    i have been in love with this girl for 2 years… i ask her before whether would we have a chance together anot.. she says no.. then after tht i still contact her and chat on the msn…. she has a boy friend now but her attitudes towards me is way different from last time ( in a good way). She even ask me whether i wanted to go out with her anot, but in the end she didnt want to go with me as i thought maybe she has a boyfriend and does not want to be seen wit me and her outside since she has a boyfriend. I really love her and i really want her. I have tried to have others girls but even though the other girls were better looking, i still love my old lover. What should i do?

    DO U HAVE TO ANSWER?

    REGARDS.

  • scarz

    so i like this girl, she’s my best friend, and idk i think she likes me but im not positive. everyone we see thinks we go out wen we don’t, idk what to do, plz help me out.

  • normalgirl

    i dont know if any girls have posted here, but i will try to answer questions.

    first of all, girls really dont care about looks! they just look at the inside, which will show on the outside. if a guy has high self-esteem, he will be more outgoing and smile more. if he cares about taking care of himself (and others), he will be clean and wear nice things because he cares about his image. if you dont like something about yourself, change it! what else can i say?

    secondly, it’s easy to get a girl to fall for you. honestly. words alone will do it. i know i probably shouldnt say it, but if you want the right girl and be sure she will be with you a looooong time, just be real! girls love words, but they love it even more if they are backed up b y action. the more you SHOW her that you love her, the more she will love you.

    it’s up to you guys to keep the limits. if you dont, things will move too fast and she will probably end up breaking up with you.

    i will give you an anecdote. my exes went out with me and they thought i was amazing, but i knew they weren’t good engough for me. i shouldnt have gone far with them because i knew that we were going to break up, but i let myself go. a tip… girls will make compromises, but in the end, they will do what is right probably or will be very unhappy or will cheat on you with another guy who sweet talks her. just be honest. ask her what she really really thinks. if she doesnt think that you guys will end up together, dont force it. by not forcing antyhing and by giving each other space, that could either increase the bond between you two or increase the friendship and the amount of respect you will have in your life.

    anyways, i cant think anymore… too much to say!

    i hope this helped. just BE YOURSELF and ASK QUESTIONS!!! this is very important. :)

  • johnny

    i love this girl since 2003, and each year i ask her to be mine but than she just make me feel good,she never treat me bad.she never say yes to me but than we kissed two times this year. she promise me that next year we will start dating. do u think she loves me,but me i love her with all my heart.

  • Peter Pan

    I dated a hotttttttttt girl, but I made mistake by asking her to do me a bj on the 3rd date! ahh, she never talked to me anymore!

  • vaino

    like me i have been so scared of girls during ma high schhol dayz but now i am in a univesity i decided to wake up and be on the look out.so what i have come to know is that girls are so simple they only go for any face be it black or white,they dont judge the book by its cover.so please i tell yu know to be not afraid of girls remember they are the gift from God.

  • Haven

    Hi guys ..
    I like a girl and i know that i love her too . Lastnight i told her that i like her , she told me ” We r friends and i want to keep it like that and please dont let that change and u r like my brother , so please just forget this thing and lets keep it like that please ”
    So i just say ” Ok ,and we will be friend and nothing gona change ”

    Note : she’s 2 years older than me and i know her for 2 month and we knew each other from a gruop in my cuzn college and we r in the same group , We hanging out with the gruop evrey Sunday …

    i asked some of my friends and they told me some stuff , But i want to hear it from the other ppl in other countrys ..

    So please just tell me what do u see right to do ..

  • dollarbill

    I got this girl that i grew up with and we have been friends forever. once we slept together she changed totally. now she calls me all the time always at my door and its like i don’t know who she is now. is that love or pre-stalking action?

  • normalgirl

    johnny (and others), to be honest, i think that a relationship will never last a whole lifetime unless there is an admiration of the person from BOTH people. both of you have to think the other person is the most amazing person in the world. if it isnt like that, the one who doesnt think the other is the best for them, they are more likely to leave (maybe not even hurt) and you be hurt. from my experience, if you are the best for someone, there is someone out there that would feel the same about you. everyone is unique and its just waiting for the person to come your way. make a move! get to know someone! but quit holding on to a hope that may never be satisfied. just move on and you will find someone better (if you are trying to become better yourself… you have to do some work too!).

  • normalgirl

    PeterPan… i have advice for you. i have had to tell this to ALL guys i know. they’ve ALL done it. NEVER NEVER NEVER ask for a bj or any other ‘favors’ of the sort. if a girl really likes you, she will willingly do it. probably well, too. its a really big turn-off, and i mean really really big, to ask a girl to satisfy you physically. we feel like we are a slave or something like that. just let things flow. maybe you can ask someone that you pay to do those things, but never ask a girl you actually like. :)

  • Youngerguy

    Hey, I need an answer guys, please answer me!! here I go,

    I met this girl 3-4 years ago when i was just a kid, like 14, she was 16-17 and obviously she couldnt go out with me becuase i was too young, and she only thinks of me as her little brother.

    we have been best friends and I told her last year when I was 16 how i felt about her, that i think i really fancy her and want something to happen between us, she said she would rather we be friends, so I took it like that and still am her best friend, now I am 17 and she tells me that on the night of my prom, she wants to have my ‘virginity’ and have sex with me, but still only be best friends and that her boyfriend must never know, this is the first time that she has did anything like this, and i am thinking it is becuase i am now older and more mature, she is 21, she has a boyfriend and they are together a long time, she often tells me that her mother thinks one day we will end up together and laughs with me about it, she kisses me on the lips but only when no one is around.

    Tell me people please, is she only doing this is a one-ff, or do you think once I have sex with her, she will like me even more, and want more from me than friendship?

    but there is always a doubt if she loves me like i love her, as if she loved me like i love her, she would already be with me,

    Please please comment for me

  • normalgirl

    honestly, i always see it the other way around. i know guys that only want physical things but then just want to be friends and no more. i have heard, though, that there are some girls that are like that. in my opinion, she’s just using you and taking advantage of the fact that you are (probablY) always there to listen to her and fulfill her ‘attention’ needs. it’s hard to hear, but some people just REALLy dont see the value in others. you may be an amazing person, but if she doesnt realize it, find people who do! its not worth getting into. BELIEVE ME, if it is not good the way it is now, there IS something better somewhere else, believe it or not.

    anyways, that is my advice. it’s hard to break a friendship, but it’s rewarding to get rid of the wasteful stuff in your life to leave room for more quality things. things that will help you. :)

  • normalgirl

    in the case of when you have fallen in love with a girl that you barely talk to: if you’re not, sorry the expression, ‘man’ enough to go ask her out or to go talk to her, what makes you think you will be able to take care of her when you can’t even go talk to her and tell her how you feel?

    in the case of when it’s a friend: things do not change when you go from friendship to relationship unless it’s good change. dont expect miracles. relationshpis are work. if she causes you pain already, imagine the pain caused later (example… she will go out with you because of pity, so you’ll be happy at first, but as soon as she finds something she finds amazing, she will leave you hurt even more). if she isnt excited about you now, she probably never will be. the change has to be YOU for YOURSELF and not for others. others will always let you down.

    anwyays, hope this helps.

  • Nyath

    Okay, I was involved with a play over the summer, and, obviously, I met this girl. It was only for about 5-6 weeks, but we’ve become reasonably good friends. However, now the play is over and I don’t really have any way of seeing her again. She definitely enjoys my company, but I don’t know how to ask her out. It just feels awkward to ask via email or through some other online means. What should I do?

  • normalgirl

    there is no way to see her? if there is absolutely no way to see her again, then online is fine. just say something like ‘i enjoyed talking to you during the play. would you like to have coffee some time?’. if there are no other means of communicating, use what is best. she will understand. :)

  • willy

    i am in love with this girl for the past 3 years and we have not kiss for once.she calle her self my girl friend but there is no prof for that.what can i do i really love this girl.help me please

  • normalgirl

    youngerguy, yes yes and yes! one-time things change things. but it doesnt necessarily mean that someone loves that person. i had a guy friend and i NEVER saw him as more than a friend, but then we suddenly ended up alone for a couple hours so our bodies were reacting normally. i fought it, but it is human to be attracted to someone and to want to satisfy our physical desires. i am not saying it is right to fulfil those desires, but it is normal.

    also, when things happen all of a sudden, many other thoughts go out the window (such as you already being in a relationship or married or etc). the body’s sensors are very strong. but it is more fulfilling to let those desires be satisfied with someone who feels the same way about you than you do about them. sex is good with probably anyeone, but just think of the consequences and why you are doing it. i know this is my beliefs, but it makes sense: if you want the best experience with the best state of mind and security and happiness, it is honestly better to wait til marriage. i have learned that the hard way. its like having things on a scale of 100. some things may be 50 but its not 100. its still getting some, but its not 100. its not the best. it takes work for it to be high. work on your part and work on the other’s part.

    anyways, sorry this is long, but i hope this helps.

  • normalgirl

    willy, if both of you feel the same way about each other, it probably will work if you’re both in it 100%. if there are any doubts, it’s better to straighten them out, and if they can’t be fixed, move on. find something better. no one deserves someone who is not equal to them, whether better or worse. see comment 46

  • teris

    good

  • awesomedude

    so i think i am falling for a girl at work and i dont know how to tell her what should i do.

  • awesomedude

    also she is a good christian girl and would not go for anything that isn’t morely right

  • lovablemister

    normalgirl,
    I have known this girl as an aquaintance off and on since grade 12 (its been like a year a bit now since highschool). Now i see her more because i live with her friend. I have become kinda friends with her, like shes come over to hang with my friend and my friend hasnt been here we would small talk it up for a while. And one time when we were both on E with a bunch of friends people needed stuff from my house, so me and her walked up and were like talking for 2 hours…..but this was all when she was in a really wierd open relationship with her boyfriend who i know as well as her and is a good guy….btw sorry this is long, i hope u resond. Anyways, after that night i talked to her for 2 hours i realized i like her a little, and since then im gotten to know her a little more, just cause shes over and hangs with me and my roommates…but yeah, she just moved out of her boyfriends house and is single. I dont wanna like, let her know i like her and have it be akward if she doesnt feel the same way..and then shed prob. tell my roommate and its be one more akward situation. If this hekps with your desion on advice, me and her bf look allike, i dunno, same kinda long hair. and she has said a few time she liked my hair, and a few times she like my tshirt, and then later that night my jacket…..but when she says these things it seems like casual, cause shes nice like that with allot of people…. PLEASE RESPOND, im starting to really like her and dont want to become to much of a friend. thanks normalgirl :)

  • Mo

    Hello
    my name is mosed and i have 21 years old i been with one girl on relationship but she die after 3 month when we start dating when that happen i was 14(but iam still virgan)
    i loved her so much more than any body and i still in love with her
    alot of girl i dont know they told me that you look sexy or cute , there some girl ask me to sleep with them but i always remember my old girl friend and then i dont feel that i wanna make sexual relationship with any girl unless my old love (some girls though me gay)((i just wanna know is i am normal ??))
    Thanks for any advice

  • Troy

    i am madly in love with a girl. and she loved me for a while but i guess it fadded away. we are friends and im still in love with her and cant get her out of my head. but anyway she is starting to like this other dude and i cant stand it. what can i do to win her back?

  • dj

    i got a girl

  • normalgirl

    lovablemister

    You have to communicate! Everything you are feeling or else things will get bad, whether for her, you, or both. Talk to each other about communicating. When she says or does things, talk about it. There are no “complicated” relationships, just lack of communication. Probably almost all problems in relationships come from a lack of communication. If you’re honest and she doesnt feel the same way about you, forget about it. It’s not worth your energy or time to think romantically about someone unless they feel the same way (found out by communication).

    HOpe this helps, lovablemister!

  • normalgirl

    Mo

    Everyone is different. No one person will make you feel like another. There are things to learn from everything and it’s your choice how to take it. Focus on what is helpful for you and forget what other people say. They may give advice, and you could, maybe should, listen, but ultimately, you are the one who makes the choices.

    Ask yourself questions… is holding on to this girl helping me or hindering me? What do I do about it? What can I do to change myself to feel and do what I want?

    Anyways, don’t let people influence you directly. You can think of what you want and make your own decisions based on you and noone else.

    Hope this helps!

  • normalgirl

    Troy,

    Communicate! See my comment #60. Tell her, and if she rejects, let it go. It’s not worth it. You can be friends, but if you feel like you’re too attached, take time off. It helps, believe me.

    :)

  • robert

    i met this girl about 3 months ago and we spend tons of time together. when i told her that i was falling for her. she started out by saying that she really likes me as well, but she then told me she was afraid of getting into a relationship bc she still had a thing for her ex. and she just wants to be friends for the time being. can i get some tips on how to win her heart from the other guy?

  • normalgirl

    robert,

    be yourself! if she thinks you are worth it, good for you two. if she doesnt think you’re worth it, then she’s not worth it for you.

  • victor

    I am in love with a girl who was my friend but she dont love me. After knowing I m in love with her. She breaks my friendship and now not talking with me and hates me. So many time I tried to call and talk with her but she is denying to talk and said me to go police if next time I call her. She is totally hates me. I couldn’t live without her. I need her. So please tell me What to do. How I can start relationship with her. Bcoz she is married. She is talking with all but not talking with me. Please help me. I want her.

  • Carlos

    I had a crush on this girl I met when I was in the 4th grade she was my sister’s best friend well she’s two years older than me. Since I was a boy she told me that she always saw me as a little brother. but once we kissed when I was in the 6th grade it was amazing. But years passed and she had her boyfriends then I went to high school and after I graduated from high school one night I just had to see her just to see if she was still living there because my sister and her won’t friends anymore. so anyways I went to her house walked to the door and called her not expecting to see her but I did she walked out and when I turned around she had a smile I’ve never seen from a person that was so excited to see me before. so she hugged me she didn’t want to let me go. But then when she went back in she came back out but with this little baby boy he was oriental so I knew she had to be with someone. So I asked her if she was married and said no. the baby’s name was Kevin that kid was the sweetest kid. But by seen him I was wondering who was the father she told me that his father had cheated on her and left with another woman. Now that she saw that I wasn’t a little boy anymore we had this attraction instantly. So now we are 9 months in a wonderful relationship. And happy with her if it happened to me then it could happen to anybody sometimes you have to leave the dreams of being with someone so that they one day you will find that someone again and start all over. Thanks you for reading my story.

  • Adrian

    I started working at a warehouse the same day this woman did.
    One day the woman took her daughter and announced she was going to work there too. When I saw her I knew she was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. I wanted to ask her out because of fear of being rejected. I talk to her everyday and sometimes I feel as if she is interested in me, but I know she has a boyfriend because she talks to him on the phone everyday and I heard her say she did. I am going to wait for the right moment to offer her my love. Sometimes it is better to wait for an opportunity to knock at your door. Thanks for reading this story.

  • Kumar

    I am in love with a girl who is much younger than me. Both of us work in same office. We talk each other very freely. Many of the time we share our secrets of love also like whom I loved – whom she loves….. and so on and we behave each other like friends. But i am afraid whether she loves me really or not. Till now I have neither even touched her body nor we have gone to any place like restaurants, parks, or any oter place together. How can I know that she really loves from the core of her heart ? Please help and what should I do to know that she really loves me ?

  • Stokley Riffle

    In 2 years ago… That girl and I been still fell in love for year and later few months she and I went to hockey game chilling and feel I sitting nothing for her WTF! But later 2 months and she said it is over I said what I did wrong and she said me stop around her friends I didn’t I knew it was her ex boyfriend who make up the story to her so she and I never get along as far… I started feel I was nothing left also I never wanted to find another girl. In 2008 now she just join National Guard and probably serve the country… I feel I cannot stop her from this I have to let her going she been in a lot problems lately, but I try care her and I call her almost everyday, but I feel I was as coal mean that can’t do anything and talking… But after 3 months now I in kentucky for year now… I went to Bluegrass Community Technical College also I met one girl is cuter but I talk with her only know her a bit. but I will know her more soon… So it was not easier in my life with loss ex girlfriend of this situation so anyone want know how surivial this situation I know of many things…

  • angelbaby

    i have known this boy since 4th grade..we started dating in 8th we talked for a year everyday we dated on and off never kissed too prude. anyway im in love with him and our last break up was really bad..i just want to know why am i in love with him and does he have the same feelings plz help

  • DSR

    wat rubbish!! Agreed somehow u make a girl fall in love by pretending something you are not, but then she will know what you are and will dump you so deep, you will never stand up again. So guys rather then finding ways to make a girl fall in love, you try to solve the problems in your life which keeps the girls away, like your physique, your succes story..,your brain etc. I mean dont do things only to get a girl, work in general to be a happy and successful man and girls will come as by product all along the way..

    I may be wrong..

  • kalebinlovewithagirl

    well its kinda hard to explain but i really like this girl named lauren..and this is really weird cause it all started with a girl named lauren(a different one) well i knew her for 2 years and the first time i saw her i knew i was in love..then i find out that shes in my class..for a long time and i always backed out of it when i was gonna say something about it…but at the end of the year i found out i was moving..when i told her it was a very emotional day…we both cried and then it came the very last day of school when i would never see her again..and i waited and waited that morning but she never came to school…and i knew that day was possibly the most painful day of my life… i cried almost all day and not just wussy crying but real down from my heart crying…and everytime i think of her i start to cry

  • anderson

    there is this girl in my school am madly in love with her an she knows that, the problem is that there are lots of guys over this girl and my chances of getting her is very slim, but she asked me a little question when i told her my intentions an the question is what am going to do that other guys have not done, the truth is am confused an i need help. just tell me the maddest thing to do to her to make me different from other guys an if am able to do that she would fall for me help me please. thanks

  • manny

    hi I’ve just read this october15,08 all what u said is true because some girl i loved she didn’t like me back. but then when i did not love her she started to fall in love with me and giving me her phone numbers but i ripped it because i don’t like her i like another hot chick know!!

  • james

    a love a girl i don’t know whether she loves me or not. she was a good friend of mine but when she knew that she starts avoiding me. what cam i do to get her back.

  • Gienel Diaz

    Im in love with a girl that hates me and another girl loves me but in not attracted to her so who should I pick? Please help me!

  • dolly

    i joined in degree college i am very talkative with every one in our class one girl is seeing me in hiding way and when she talks with other she likes to see me by side looking one day she talks with me very friendly and next day not but looking unto me will be daily

  • mtaftm

    well I’ve been with this girl for like year and a month now until Sunday, i finished her because i didn’t trust her, now i cant stop thinking about her, I’m trying to sort it out but she says she just wants to have fun, it upsets me a lot, she says she needs to think about it, i think she has already thought about it, any tips on how i can get this girl of my life back out with me i will appreciate it!

  • Don

    Hi everyone,
    i would like to talk to you all and tell you that, love is a huge word and we cant force anyone to love us back.
    girls could be needy sometimes, she will talk to you because she is bored, need something, or maybe she just need to talk. no rush to love a girl and even if you does don’t show her that you love her, act normal and be yourself. It does not worth it to be hurt because of her.
    I have experienced a lot of issues regarding a girl that not interested and nothing from the above words helped to gain the love or any girl. “sorry”
    if a girl will love you, she will without you making an effort, make her feel that you like to talk to he and be with her AND afterword don’t call her much or see her, let her the one comes to you and call, that time be sure that she loves you..
    i would like to help you all, words sometimes heel and help us to come over what we feel.
    i don’t think anyone worth to make anyone else hurt.

    I hope this helped :)

  • Dany

    there is a girl in my class that i really like but im scared that she wont like me back. please if someone can help me please tell me what to do!!

  • Joel

    a lot of this stuff makes sense and umair i definatly agree with u but i cant bring up my self esteem. im a real depressing person. im trying to better myself by smiling more and being happy but ppl dont notice and we dont see eachother much cuz we go to different skools. about value, i dont have value. well at least i think so. all my friends hate me so theres no chance there and i dont work so even less chance there. i dont play sports and well everyway that can bring up value, i dont have. the only thing of value in me is my personality when im happy. but idk w/e :/

  • Trooper-04

    I really like this girl, but i get really nervouse when i’m around her. What should i do?

  • Eddie

    Ok this is my problem I’m in love with this girl you can say but there is this big conflict she also likes me to and shes says I’m 100 times better than her boyfriend she says she rather be with me but shes still in love with this guy we talk all day from the time we wake up from the time we go to sleep if any one can help me with this problem I’m having it will be greatly appreciated.

  • Ollie

    This is my problem, there’s two girls in love with me, but the girl I actually like is the best friend of one of them and I think she only likes me as a friend (and my best friend is getting angry at me because the girl he likes, likes me). Any help with this would be amazing.

  • Taylor

    there is a girl who is gorgeous who i am kinda friends with and have known her since 1st grade, im a junior in highschool now so thats a while. I asked her out to a formal dance and she went with me, but not much has happened after. she is rlly quiet but she does smile at me and say hello with out me having to say hi first. the thing is she just seems hard to reach and difficult to emotionally read. can anybody let me know what they think of my situation

  • daniel

    im daniel tipper i love my girlfriend loads ive been seeing her for nine months and she loves me she sometimes gets moody with me and we row is that natural or are we drifting away please help i dont wanna lose her shes my girl and i love her with all my heart thanks ?

  • Stranger

    there is a girl she’s in my english class and i really like her so much (i think she likes me too) but everytime i try to talk to her i get so nervous ended up sometimes awkward. she’s not the flirty type and i always caught her looking at me make the tension on me much worse… how should i approach her without being nervous at all.? please help.?

  • sexygurl

    hey everybody if all of you are in love and don’t want for the person to know then how are you guys ever going to go out with them. just go for it and be happy with the person you want and like…just remember what doesn’t kill us only makes us stronger!!!

  • Dave

    So I’ve fallen in love with one of the most beautiful girls in the school. We have been friends for a while, but since she is so attractive, i figured she’s out of my league. But after reading this and some of the comments, and seeing it isn’t based on looks alone i found some hope. Does anyone have any extra advice for me?

  • Joel

    hi, i have a problem and i don’t know what to do i really need help. There is one girl i’m in love for about 4 months, let me tell u the story from beginning. about 4 moths ago i went to my friends school because we were going somewhere after and i saw one girl looking at me, she was realy sweet but i didn’t do anything. some other day when i also went to wait for my friends infront of they school i was standing in front of the door from school and than i saw that girl again (before i didnt know she goes in that school) when she was walking closer to doors and out of school she was looking me strait in my eyes and she was beautiful i again didn’t do anything. i started to fall in love with her it is strange cause i didn’t even met her but somehow when i see her and when she is around im all shaking and my heart is hitting like crazy, like it will explode, let me continue my story. then i came few more times to school to wait my friends and than one day i showed her to my friend and told him to try ask a little in school and get me her number and i also told to him if he don’t get the number i will come to her and talk to her. he didn’t get her number and i needed to go to her, im not good at that cause i never before did that cause only girl i want is the one i really like and with that one is hard because u are scared what will she say and … so i started to walk with 2 of my friends behind her, she was with at least 5 of her friends(girls) i was thinking how to do it ad than she stopped at some “bar” to buy ice cream with her friends and my friend told me go inside and buy her ice cream or something. i didn’t know what to do than my friend told me say “hi do u give me your number” i thought yea right but i told him ill go to her and than i started to move to her and her friends thinking ill just pass by them and i wont say nothing, but just the moment i was passing them by i stopped turn to her and sad “hi do u give me your number” that is really stupid i know. than she said (somehow shy) why what do u need it for, and i started with well… and than one of her friends involved and said she is still teenager like we all are, and than i said bye and leave them. Than i found her at Facebook and wrote her a message that i am sorry for that i was stupid like that and that i would like to meet her. she added me to friends and answered my message with “where do i know u from…” i answered u don’t but i would like to meet u. than there was nothing. and after some time i decided that i need to talk with her when there are no her friends around. she lives somewhere close to me and we go on same bus when i go on training on Monday evening so i decided to come to her and talk. first when i came to her i started shaking and my heart was beating crazily but i came to her and sad somthing like do u have a moment i want to talk to u. she said ok. and first i apologized for i was idiot when i first time came to her and she said ok. than i asked her will she like to go with me to have coffee or something with me sometimes and she said to me that i am too old for her i said ok and I left. that night i cried all night, but there is more. about week after that my good friend helped me to make a new message i send her on Facebook. It was something like i would like to meet u … but she answer on it with “wrong person i don’t know who are u …” since than i didn’t do anything i have seen her when i came to her school to wait for my friends she just looked at me and nothing… i know that we haven’t told our names to each other jet but it is just like when i look in to her eyes i see all beauty of this world i see good girl good person and i love her i cant stop thinking about her, i need help pls tell me what to do…

  • *shouldn’t know*

    u never know if they like u or not unless u try i thought a girl hated me that i loved but they didn’t they loved me to which feels the best trust me it is worth it to go for it :D:D:D

  • *shouldn’t know*

    u never know if they like u or not unless u try i thought a girl hated me that i loved but they didn’t they loved me to which feels the best trust me it is worth it to go for it :D:D:D

  • arun

    i love a girl who is studying in my class.iam an engineering 1st year student aged 18.we are good friends.i told my love towards her through a letter. she read the letter along with her another friend.they were smiling while reading the letter.after reading she just teared the letter. she told that she never expected this from me. she told that she always considered me as her best friend. but i wants her as my lover.so please anyone help me………..

  • ltsos4

    i love a girl at school who i know for 3 years. She likes to read and likes to experince new thing. i sometimes talk to her but we never hang out and i don’t know how to ask her out. so please anyone help me

  • danglezzz

    well, my gf broke up with me bout a month ago, 3 months and all lies, but its happened before so i shook it off easy. but anyway. just guys you need to just talk to her, if you try too hard it wont work. go with the flow. and the girl i have a crush on now, i went to after that other ***** broke my heart, and my esteem was low, but then it just got back up to high. just talk to them IM,Texting, Phone, in person, it all works. you wont get anywhere with just sitting around and looking at her from afar. Just approach, conversation, AIM SN or #. Or you could just be friends for a while and you know have that feeling grow, thats where im at. and if at first it doesnt seem like anythings happening, just give it time stuff doesnt happen over night and you have to show her your interested. smilling, and flriting are the easiest ways.

    hope it helps

  • Ally Ally Ally

    ummm well i was like a guy who said that there is no pure love in teenage.. but i felt in a love with a girl in my college.. and i m a teenager my age is 18.. she is always with her best friend (girl).. she haven’t talk to any one in our college.. and i was in love when i saw her first time.. i haven’t chat her.. plzz help me to how to be her freind first please.. i want to chat her.. but i couldn’t make it.. cause she dont speak to any other guy in our clg.. that makes me fear..!!! plzzz plzzzz help guys!!! i need a guru rite now!!!! :(

  • jonny

    like every1 else on this thing, i love a girl, we dated for like 2 months but then she broke up wit me, she said she still likes me but she doesnt like relationships and wont be ready for one for a long time. she said i should forget she ever existed but i cant i really love, her i think about her all the time she is really beautiful n i’m scared if i wait some1 else will sweep her off her feet

  • Haytham

    Every girl is a different case, dont hear anyone’s suggestions, you know better guys, no one knows whats going on in a girls tiny head.

  • unknown

    some of this are true and some not, because love come from the heart, there noway to make a girl loves u in these ways except if she was looking for the same thing.

    This my comment and i hope to be right because these days whom found the real love, He will be really lucky.

    -Unknown-

  • Jeff

    Normally… I never date someone, but I met a nice girl and was attracted to her… which is another thing that happens to me rarely. I don’t easily get attracted to someone, and I don’t know why it happened, but it did.

    So, for two months now I’ve been talking with her. She isn’t quite so interested with me as I am in her, and that for one irritates me. Me being someone who doesn’t take interest in people often. I recently asked her out on a date and for her phone number. She blatantly refused me and left instantly. :/

    I realize that I should not push her for it, but… me being so fascinated with her, I pressed her for the knowledge anyways. I know, I’m an idiot. I realize my mistake there. But that is not up for discussion, what I want to know is… since she has pretty much ignored me for the past four days, she must be pretty pissed with me. I promised her that I would never intentionally hurt or piss her off. Maybe that was a bad thing to say, but I got the effect that I desired, she smiled and told me I wasn’t like many other guys… I sat there with an awkwardly bemused look on my face, and she said that it was a good thing though.

    Anyways, she hates me now… I have no phone to contact her with. She has deleted me from her friends online and blocked me from instant messaging as well as email… However, she does frequent a chat room on occasion, sometimes I show up there, but I never say anything. She has told me herself that she hates me, but I know I can fix what I did wrong, I just need to know how and what I should do to fix the trust I had with her… she’s a hard person to trust, she has trust issues from bad family problems… I feel desperately in need of her companionship again. What should I do?! Please help me… :(

  • o.

    I’m in love with this girl that i think used to like me. but now she acts like i dont exist. there was definitely heat, i could feel it. this article kinda helped, cuz i do feel like when im around her i suffer from a lapse in confidence. My knees turn to jello, and everytime i see her face time turns back to what used to be. We often make eye contact, especially over long distances. What do you think the best way for me to approach her would be considering my rare, but serious self esteem issue? Thanks

  • Wilson

    I love this girl. On valentine day i bought her A LOTS of chocolate and put it in a box which make it special! After that when she receive the gift she don’t feel happy,when our class is over she rejected my present and wanted to give it back. Can you tell me what to do after what happen today! She took the present in the end because i told her that is a gift from me, it doesn’t mean anything.

  • me

    So I meet this girl a few months ago,We kinda hit it off at first. Then she pulls the I think we should just be friends.
    Then she starts sendin me pic’s. So things kinda pick back up, then she tells ne thst she thinks of as a brother (just slit my throught Y don’t cha) But she calls me every day, she’s the first person I talk to every day & the last every night. & she just wants to be friends? ( man am i confussed)
    & not only that how do u tell a girl that u don’t want her as a friend cuz u would rather her be u’r girlfriend ?

  • Steven

    this girl said she likes me, fancey’s me , and we get on like its love but she has a boyfriend and a baby.(exampal) like its happen a cople time were shes said i feel like doing it but cant coz of her boyfriend and its killing me in side that i cant express, iv told her how i feel but wot should i do plesae give me something i feel like my hart is breaking bit by bit my heads all messed up ? help me

  • Lucas Brocchetti

    me and this girl were going out. and she thought i was being to serious.so she broke u with me. she said she wanted a brake and maybe we will go out in the future. but she wont say how long it will be until we do go back out. she says she still loves me but she is just scared. its been two weeks and i am still deeply in love with her. what do i do????

  • gemma armstrong

    i am in love with another girl but i am a girl myself and i dont know what to do .. she said that she used to be bisexual but now she is not and its completely breaking me apart .. i love her soo much and i have told her bout this but she said that she was glab i told her and it just ended there .. !! ever since i have told her i feel the tinest bit closer to her but i want to know what she might be thinking .. can you help mee .. ?

  • Ritz

    i am in love with a girl…but i dont know tht she loves me or not..she also likes me as a friend..we are together in same office..but located at different places..so cant get interacted due to work load…whenever i ask her to go for a break she never comes and later on she goes alone or sometime with her collegue(she). she is a very ambitious girl..she has never discussed with me about her aims in her life…and dont want to ask her directly bcoz i dont want her to misunderstand me…please guide me how should i approach her..

  • Jake

    I’m in love with a girl but I’m not sure if she loves me back. We talk about how we like each other and we ask questions about each other all the time and it seems like we are close to perfect for each other and two nights ago we went to her friends house and we watched movies and we were holding hands and cuddling and then i pulled a move and made out with her and right after that i had to leave and she gave me a kiss when i left but then yesterday when i got to school it almost seemed like she was avoiding me i didnt even get a chance to give her a hug and i know that shes a girl that likes the guy to take control but how am i supposed to do anything if she doesn’t give me a chance. i really like her and today i asked her friend if she likes me and she said that she does a lot but i dont know she hasnt texted me like at all today and i need help SOMEONE PLEASE ANSWER ME !!!!

  • Verone

    Jake, that girl u love probably just dunno how to face you after what had happened…. some girls will be nervous after making out…give her some time or perhaps go to her and start talking to her…make sure u dun start with the “make out” topic….

  • arjun

    I love a girl but i want to tell my love to her pls help me…………!

  • stanley

    i met this guy in school and i liked him so much.but on getting to know him better.he introduced me to his girlfriend only for me to fall in love with her.
    i cant just help my self its killing softing each time i realise i am not going to have her.

  • B RYE

    I love this girl but she just hooked up with her crush. Every time I want to ask her to the dance or something I get to nervous. She lives 97 miles away from her crush and they text alot, I think she like likes me but I’m not sure.

    HELP!

  • persondude

    ok im in mad love with this girl and she keeps rejecting me no matter what i do im so nice and kind to her i make her laugh all the time and i give her the world but she always says no please tell me what is a good thing to say to them

  • englishandbook

    I have this girl that I’m really attracted not just physically but also from her personality, but unfortunately I always been struggling to make her laugh and finding interesting discussion or topics, and lately it seems like she start to avoiding me, even while chatting she often times doesn’t give any respond and just leaving me behind. This have drive me quite crazy to be truthful..

    If anyone have solution: please help me, thx.

  • kris

    i have liked this girl and she likes me but shes going with another guy but she really likes both of us

  • Unkown

    Seriously, i need help, my issues are mostly getting her to respond me, i just feel that shes avoiding me, or just not really chatful around me.. . pls. i lost my skill around girls, used to mess with girl, and was good at it, untill now, i guess shes the one for me. :( i really like her, and idk what the hell to do, i try to pretend that im fun or all that, doesn’t work, it feels that she knows my history…. !

  • Iris Lover

    i like this girl named Iris in my class, yea she started avoiding me when she found out. but she often stares at me for like ten sec when i am not watching ( i figured out when i was doing some class work when i noticed her staring at me) it has happened a lot of times. But many people likes her to! So i would like to know if she likes me too?

  • desesperado99

    I fell for a girl. The first time I met her I thought she was beautiful. She was very different from me. She is very outgoing and loves to have fun and dance. After she broke up with my friend my other friend (who i am going to name Fred) I got us to talk I was not interested in dating her very badly at first but that day we talked I got her number. The next day she told me she liked me and I said I thought she was beautiful.

    After Fred found out we liked each other, he told her he liked her which i thought was really messed up. After that she didn’t want to go out with me b/c i was friends with him.The thing is we had been talking to each other for a week and i was hooked to her. Weeks went by and i was telling her the most romantic things I could think of and some i couldn’t think of (which means they came out of nowhere). I found out her favorite flowers are carnations and i told her my favorite flowers are her. I made her a video with a song that matches how i feel about her and apologizing after i completely ignored her one day. She loved it. She told me i made her cry with this video.

    After i tried to ask her if she liked me again she said as a friend and that she wasn’t going to date anyone this year. The fact is i didn’t give up which was very different in my case. Then not to long ago she started dating someone. I was beyond heartbroken. I told her that what she did wasn’t right. Apparently i made her cry all the way to Fred’s house. After some hours i told her i loved her and that was going to change. I couldn’t stop myself from calling her again so we talked for hours and now shes going with me to my senior prom. The thing is I still feel the same for her. Please tell me what i should do to make her open her eyes to me again b/c i don’t want to lose her.

  • Donovan

    Stanley just ask the chick out i remember when i asked my chick i was so nervous but i asked and it turned out good and she also had a boyfriend

  • Ryan

    I am totally in love with a friend of mines girl. He is a total asshole to her and it makes me so angry the way he talks to her. When he makes her cry I just want to hold ger and tell her everything will be ok but I cant. I think she likes me a little because we all slept in the same bed when I took her to see her parents in Arkansas and she would cuddle with me all night. I just want to know how to win her over.

  • Joshua

    I was in love with this girl for 3 yrs, she was from my hometown but I moved and lived 7 hours away. We hardly talked, got to see her when i came to town and she was hanging around the same friends. i then moved back home to work at the family business. She had a bf, but he worked out of town. One of my first nights at the local club, she asked me to go to the drive in. We have been boning ever since and she has broke up with her boyfriend. What a great story, we also tell each other we love each other. Her ex wants to beat me up, but i have 3 brother and lots of friends, so he doesnt do anything, just gets better, we are now engaged.

  • Joshua

    ryan – try and get in the same bed with her again, bu instead of being the good friend, kiss her ever so softly, when she isnt looking cup a quick feel, it will drive her crazy

  • steve

    i am falling for a girl, but i am not sure if she likes me.
    i think she does but i’m not sure.
    i only see her once or twice every week, but when i do it’s amazing. unfortunately i’m not gaim enough to ask her out because i dont know if she likes me, how do i be sure that she likes me.

  • Arman

    i like a girl ok? it seems that she doesn’t want me.she says that she have someone but I’m not sure.i said her that i want her but she changed her behavior and she talked to me like a stranger after that she doesn’t talk to me any more. What should I do???

  • charlie

    There is this girl i like. she is the girl of my dreams but i don’t think she likes me. we sometimes talk but i don’t know what to do. she likes me as a friend but i have a mole on my face by my left eye and she will not go out with me because of it. i need help now

  • chris

    Hello, u think u could help me? Well here’s my story. i feel in love with a girl that we i spent almost all the time together, yes were happy, i like her and i was sure that she like me, i give her gifts, i told her i love her and i ask her out and she said no, i keep on trying to make her love me and i felt depressed and now i know that’s wrong, but i know she likes me but she wont go out with me. can u help me

  • Ged

    Help me guys…I love a gal too much….she is my best friend..but when i proposed to her she just completely rejected it..she is afraid whether i will cheat her [as she is ma best friend i have told her about my previous gal friends and how i cheated them ].but these gal i love truly and i can’t live without her..plz help me out guys

  • zacal

    I’m in love with this girl, and she’s had a boyfriend for a while. Before him, we went out but I broke up with her because of some problems with my sister. Although she has a bf, we’ve hung out, kissed, and always have a good time around each other. She also says she really does love me. I’ve tried everything I can think of to show her I’m the guy she should be with. Please give any ideas you have.

  • Chase

    Ok so i LOVE this girl but she has a boy friend and she really likes him and she likes me a little and i always do everything that it says to do in that paragraph I’m funny and I’m happy what do i do now?? Should i keep talking 2 her and keep being my self and pray that everything works out????

  • Chase

    Yo zacal im in the same situation just keep flirting wit the girl and be ur self..i hope it all works out for the both of us

  • confused guy

    Ok theres a girl that i admire, and would do anything to get a date with! We are good friends, and talk all of the time, but i dont know how to try to make her like me the way i do her. She is great and accels at everything she does, and is a little out of my league. Is there anything i can do to start impressing ladies and getting mroe dates?????

  • KEITH

    I love a girl on facebook and do not know what to do.To be honest i am shy and fears that she won/t like me

  • damain

    hi guys.

    i have a problem
    i sometimes get nervous when i speak o a girl and that makes me sweat. i hate it when that happens

    What can i do?

  • Adam

    i love a girl, i loved her more than three years, i send her to msg that I am telling my love, it was before a year she didn’t answered my msg up to now. i don’t know whether she love me or not. and I am not around i mean i live another country so what can i do ? and even i cant forget her once . she is my life.

  • Nathan

    help me guys…i love this girl..she is my best friend but when i proposed to her she rejected it, she told that she was afraid to our friendship . . . .i love this girl . . Please help!

  • blake

    right for all of you
    ask the girl out if she says no
    thats it, its a no
    its better than waiting years for her to make a move
    just ask her
    the worst that’ll happen is she will say no and stop talking to you
    but really you wouldnt live just being her friend
    so its an all or nothing kind of thing.

  • stephen

    First off, you all need to know one things about people or girls for this instance… they are all not the same and they all think different the one’s that always want that hot guy with long hair.. and are tall .. is what pisses you off cause ur not that guy.. but as for me when i date a girl and i ask her if she likes a guy like that.. they say yes.. that’s what all girls want but then she comes around and says but they’re not as good as you.. well that’s just bull .. she told me what she wants.. so i leave her… and tell her to go find it.. if she doesn’t want me then fine.. bye

  • Mendel

    Hello! I love a girl too. and I really like her for 2 years now. I already send him a millions of messages. But she”s not answering my letters. Pls help me

  • Jason T.

    hi, well i was talking to this girl for little over 2 weeks and i thought she liked me and i have been hinting it to her all the time then come to find out she tells me that she has a boyfriend that i dont know about and that she wants to be friends and not my girlfriend but the way she looks in my eyes i know it could be more than that, i dont get why she wants to be friends when i treat her better than her boyfriend and i really have feelings for her.. any advice??

  • Marshall B.

    OK well here it is….
    I’m deeply and i mean DEEPLY in love with this girl and i can tell she kinda likes me but I’m moving soon but not very far and the farthest ill be away from her is 45 minutes and apparently that’s too far for her, plus I’m not moving for 2 months at the least, oh and i might add that i already live half an hour away from her at this moment in time, so yeah it would be GREATLY appreciated if you could help me on this

    Thanks,
    Marshall B.

  • Justin

    Well there’s a girl that I’ve been in love with for like a year and a half now but she only considers me as family..I don’t know what to do I’ve told her my feelings and everything and I’m always there for her wen shes down and so far shes been with like 6 or 7 other people and its frustrating seeing these people hurt her and they all try to use her and I’m not like that i want her for right reasons and i would never hurt her..one friend says she says its because i act too depressed or “emo” sometimes and another has said that she thinks I’m not attracting but in her words she said she loves me as family..and i don’t want another girl and like 3 people told me just to find someone else but i don’t want any one else so am i just screwed out of the girl of my dreams or is there something i can do to change her mind about me?

  • Jenna

    okay, all you guys out there. Im a pretty attractive girl and i know exactly what girls see in guys.
    1) Easy to talk to
    It makes getting along so easy and makes me WANT to talk

    2) Confidence.
    Be confident, and you’ll get what you want ;)
    And BTW, looks arent as important for girls, just try your best.

  • gary wright

    i been with a girl for six months and she used to date a friend of mine… but she is starting to show her true colours she is a very negative induvidual and has alot of anger inside of her but i cant leave her alone

  • Sandra

    I can say this for a fact; you do not have to be attractive in order to have someone fall in love with you, it all comes down to who you are and how others feel when they are around you (as stated above).

  • Nick

    1 month ago my girlfriend gave me the boot. I dated her for 1.4 years and always treated her like a queen. I must give myself credit on my manners, and for that I am proud of myself. After our break-up I never called her again, nor did she call me. Never knew the reason why she kicked me to the curb. It hurt!! But I never let her know. I am 34 and she is 32. Today is June 1st, 2009 and I received a free annual pass to the San Diego Wild Animal Park by mail from her. That is the last place I took her to the day she broke up with me. We never fought through our relationship.
    A week after my ex broke up with me I met another woman all by a mere coincidence. We began dating right away. I am currently dating this new girl, but my ex constantly pops up in my mind. The new girl I am seeing is much more beautiful (long straight black hair, beautiful asian eyes, light complected, big ol’ round but, 130 lbs, 5′ 6″ you get the picture), but that’s not important when you’re in love with a girl as I was with my ex. The new girl gets mad very easy and I don’t like that. I’ve been treating this new girl no different than my ex…WONDERFUL! I just got back from an Ensenada/San Diego/Catalina Island Carnival Cruise. It seems like she really likes me, but she gets mad too easy over the little things in life. If my ex came back, I would be extremely upset at her for having given me the boot for no reason. I wonder what the reason was. That’s the only thing I want to know. I would not lie to my ex about the new girl that I am seeing for there is nothing wrong that I am doing. I would let my ex know how bad she hurt me. That’s all I want to know…WHY DID SHE LEAVE????? It’s killing me to call her, or just go over her house to find out WHY??? But then that would not be fair to the new girl I am dating. The new girl tells me that she is very lucky to have me, but if she really meant this, then she would not have a fit over the little things in life so easy.

  • Ismail

    Hi I’ve been in love with a girl for 5 years. We never talked to each other but i expressed my love to her and told her that how much i love her but she doesn’t respond to me still when ever we have eye contact she say nothing to me i think she have a soft corner for me (i think) please help me out i really love her and doesn’t want to lose her.

  • Sanky

    I crazily love a girl for the past 2 years and i think she loves me too but due to her conservative minded parents she stepped back. But i cant think of living without her. She is something that i cant afford to lose. Plz help me in this situation.

  • Ryu

    anybody please help me. i love a girl. but she never talk to me nor asked me anything. everytime i start the conversation she always ends it very quickly.
    it seems that she hates me. but i realy-realy love her.
    i am not ugly nor poor. what should i do?

  • Emily

    I like this guy a lot. I started to get over him but then he started talking to me which made me fall back in love. we talk briefly sometimes and have walked home together. i feel really awkward because I’m not super ugly but a little overweight. I feel like he sees only that. hes not a super close friend but even though i don’t know him well ive liked him for 2 yrs. can a guy give me any tips on how to tell a guy that u like him w/o actually telling him? guys ideas of flirting are so different then girls.

  • ishraat

    i always doubt girls at first as sometimes they reply strangely my sms! This made me think she is with someone else in the beginning! Its always like that until break up! Always problems!

  • Pozo

    I like this girl a lot. But it seams that she don’t have that same feeling. when we are making love, she frowns her face until we are through. One night she and i met on the street and we discuss to meet at her house later on. later that night, i went to her house stay there there until late by 11:00 pm, so i decided to leave for home than desired to give her a little cash for food for the next day. Turns out, I accidentally gave her too much and then asked for it a little of it back. From that time i did not call her. But i am still in love with this girl. What can i do. Please tell me.

  • Alex

    Alright. I hope someone can help me with this. I have a friend who is a girl. We met a long time ago and since then we’ve been friends. We talk regularly. Just the other day, went over to her house and we went from talking to making out, to having sleeping together. Now ever since i met her I’ve been in love with her. I’ve told her about how i feel and she feels the same way about me. But i have a gf right now and my friend is in this screwed up open relationship. She tells me that she loves him but at the same time loves me to. It seems like she wants to be with me but i don’t know what to do. I love this girl very much and would do anything to who her over. What should i do?

  • Drake

    Dude, if u want a girl don’t go all mushy on her and tell her your feelings, girls hate that. And don’t be afraid to put her in her place sometimes, remember YOU are the man of the relationship, not her. Grow a sack and act like a man. Don’t be an mean though, just be a little assertive.

  • Chris Calo

    Alex: Listen, if you already cheated on your current girlfriend, then just end it because it’s obviously not going to work out. That’s the first step.

    After that, go after this girl you like and if it’s meant to be, it will happen. Otherwise, keep on searching for love.

    Drake: Well said.

    Pozo: Don’t give her cash for food… if you’re buying her love, then you’re doing it wrong. It sounds to me as if she’s sleeping with you because it’s convenient rather than enjoying it. I’d start by reading up on some seduction material (Start with Double Your Dating), and then getting yourself a girlfriend that will appreciate you for who you are.

    Emily: Telling him that you like him works… sometimes he just doesn’t know or is shy as well. You’re going to have to turn up the romance and playfulness if you’re going to get anywhere with him. Just increase physical contact until you’re both kissing and if he likes you, it will happen. I suppose you could indicate interest in another guy and make him jealous, but it would be better if you simply were more direct. Just don’t put yourself down!

    Ryu: If she ends conversations early, then it’s likely that you have a LOT of learning to do because I’m sure the conversation is awkward. Don’t put yourself down though, everyone has to start somewhere and it’s good that you have the will to walk up to a girl you love. I’d recommend you start by developing your conversation skills by talking to a LOT of people. I don’t know, but it sounds as if your social skills need to be improved. Like anything else, it’s just practice. If you want a couple ideas on how to start conversations, I have some good articles here or you could check out David Deangelo’s stuff, it’s good.

  • kyle pce

    If u think u have strong feelings for your girlfriend but cant tell her because its very early into the relationship. How can i hint it or show it with out saying it or revealing it totally so i can see if she feels the same or so i don’t scare her

  • MARIO

    Girl just love attention. They always try to see what you can give them first, then they decides if u should be given a chance.

  • donsergio

    hello,

    about 10 weeks ago, i met a fantastic girl, shes very pretty, cute, funny and we get on like a house on fire. we met at a barbeque at my hall of residence and then i saw her again 2 nights afterwards. i live in chile, but hang around a massive contingent of foreigners. after the third time i met her we spent the whole night chatting in the club, because i was trying to get with her, but it did not happen. the next day we chatted on facebook for a good 6 hours, and i started liking her. soon, we started spending a lot of time together and chatting a lot and i fell in love with her. the problem is that she’s on exchange over here, and she’s traveling now, but is back in chile for only a week (having written that my heart just sank) before she returns to england to finish her course. i fell in love with her about a month ago, and was terrified that i was never going to get with her ever, but last week a got with her, and went to bed immediately. the reason why i didnt dare to get with her earlier, is of course because of our group, the fact that i’m 18 and she’s 21 (she always said that she had never been with anyone younger than her in her life) and i’d rather have as a friend than no-one at all in my life. since last week we’ve being going out and sleeping together. i don’t stop thinking about her and its tearing me apart. i’m very inexperienced in the whole field of love although i have slept around a lot and have lead a very hedonistic lifestyle involving sex, drugs and alcohol; i just haven’t met anyone so amazing. i have been in relationships, but always either open or short-lived. when i finally hooked up with her i had to end it with a girl i was seeing, who hates me now since i broke her heart. i feel like a complete asshole for doing so, because she lives in my house and now just completely avoids me. lastly, she’s back in a few days and i have never said the words “i love you” to anyone who were not my parents or best friends when drunk or on ecstasy. this girl has really changed my life even only knowing her for a mere decimal of my young life. i’ve changed the way i dress, i haven’t taken any illicit drugs, i’ve gone to the gym religiously and i’ve realised what lies ahead in life: that it’s not all about getting f***ed nor sleeping with anyone. i have had such a wonderful time the last two years of my life, but it can’t go on forever, especially when my parents fund it. the worst part of it all is that i set myself up for disaster, in other words an imminent heartache. i know that she feels the same way. i just needed to tell some random strangers that and let it out, but i need advice on how i’ll tell her i love her and how to tolerate the heartbreak when she goes. i also don’t want to go back to my old ways and habits (last night i went out with my friends, and i didn’t enjoy it much because she wasn’t there, although i danced with a lot of attractive girls, i didn’t want to have anything to do with them, so i decided to leave early.)

    much love x

  • ryan

    This is smart i was just in a break up and i would do any thing to have her back

  • peterfemi

    i have a girl friend, i like the girl so much that each time say fought me, i will not sleep for that night. And i also sensed that she is so interested in me but each time i ask that did she loves me she says “YES” but we can’t be together. now have to stop telling that again because is some how embarrassing to me. So what can i do to make her fall in love with me because i really want her?

  • Muneeb

    I love this girl, and i know she probably likes me back. But what you said was true, talking to much to a girl will give her less chances of liking you. That’s what happened to me. And all i want is to repair that. I will strongly appreciate any help

  • Edwin

    Well I really like this girl, and I think about her all the time. And since I’m really good at art I give a lot of my drawings. We don’t really talk much but I have never felt like this ever before with anyone else. But lately we haven’t really been taking, before we grew silent with eachother she had told me she only wants to be friends but I want more. I’ve been really getting to know her bestfriend, who is also gorgeous. And right now I can’t choose which one to go to. Can you please help me in this situation.

  • K

    I really like this girl.
    She and I went out one morning and she sent me all these mixed signals…I text her n now she won’t text me back!
    Like EVER! why??

  • Nelson

    well ive been talking to this girl for two weeks i really started to like her she broke up with her ex and it was a bad break up she still has feelings for him,but at the same time has feelings for me too.She just recently told me she cant talk to me because its not fair for me but i like her but i dont want to wait around like a rebound guy but i still want to talk to her what do i tell her

  • John

    I love this girl alot and she says she loves me too were not going out but we do everything a couple would do and whenever im with her alone shes confident and when were with friends shes shy and seems like she dosent want anything to do with me. What does this mean? And whenever i ask her out she says she dosent want a serious relationship, is that a sign she dosent want to date what does that mean?

  • John

    We make out and hold hands and everything but like she always teases me and leads me on tho and she hates when i flirt with other girls and gets jealous when i talk about them. I’m not the greatest good looking guy I’m kinda of fat. I don’t know what to do though, help me out?

  • S.SUNIL KUMAR

    hi, actually i have now come across a girl whom i fell is the most reliable person in the world for me. the first time i looked at her, i became totally crazy for. now i feel , i cannot live without seeing her. I don’t know how to propose her. i feel free to talk to other girl , when it comes to my dream girl I have a difficult time talking to her. I don’t know what to do other than thinking of her. I am scared , whether i will miss her in my life. If so , i have no hope to live in this world without her. I am literally crying inside me what to do to tell her my love. Please help me in getting my loved one!

  • zack not my real name

    hey guys! ive read all your comments, to make a girl fall in love, all you need to do is make her feel happy when your there, by caring for her, if your not that attractive, you could use your humor by making her laugh, girls find funny guys attractive and confidence, they find it attractive, and all you need to have to make a girl fall in love is patience, courage, confidence, good hygiene, make your clothing style a lil bit stylish lol, good luck guys!

  • benneth

    thanks to john…it’ll help me a lot for the one i love..

  • Benard

    I’ve had this girl, I love her very much, but she is saying, we should break up and be just friend.

  • cody

    so i love this girl and she knows that i do and i’ve liked her since 2004 and i told her that but all she said to me was your like a brother to me. and i was like OK so..if you didnt think of me a brother would you go out with me?? because i really thought she liked me because she would ask me before anybody else and get rides with me before anybody else… but i guess not then she got a boyfriend and nothing changed but one day we all went to the movies and he was like Hey Cody do you like her and i was like yea more than you know man.. but then he was like you should ask her out. but i was like but you to are going out wouldnt that be kinda stupid. and he was texted her and was like i think so should go out with cody..i mean her BF told her to go out with me but all she said was he is like a brother…….so my question is how do i get her to like me back and sorry for the long story

  • jon

    I really like this girl who occasionally we hook up but i feel like im way more into her then she is into me. I feel like i always have to talk to her or shes going to move on what should i do to make her like me more? am i trying to hard?

  • Jomai

    I have this girl but i don’t know how to make her fall in love with me! Sometimes i approach her i don’t know what to say. I don’t know, it feels like your going explode as if your heart is beating faster and faster. If only I could just make her feel the love I have for her!

  • whatevername

    hahahaha i can see many problems here but for me the best solution is JUST BE YOURSELF, if you dont know what to do if shes there then just try act normaly….

    oh yeah whatevername!

  • Desmond

    I seriously in love with this pretty girl i met in high school, I didn’t have much to do with her the first because i was afraid of telling her how i do feel for her. Well i had that chance to know she was also interested in me in the final year in high school and just a month to complete. I did tell her i feel for her. She also expressed hers and actually said it was too late and she is in a relationship with a guy for three months. I didn’t give up just like that. I was always buying her gifts and trying to let her watch love movies on my phone.

    After high school, i did ask her to come visit me and she did. on that very day i did express how i do feel for her and actually we neatly did have sex. but it didn’t happen and since then i have been calling every morning afternoon and evening and even planning for our next meeting. But the problem is she told me we should be friends and that she can’t stand being in a two relationship and also she just can’t leave the other guy because he hasn’t done everything bad to her.

    Guys i really love this girl and i can’t take my mind off her always dream at night and having day dreams too.

    Help me my friends, what do you think i should do to win her heart?

  • g-dee

    i dont know how to make a girl fall in love with me and how i can be a good seducer
    HELP

  • yinka

    this is a great work that make feel am to go and confront my lady that i have been fair of since 3 years ago and her love still with me. kudos to you

  • jack

    i really like this girl but dont think she likes me i asked her out but she didn’t say a thing.

  • vicki

    nice suggestions thanks

  • Ethan

    i need help. I have known this girl for a very long time and she knows that i like her. but she is never single and im usually always single. she is the most amazing person i have ever met. i dont know what to do. can anyone help me plz….i just want to be with her. she makes me happy.

  • hayat rasid

    i love a girl and she loves me but the problem is that we’re from different countries. I miss her too much and how can i make her sure that i am loving her till the end and i want to get marriage with her and another problem is that her family is very rich and i am from a middle class family. Wow to make them to accept me and give her hands to me because i really love her and i can live without her and even i know that she can’t live without me. Please help!

  • shuby

    there’s a girl i love but she is very studious and thinks i would be a hindrance and my friends told her i like her so she told i already have a bf but i don’t think so and i want to express the feelings i have for her please please help
    thank u

  • Jim

    Love is tough guys. Don’t let anyone kid you. Sometimes though… it has to do more with other things rather than love. Think about it… While your with the person, you don’t feel anything but if they dump you, you cry like a baby.

    Again, a guy “loves” a girl and the feeling is somewhat strong, but they never do anything about it. Then one day they can never see each other again and you cry like a baby again.

    Is it really love or is it regret? Is it the fact that you took the other person for granted until they were gone. I think that’s the greatest love lesson…. never take anything for granted because when it’s gone, you will kick yourself. If you do all you can for the people you love, if they break your heart you can take solace in the fact that you truly did your best.

  • Chris Calo

    I completely agree Jim.

    Love is tough, sometimes you only realize how much you loved someone when they are no longer with you.

    I think there’s a difference between love and regret, but you won’t regret much if you didn’t have love in the first place.

    Sometimes the only thing you can do is just trust in the universe to reunite you with your love.

  • alexvela

    I’m in love with a very pretty social girl, she knows everybody in town, always smiling and mostly of the time with guys. The first time I saw her I went to ask for a job at the bakery were she works, she saw me there, and then after 2 weeks I met her through my friend in a bar, it was a concidence, but I don’t think she remembered me from the bakery, 3 weeks after, she lended the car to my friend, and he asked me to go and pick the keys from her in the bakery, so I did, she gave me her phone number in case something bad happend, the next day I called her to ask her were can we meet to return her the car, she said just to leave it on her garage with the keys inside, it’s been 3 days and I’m dying to meet her again, is the girl of my dreams,…what can I do? I don’t whant to call her by the phone becouse she know I have her number, so she must be expecting me to call her, like all guys do…she’s always with guys, and she flirts all the time..ohh yes,, she has my phone number, should I wait for her to call me if she really likes me??

  • Chris Camara

    I’m in love with..my best friend. An obvious choice in my account seeing as though she’s been there for me since day 1. We knew each other for 4 to 5 years, and it feels as though were closer…but I know that were really not that close at all. She says that she loves me, but she doesn’t love me in that sense. I’m in love with her, but she doesn’t understand what it truly means to love someone. She’s dated more than her fair sure of guys, and I just watch in the sidelines wishing that I could be attended to. It feels selfish of me to say something like that, but I feel as though if I care about something so much, then I shouldn’t keep it quiet. She knows that I’m in love with her, but…she can’t do anything about it. She knows she can’t, and in a way its tearing me apart. I should move on yes, but its kind of hard to when you had such strong feelings for this person for years. I just can’t move on like that. For every guy that she dates, I kind of feel as though there better than me….like the quote “What does he got that I don’t got”
    Its stupid really, I don’t like to whine or anything, and I refuse to torture anyone over this matter
    I decided to endure this very strangling emotion and just be happy for her, that’s the only thing I can do. I’m grown up now…nearing the age of 21, I can’t just act like a baby and whine about this. So I just endure, I won’t stop loving her, well…its not like I have a choice in the matter, and I’ll just watch from the sidelines like always

  • 30 30 sh

    l love this girl, shes a family friend,we are more like cousins.
    Like a year back i went to her brothers engagement, there she saw me like after 3 or 4 years, before that we met at my brothers wedding. There at her brothers engagement there was a little eye contact between me and her and she and her friends were talking about me. After her brothers engagement after a month or so some how she took my number out of her brothers cell and then she messaged me and then we started talking. She was like i like you and all this and that but she didn’t said that she loves me. We talked for about 3 weeks or so continuously but then slowly we started to talk less and less and there came a point where we didn’t talk for a month or so.

    Then my family had few medical problems and we went to her city and we lived at her house. There we again started talk and after a day or 2 she said that she loves me!
    But when we left, we just stopped talking. She didn’t say she didn’t like me, we just stopped talking.

    So can you please tell me whats going on? i really love her.

  • Tyler

    I’m in love with this girl and have been for many years now, i had the chance to date her last December but failed to see it and dated someone else after giving up hurting her, but broke up with the other girl a week later because i thought it unfair to date her when i still loved the first girl. Me and her have since become best friends but both of us suffer from low self esteem, i constantly tell her how she is wrong to think bad about her self, and tell her about all the beauty i see in her, and although she is always very grateful to hear these things i don’t believe she has the slightest intentions of dating me. I’m at my wits end, i don’t know what to do, living with out her her very painful, please if there’s anything you can teach me it would be greatly appreciated

  • harry

    I got a girl and a love her very much she says it but i don’t no if she does or doesn’t. We always be arguing i don’t no how to make her up and stop arguing with her can u give me some ideas?

  • roames

    i have a big problem, I don’t look good but I still want to have a loving relationship with a beautiful girl. Yet, I don’t know what to do to attract beautiful girls!

  • Srinivas

    i am in love wit a girl from past 6 months, and she is bit an introvert who is very much to her family, i know that she loves me from inside but she is not showing it outside, both of us are living very far away, so we normally talk in phone throughout, and i am very much crazy about her, i want her to say “i love you” to me, which she is carrying inside, i want her to love me and show the love to me the way i do……please help ….what should i do to make her say that she loves me.

  • ridal

    i live with a girl in the same apartment and then i would make her fall in love with me how and what to do about that please i need help.

  • Wynter

    I really love a girl and she loves me but at the same time she wants a bad boy and now she’s looking for someone else but I still love her and I didn’t do anything wrong I complimented her all the time, hugged her, kissed her and shower her that I can be the right person for her but then something happened between us… please I need some advice.

  • Kei

    I really love this girl and she’s older than me. We used to go out together and I feel like when i’m with her all my problems where gone. I realize that she’s the girl i’m looking for then i decided to tell her what i really feel and i think she loves me too and say to her that i love her but she didn’t say anything she doesn’t say any single word. I keep a distance between her and one day we were talking again that we used to but something’s change she alwys keeps a distance between me. I said to her that it seems that i have no chance of having her. i said that it seems that can only be friends. but i’m still waiting for the right time. ANY ADVICE?

  • Shrey

    hi..i m in love with a girl. At the beginning i told her a few lies to make her mine. We have been talking over phone from last 4 months and then we meet each other. She now also loves me but one day i told her that i lied in the starting stages. In between few days ago, i was busy in my career and was unable to give her time..she get annoyed. She is quite sentimental and now she catches my small talk and gets angry even now she doesn’t say that she loves me. What to do to make her fall in love again ?

  • dude

    I like this girl at school she’s a year older than me how do i make an appearance in her life and make her fall for me?

  • Ahad

    I have lots of comments for your advices, i am still in love with a girl to whom which i was strongly in love 7 years ago. I was very valuable for her, very emotional, strong, she was trusting me with any case of her life that i could make her happy, loving, smiling, secure and i did lots of help to her. But i tried her the most beautiful sentence “I LOVE YOU” for two years but she told me you are valuable for me, you are a nice & handsome guy, you would make me happy always and love me so much but i don’t love you and please leave me. So for two years i did like this as it was my timetable for two and three time a day for 2 years just telling her, i cant be with you, I’ll die with out you, the life is nothing for me with out you.

    Please give me your treasured idea.
    Thank you

  • beto

    well i have a problem so i like this girl and shes like my bestfriend i havernt known her for a long time but she is really nice she flirts with me all the time but then she says she only sees me as a friend so i dont know what to do anymore im so out of it im so confused about what she really feels for me can someone help plz

  • Delali

    I have to say the world is coming to an end or would come to an end on me should I not be able to win this girl, I have been with this girl for the past 6 years but she is still denying the fact. I love her so much, so much to the extend that even the time we where together she when she told me to wait upon the lord, I waited without any say. but now she is in the nursing school about to graduate. She is far from me too. Now it looks like she’s been having time for me but with the reason that, we should let God decide for us. What at all do i have to do to let her love me ?

  • Louis

    I’ve been told I’m a good looking guy even though I’m a bit shy and my self esteem is 6 feet under, all my life I’ve been afraid to ask a girl out for fear that rejection may hurt my pride – instead- I’d go out with girls that asked me out, currently I’m married to a woman that proposed to me 9 years ago and I’ve noticed how some women in my neighbor seems to want me even more while married. How do i make her NOT want me without hurting her feelings ?

  • dingaan

    hi! everyone, I also have a problem and i believe that you will help me. I have a girlfriend and we both love each other very much. This is the third month since we have been together. However, the problem that i myself experience is that i am not sure what actually to talk about when I am with her. That makes me to be worried about loosing her because i am not really sure about what to communicate with her. Should we talk about our relationship or our everyday events? Plz give an advice. i really need your help

  • Natasha

    Dear Dude,
    This is what I advise you to do. Find out anything that ties you two together. It can be anything from friends to some form of activity. Use this to approach her. Talk to her and make her laugh. Girls want to be happy. If you make her happy, she will want to be around you. However, do NOT be fake. It is a huge turn off because the girl should be able to trust you. Honestly, just be yourself. That is the best advice in the world. My boyfriend thought he never had a chance. But I saw how comfortable and confident he was in himself, how he could be himself around me, I fell in love with him. I have never been happier. He is my whole world. Keep in mind thought that she may not be the one, and that is alright because you put yourself out there. You don’t have to wonder “what if?” You can move on and find that girl. I am sure you will sweep her off her feet.
    Honestly, to all of the guys out there, the best advice is to be yourself and be confident with who you are because you want someone to love you for who you are, not how you act in front of that person. I hope I helped!

  • Christine Herrera

    Hi,
    I am a girl, just to let you know. lol. but i found this website and i thought i could help you guys out. :)
    If you are not handsome or rich, then you need a girl who is a good person with a kind heart, because those are the perfect girls who are more concerned with things other than money or looks. If you guys want a good woman, than you have to be good guys yourselves. I have been through several relationships and sadly, all of them have ended in me having to brake up with them, because they either lied or did not put enough time to talk with me or spend with me. Not ever girl is the same, but in general good women want good men who are going to love them and not love other women. They also like to a have man who can spend lots of time with them :) That is very important. I had this one boyfriend who we loved each other very much, but he did not spend enough time with me and sometimes would not talk to me for a whole week and i thought something bad happened to him. So i broke up with him and then got a new boyfriend who never really loved me at all and was only using me. So a tip for all you guys out there, love your woman with all your heart and only her. Spend lots of time with her and make her feel special :) Since i am single now, there is this friend of mine who likes me so may be we will get into a relationship. i like him and he is really nice and he likes me a lot. so who knows what the future holds? But anyway if you want to ask me any questions i am here for you guys :)

  • tim

    well, I’ve had luck with woman, always have. its just lately since the military, i haven’t. I mean I’m talking to a few chicks at the moment but one has taking my interest, and its one fresh out of a 2 year relationship and is hurt. we started talking not to long ago, maybe 2 months. shes my exs sister, and I’m fully crushing on her. what gets me is we going on a date this coming up weekend, and i wanna treat her like how she deserves to be treated. not to mention i want to be with her, through thick and thin. she sees this guy from time to time, to get urges out, understandable, but I’m kinda tripping that’s shes hooked on him. i just wish i had some advice from someone else to help me figure out what key things i should do to win her over for good. if some one could liberate me I’d greatly appreciate it!

  • Chris Calo

    You’re on the right track Nick, that’s normal and all you need is a little more experience. I think your problem might be that you’re trying a little too hard to carry the conversation. If the girl is interested in you, then the less you “try”, the more successful you will be. Finally, depending on your age, your voice will change a little. Take singing lessons and it will improve (not to mention, you can be the singer in a band afterward… which is guaranteed to get you a lot of attention!)

  • tim

    Emily, it doesn’t mean shell be mad at u or shoot u down, what u need to do is comfort her where the other chick didn’t excel at. Just be there for her. Talk about it a little, but don’t get to in depth about it. One of my good friends is a bi and another is a less, and they tell me about it all the time, bout how great she is. It sucks cause they come to me as if I’m the best friend, but I’m not, but yes, u have a chance. Just go slow with her. unless she moves faster.

  • Sam

    YOU
    Yes you, are you a guy?
    most probably yes. I’ve read most of the comments, and most of them are just patethic. If you ‘love’ a girl so much, ask her out. The only bad thing she can say is NO. And if she does say NO, then so WHAT? GO ask another girl out, it will take a few days to get over the rejection, but you will survive. And most of the comments also say, ‘I love this girl, she is so beasutiful, but i don’t think she likes me’. Well, here’s the thing, you dont love the girl. Yes, you heard me. Just think about it for a few minutes. You just ssee a girl at you school/university, and just becuase you have this one class with her, you love her? Come on guys, be realisic! When you see this girl, and you just can’t stop looking at her, you cant stop trying to impress her by cracking jokes every other second, it’s not love. It’s just liking the girl. There’s a big difference between loving and liking. If you really love a girl, then that means that you know what kind of character she has, her favourite food, colour, movie, what are her hobbies, and a lot of other crap. Also, you can’t just decide that you love a girl. You get to know that you love her when you ask her out, when you date her, and when you get to know her, when you can trust her with anything. So guys, if you have a crush on this chick, and you really want to ask her out, then just be yourself, yes, be yourself, dont try impressing her or whatevr, and JUST ASK HER OUT, becuase there isn’t a right time to ask her out. The earlier you ask her out, the more time you have to spend with her. So show you are a man, and ASK that chick out!

  • Dario

    great ideas. I’ve been searching about it and this is one of the most asserted ones I’ve gotten. Thanks for sharing your knowledge on this. I’m starting a new relation and I think I’m on the right track thanks to you. Well done

  • mehdi

    hey i like ur article & i thing that i was need to read it thanks alot ;)

  • Sam

    Thanks Dario and Mehdi. Please guys, if any of you have any questions or problems, or worries, just post it here, i’ll try help by giving some advice, (i hope that you find it useful)!

  • Robert Orwin

    good for you

  • Haikal

    There’s this girl I simply like. Not like I think i am in love BUT everything stops when she just doesn’t reply or talk to me anymore. Every day i think of her I just cant get her off my mind i think I am gonna go crazy about this!

  • eddy

    I am a guy who is shy and does not know how to make a move with a girl. although i talk to girls and some of them will say i am very funny.the problem is i don’t know how to scope a girl, words to say, and how to make the relationship stand firm i need help

  • ayomi

    Never fail to phone her, even when she least expects it. I once called some girl that I was interested in at four o’clock in the morning. When inquiring of what I was doing up so early, I told her I was in thirteenth heaven, where people think of their loved ones when they can’t sleep. Wow! First thing early the next morning, she was at my door with a king-sized hug for me.
    No matter how many dates you take her, don’t make any elbow – exceeding moves after any date, just drop her home and with a friendly handshake, wish her good night. Don’t kiss her when she expects you to. Your respect as a gentleman will be earned on how patient you are with her when it comes to such matters as kissing her and accessing her inner graces.

  • Sam

    Way to go Ayomi, great advice! Haikal, perhaps you could give this girl you like so much a bit more space, try ignoring her a little, perhaps make her jealous by talking more to other girls when she’s around. If she likes you, then she will try get your attention, because she wont like it when your giving other girls more attention than her. As for you Eddy, i think that Ayomi gave you some great tips already!

  • Alden

    I have this girlfriend, we’ve been steadying for quite a long period of time, just that i don’t know what to talk about when we are together, please tell me how to talk to her

  • Sam

    Well, that’s kinda tricky. I mean, if you dont know much about her, then you could strike up conversation with her quite easily, by asking her what hobbies she has, sports, music, etc. But if you already know all that, then i have one suggestion for you. If the two of you communicate quite a lot by sending e-mails, or texts, msn or whatever, stop that. Try not to talk to each other via technology. So if something happens during the weekend and you cant wait to tell her the news, wait till you see her, then tell her. This creates more conversation for the two of you to talk about. If that doesn’t work, and you’ve already tried any other solution you could think of, then talk to her about the way you feel on how the two of you dont talk much when you are around each other. Hope it works for you!

  • kakani

    I think its better if this question is answered by a girl because they know better what they want. So not bad actually but not very interesting. The same points what we listen from our friends

  • Sam

    You know Kakani, not all the girls are the same. They all have different opinions, and i don’t agree with you wanting advice from a girl. Alden, the best thing to do is to just talk to her about how you feel, make her aware that you care about keeping a healthy relationship.

  • vahagn

    I love a girl and we study in the same university. She lives in our neighborhood and i had seen her a few times before going to university and i thought she was really beautiful.i attract most girls around me and I’m quite handsome.before the university starts guys told her that we were both applied in the same university and they told me that she looks at me every time i pass. Then i started my relationship with her and got her number the first time i saw her in the university. We have text’ed a lot during these two months then i felt i loved her. I planned to see her on her birthday and i told her i loved her.she replied that she isn’t in the right mood to love someone right now and i told her that i will wait even for years for her.after knowing that i love her she has changed. Its almost a week that I’m begging her for an appointment but she refuses.she sais she is busy or tired or something like that. I really love her and I’m afraid if she likes someone else although she says she don’t. I don’t understand why just after knowing that i love her she changed her behavior. I will do everything to have herself by myself.what should i do?

  • enjoi

    Ok so there’s this girl and I love her and she has said that she loves me but she has a boyfriend already but her boyfriend is my best friend and we asked her out at pretty much the same day and she said yes to him she has told me that when they break up we will go out but I don’t know if I can wait can someone please give me some advice?

  • enjoi

    Oh btw we text each other every day and I know she said no to me cause I asked her out with a text (she told me her answer wouldve been different if I asked her in person)

  • Nelson

    I’m in love to my wife and she never appreciated it. She always told me that its just a joke because she knew that i have a lots of girlfriend in the past. Please help me how to prove her that deep inside i really in love with her.

    Nelson

  • Sam

    Vahagn, from experience, its not a good move to tell a girl that you love her when your not in a serious relationship with her. She most likely thinks that you are moving too fast. Some girls like to go slow, others like a rapid relationship, it’s tricky. So maybe she doesn’t want to commit to be in a relationship with you becuase maybe she had a bad experience with guys, perhaps her ex boyfriend whom she loved, just broke it off or something. This makes her feel unsecure and also unsure of what she wants. So she most likely would like to be single and free, until she feels safe and build up courage again to get in a serious relationship. I’m actually passing through a very similar situation at the moment, and i know how you feel, and it sucks, A LOT. What i think is the best solution is to make her fall in love with you. And how do you do this? It’s simple. Yet, for you it might be hard, becausei think you’r the kind of guy who likes to rush things a little bit (if not, im sorry, but thats the impression i got when you said you told her you love her). Ok, so you make her fall in love with you. Do this by first becoming a closer frind to her. And not just a friend, but a good friend, who she can talk to openly and trust, that you will be there for her. But this will take time Vahagn, can take a very long time until she realises that she loves you too. Do not rush things, treat her as a friend, try meeting up with her often, just as friends. At the beginning it will be hardest, till she realises that your a good guy and that she can trust you. It doesnt matter if you only meet up once a week or less at the beginning, you have to wait. As time goes by, you will start seeing her more. Then when you are really friends, you can make a move, show her that she can trust you. I hope i helped you mate! Good luck, and if you really love her, you ‘ll be patient and wait for her.

  • Sam

    Nelson, i dont know much about marriage, but i know many friends who have similar problems. But i think from what i hear from friends is that women really appreciate the little things that their men do for them. So you could perhaps on a Saturday morning wake up before your wife, make breakfast and take it up for her in bed, then later on you could perhaps do the laundry. Help her around with the house chores, this shows you appreciate the work she does around the house. Aslo, if she is romantic, then you could perhaps take her out on a romantic dinner at night, or something similar. Talk to her, ask her more about her day after you come from work (if thats the case). And last but not least, tell her you love her, in a meaningful way. Perhaps before you go out in the morning for work, leave a note saying, ‘I love you Babe” or something like that. I dont know much mate, i’m just giving you what my friends tell me from their own experiences. I hope it works out for you!

  • Larry

    What of you thought you love some one and now there pregnant with your child but like I love her but i don’t love her I can’t trust her she cheated on me but we got over that and I still feel she doesn’t have any feelings for me still like right now we’re not talking

  • Sabrina

    come on!! …

    ALL THE MEN LISTEEENN

    only be your self!! thats the answer 4 everything.

  • Becca

    Ok, I am a girl… lemme give you guys some advice
    Us girls, we like don’t judge guys based on ‘their looks.’ if they have looks, that’s most certainly a bonus for us! But for my BF I have, I love how happy he makes me feel (as this article says)! He Compliments work so well, even if it’s about jewelry, or an art piece they did! Don’t overdo it with hugs thought, I hate it when guys overdo hugs! It’s very annoying… but my BF doesn’t do that, so I praise that guy above! Also, most girls like if you are best friends with them first. Make them feel that they can trust you with their deepest secrets. They will go to you for advice on anything first! And to wrap this up, tell the girl how you really feel… tell her how much they mean to you. It will make her pretty darn happy.

    And if all fails, listen to Sabrina up there (shes #254)
    BE YOURSELF!

    And Sam, Yes all girls are different. So that’s why be her best friend first! You will get to know her to the fullest!
    How my BF got me to fall for him, he’s my best friend. That’s all there is to it. =)

  • harry

    I’m insanely in love with this one girl and I feel like she may have feelings for me, but I never see her often enough or long enough to ask her out. I want to avoid asking her out in a text message because it would be really lame and I’m not sure if calling would be the best way to confess to her. What should I do?

  • dan robbo

    I like this girl but my friend likes her too!!!
    how can i get her to choose me

  • marck

    When you go out with them, complement them like, wow. you look good in that dress. but, don’t overdo things. just do that for like twice a week? i have my best friend and she’s totally out of my league.she’s one of the most beautiful girl in our school and i’m just a no one and i don’t look that good. but i got her all over me. but i lost her and we still are best friends and still, that feelings still goes back. but who knows? maybe i’m not really her type. 2 b con.

  • marck

    here again. see how it works? and we’re best friends now for almost 2years. and she doesn’t want me to leave her. she wants our friendship to last forever.and maybe this’ll happen to you too! or even better, you get to be his man! well if you wanna be hers, try to make a move when you and her are friends. its the best way because you get to know her and u get to get her closer to you thus, making her fall for you slowly.

  • Sam

    hey Harry, I think what Becca said is great advice, ( i mentioned it earlier :p ). First just become friends with this girl, get her to trust you. Also do not rush things, unless she wants to.

  • Sam

    Larry, try give her time to think about the situation, give her time to make up her mind. When she is ready to talk to you, make sure that you are prepared for whatever the answer might be.

  • marck

    Sam’s right. If you are a total stranger and she does not like you, you might end up being depressed so try to make friends with her and then yeah, do what you gotta do. When you confess, do it personally. Before doing that, make sure she likes you goodluck!

  • steven

    what if the girl you love likes your best friend even though she knows that she likes you.

  • danny

    anyone can help me out? i met this girl on the net, we both live in Singapore. we started talking on msn, and slowly move on to texting and then chatting on phone. when i knew her, she had just broke up with her bf. She told me everything about she and her bf, even what they did. We shared our past relationships with each other. Then we start talking about schools, our friends, parents etc. And then i made a confession to her telling that i loved her, she told me she loved me too. We then start to went out together. (we are still friends that like each other). And then, few weeks pass, her ex came to ask her for patch. She asked me, if she should accept him. Well, me being a good guy, told her and persuade her to accept him. I know i made a mistake, but now she’s still love me but is afraid to leave her bf. what should i do?

  • Graeme

    My ex broke up with me telling me I was to over protective and wanted to see her to much but a week later was with another guy who she. Said is a friend I was moving on and then another week went by and she txt me saying she hated the way it ended and that she never cheated on me so I was txting her for a few days and met up to talk so I told her how felt but now she doesn’t seem bothered about me again we was together for 16 months I want her back what do I do??????

  • Light

    My girlfriend and best friend I’ve known for 4 years just got together and are relationship has been complicated. I had to move to California temporarily where i have been here for about 4 months. We talked so much that we ran out of things to talk about, literally. I come back in a week and she just broke up with me. I said i’d love them and try to help. I asked her if this was her and she answered like it was but never said it wasn’t but the whole thing turned out to be hypothetical question. I told her father to get her the help she needed because i didn’t want her to hurt herself on drugs i thought i was helping, but i actually lost practically all of her trust and she hates me and broke up with me over it. I told her I’m so sorry for making such a big mistake and i promise you can trust me it was a big misunderstanding and to please give me another chance and all this crap i had faith in would work and it didn’t. I still want to be there for her because i love her but i don’t even know how to stand up or approach the situation. She doesn’t talk to me, she just tells me I’m sorry I don’t know why i can’t anymore. If i tell her something it brushes past her and she says that’s great or something. And it hurts but i don’t want to give up i don’t want to end with no trust and no friendship or something. I do want to be her boyfriend. I need help in a big way.

  • Sam

    Steven, that’s one bad situation to be in mate. I’m pretty sure its hard for you to see your best friend with the girl you love. But my opinion on this is that a girl is not as precious as a friend, and in your case your best friend. Forget about her, do not let her tempt you to ruin your friendship with your best friend, because what will happen is; you and your friend will have a fight, stop talking, then you get to date the girl for a while, and then you realize how much of an idiot you are to choose a girl over your best friend. Find another girl, i know its hard, especially when your crazy on one girl. But it your choice to make, its either her, or him. Good luck

  • matt

    yo guys if you really love a girl dont give up and if she says she just wants to be friends be friends and then wait a while then start hinting to go out with her again and i had the same problem , now im with her and she loves me cause i treat her with my heart and soul and im always happy for her and my self and i never gave up on her , remember everyone if you really love someone you wont give up on them till you find out about someone else but when you do itll be hard to let go of the person you love , but just never give up on youre self :)or the person you love!

  • Light

    I agree with Sam, Steven. My grandmother told me before if you let her date someone else she will come back and see how good and valuable you really are to her..i think maybe try to avoid her a bit and be there when she needs someone.

  • Sam

    Graeme and Light, just both try to be friends with your girls. They might hate you now becuase they think you have lost their trust, but if you try and just be friends they both will realise what they did was wrong, and then they will want you back. Gd luck

  • http://www.waytoosocial.com/ Chris Calo

    @Nelson: Different people need different things to know that they are loved. Some people need to be touched, others need to hear it, others need to see actions done.

    You should figure out what she needs to feel loved… and then do it!

    @Larry: That’s not a great situation to be in, it sounds as if you both need to work on a few things. Sometimes getting your life together is the best thing you can do to fix a relationship. Get your life together first, then talk to her and invite her into it, along with with your unborn child.

    @Sabrina: That’s cliche, I’d rather men develop themselves and be their best self. Of course, if you try to fake being someone else, that’s no good. But if you’re not happy where you are, work on it.

    @Becca: You can be friends or you can be lovers. The transition is hard to do if you start by being friends first… instead, be lovers first and then develop the friendship alongside.

    @Harry: There’s no need to “confess loving her”, just invite her to hang out with you, over the phone!

  • Der Wolf

    I’m trying to make a girl around 20, fall in love with me but she doesn’t want to love some younger than her she says she feels to old for me. She says she just wants to be friends but i cant seem to convince her.

  • Josh

    I have been in love with this girl for 7 years. In that time I was in a 5 year relationship with another girl and was engaged to be married. I thought about this other girl almost all the time, so much so that it eventually broke apart my relationship. The hardest part for me is that we are best friends, and it’s either the best thing, or the the worst thing that she moved in with me. I know that she cares for me a lot…like a brother. That’s like saying “ew your disgusting. i will never sleep with you.” I am not unattractive however, and girls constantly like me. They do nothing for me. I only want her, and of course I can’t have her. I thought maybe If she lived with me i’d find something I didn’t like about her, that irritated me, and I would lose feelings. Like a complete moron I am, I made these feelings stronger. I wasn’t getting the signals!! She comes back from across the country after 3 years and specifically wants to move in with me. ME! I was in a dream land. All our friends call us married. We argue about insignificant things. We sleep in separated beds. We even shared a bachelor suite at one time. We have everything in common. I’m always happy when she’s around. I make her laugh. I know I am valuable to her..but how much, I do not know. Perhaps If I become more authoritative, and put myself in a position of power(that’s not simply jealously killing every man she hooks up with) I will work on being happy, I’t’s hard when one of your friends sleeps with the woman you love in your own bed, and makes out with your other friend in front of you, or in your car while you’re there to. Maybe I’m invisible. Perhaps she does it to see what I will do.

  • Sam

    But are you guys officially dating? Because if yes, she’s then kinda cheating on you. If you are dating, then you should ask her what is wrong with her brain. (politeness is advised). If you’re not together at the moment, then you should show her what she’s missing out on. Invite girls over to your place, treat them in her own favorite ways, make her jealous. But I think that that would then make her more pissed or amplify whatever she’s doing. So I think the best thing to do is discuss your relationship between the two of you. Keep me posted! And good luck!!

  • nycmuse

    raj,

    do you know anything about her? her interests, hobbies, what troubles she’s going through in life, the stress, etc?? do you ask her any important questions in life? or do you just make small talks?

    do you talk about feelings and thoughts? how you feel about cool things she does that she’s proud of? if you don’t speak up in the clear way she will not understand you and you cannot blame her for it. Gifts won’t mean a thing if she cannot understand anything from it.

    do you know what “love” means to her? do you know what “marriage” means to her? if you do not know her, how do you know you love her?

  • nycmuse

    matt,

    i kind of agree and don’t agree (but who cares who agree with what, right?) but anyway, i was gonna say…when we truly…love someone, we cannot give up even if we wanted to. the love never goes away, coz it’s love. it’s in our heart. it’s part of who we are, and we make it our own or maybe we become love itself when we fall in love. that’s why some of us become crazy when we fall in love. we’re no longer what we used to be. love changes people. but craziness is us not being used to being in love. not understanding, not accepting….not working on putting the effort to make ourselves feel better by being loved back. putting the effort to show the person how we feel. showing we care, showing we listen and we mean what we feel.

    for the one we love to understand how we feel…or even to acknoledge the love we have for him/her, we need to listen very carefully and know and don’t do what they don’t want…and ask questions to show that we’re thinking and we want to know. and make action according to what we hear. if you fail, you try again. when we’re rude, we try to explain what we meant to do and apologize for the trouble we caused. showing we care…as much as possible to those we love…is the most important thing. no human being cannot appreciate it when others show they care.

  • k

    I’m a girl and I feel the same way as a lot of you guys. Love is so beautiful and painful at the same time. I think the key is to love without attachment. Love yourself more than the other person because the most important relationship you will have in life is with yourself. Love other people abundantly but without expectations. Do what is best for you and try to improve yourself for your own sake because you love yourself, not for anyone else. Love without possessiveness. Maybe you will never have these ladies, but you can still love them in a corner of your heart. Be happy :) Life is too short to accept agony and pain simply because someone you love can’t love you back in the same way. Loving yourself is the main point, giving love is important, recieving love from yourself is essential, recieving love from others is not important.

  • DAWN

    Dont make her love you. What if she dont wanna be loved? I didnt, but he didnt care and made me fall for him. And now i cry my self to sleep because he “changed” his mind and fell of some other girl. What happened to “i love you baby, ill never leave you”? He broke my heart, just stop and think about it, some girls dont wanna be loved. :(

  • Alex

    Every girl i meet wants to be my best friend. Girls have like, a HUGE attraction to me, and tell me i’m good looking, and always want to get close to me and stuff… but its because they want to be my best friend. now, every time i see a girl i REALLY like, i’m scared to get to close or friendly with her because i KNOW I’ll be in the friend zone.

    btw, i know i don’t come off as unmanly. i play football and box.

  • loving lowles’ girlfriend

    My love for this girl has reached an uncontrolable point, to where she utterly controls my thoughts. I’m planning my life around her, but she only thinks of me as close friend. She’s going out with this guy, since may, and she seems to have a strong bond with him. She does not flirt or talk about relationships with me at all, yet i make her happy and sometimes laugh when i speak to her. We have a lot in common, and recently i found out that her mum knew my mum 15 years ago. This sparked a strange feeling i think we both shared, which brought us together as friends. I now think of her as a female version of me, except much more confident and popular. I love her so much, she is so talented and clever, and so massively beautiful, although some of my mates call her ugly, perhaps out of jelousy towards her boyfriend. I feel that, because i’ve known her so long, and we’re so close as friends, i deserve a chance with her, to treat her right and be myself. I want more that friendship, i value her more than anything else in my life, and this has been building for a long time. I want to spend my life with this right girl.
    High school is quickly ending, however, and she’s got a bond with this guy. I need to appeal to her thoughts! I warn you, she’s an incredibly complex and free-thinking girl, so it may be hard to figure this one out.
    Help me, i shout to the world!!

  • loving lowles’ girlfriend

    Before anyone can say about treating her right, making her feel good etc. i already do that. She’s started sitting by me at lunch, because i’m a good friend, someone she feels safe with, and i make her happy and sometimes laugh. Her BF also likes my, cause i play the guitar, and he wants me to play guitar with her, cause she plays too, and he thinks she is excellent. He’s always with her, and i can’t have a quiet chat with her. I think i’m getting close to her in many ways, but only as a friend. I love her much more than as a friend.

  • Jayosh

    I really like my best friend. She likes me. She has a boyfriend. I’m walking away because I’m her ” back up” boyfriend. Just a tool. Pretty messed up. But I’m bit giving up (;

  • Mahbub

    Falling one’s love is abstract matter it don’t depend on any particular characteristics. You may fall one’s love just by any noticeable character, that might seems disgusting to others.

  • chAd

    Love is complicated. If you love someone make them happy and set her free that’s love its not fair.

  • hamid

    i was always alone and i did not know love or what is this word mean until i meet a girl and i talk to her then time after time i started to be attracted by her way of speaking, her way of thinking, her smile and her way of moving her face. So all of that make me to think about her all the time day and night and i started to feel different in my way of thinking about life and future and to asked my self one day is this really love who make me to feel like this? Then i realize that’s the love and i am in. So I advise all the guys to wait and be patient everyone of us have his partner so it depend of the time of seen her .

  • Orestis greece….

    I’m in love with a girl for one year now. When i first started to love her i had chances and she was in love with me too. But i didn’t do anything because i ‘m a shy person and i don’t have a self-esteem. Now she don’t like at all but I’m still love her, my friends is telling my all the time to stop think her but i cant. Please help I need advice on how i can build my self-esteem.

  • Austin

    I liked this girl for 2 years and she seems to look at me sometimes during class. I try to start a conversation, but it doesn’t last long. She sometimes looks at my hand and my feet. Everytime she laughs at a joke our teacher tells she looks at me. Last year, she asked me to sign her yearbook and asked if i would like to sign her’s Are this signs that she truely loves me? If not then what signs am I suppose to look for?

  • Dara

    Hi dear. Could you help me please? I’m falling in love with a girl and we are good friends. Presently, she’d just broken up with her boy friend and I feel that now there is a chance for me to have her; I really want to tell her that I Love her ,but I can’t. I don’t know how to speak, when,and where and how long should I start to do so. Please give me some advivces, Best regards

  • Tyler

    I love this girl & i’ve told her that. But she has a boyfriend who is the star football player. She told me that she likes me, but she’s still dating the other guy. Last week the day after she told me that she likes me she told him they “needed a break”. But the next day it was too hard & she got back together with him. I’m her friend that she tells everything to, and she says she isn’t happy in the relationship with him but she doesn’t know why. But at the same time she says she knows she needs to break up with him but she doesn’t because it will be really hard because of everything they’ve been through together..What do I do?!?! I can’t get over her because I love her more then i’ve ever loved something & i want her more then i’ve ever wanted anything.

  • John M.

    I like this girl from school, Shes perfect. And we make a lot of eye contact but i don’t really talk to her. Only recently i said hi and she just passed by an said hi back but didn’t even look at me in the face she was looking down and her tone was kind of low wen she said it like if she was nervous or something. What does that mean?? Also its hard 4 me because i recently broke up with a girl from her class i didn’t really like an since her class is all girls they all tell each other everything, she found out about a letter i send her in Christmas an got mad but i told her some good explanations an she believed me haha. But i do like this girl a lot i just get nervous to start a conversation an that i might get rejected….

  • Patrick

    I’ve been inlove with this girl for years now, we used to be very close and for a while we were even being romantic together. But we grew apart and we both changed, but we’ve started talking again and I’m realizing that I still have very strong feelings for her. The problem is she has a boy friend and I have a girl friend, but I’d leave my woman in a heart beat for her, but she no longer seems interested! I’ve been head over heels for her for the past 3 years! I need help

  • Kevin Stanley

    Ok-I got involved with this Girl but she really wasn’t my type. she ended up falling madly in love with me & did everything to make me happy & I was very happy with her but I never fell in love with her. After 3 months I didn’t really want to but let her move in. She had 3 small kids & I had 1. It was very crazy for me. My 8 yr old just about hated her but he was influenced by his mother. I also could have been nicer to her at times i wasn’t very nice at all. We ended up breaking up after living together for about a year.It broke her Heart. She would still come to my house and sleep over 4-5 times a week. I kinda just wanted her to go away & my attitude showed it but, I didn’t want to be alone ether. This went on for over 2 months. Then just the other day I found my self missing her really bad. The next day I decided she was the best thing that ever happened to me and I instantly was in love with her. I wanted her back and i wanted to give her my whole heart. On the 3rd day She came to me & I told her all of this. She then went on to tell me that She came to say goodbye because she met someone earlier in the week and was just about in love with him. I cried and cried & so did she. So instead of leaving she told me we could still be friends & ended up staying with me for the next 4 days but i wasn’t aloud to kiss her or make love. On the 6 day she wants to see him again. Then come back to me & stay over again. I am now madly in love with her & the pain of her seeing him is great! She also says she wants to do the same with him (be friends) until she can come to terms about me now falling in love with her. She also says she now doesn’t know what to do but I know they’ve been making love. Also my son now tells me he misses her & her kids. Is it possible to get her back? I love her & need HELP!!! Thank You.

  • KeepLearning

    One more thing: There seem to be a lot of guys on here who like girls already in relationships. Here’s some advice: DON’T.

    First off, if she has a boyfriend and it’s not you, then how do you know you love her? Are you sure that you don’t simply LIKE her? Are you sure that you’re not just having trouble separating LIKE from LOVE due to personal inexperience with LOVE?

    It’s a personal rule of mine that “I don’t help girls commit adultery,” meaning that I don’t go after married girls. More loosely stated, “I don’t help break up relationships.” That loose statement can be applied to girls who just have boyfriends. Guys who are simply in the process of getting rid of neediness will realize that “IF A GIRL DOESN’T HAVE TIME FOR ME, I DON’T HAVE TIME FOR HER.”

    Guys reading this may say, “Yes, but you don’t understand how much I really love her!” or “Well, I really think my situation is different.” or “You don’t understand; if you met her you would know why I can’t let her go.” HOWEVER, the TRUTH is that those are needy frames of mind. I would like to point out that I began getting success with girls MORE DESIRABLE TO ME than the girls I used to like…AFTER I STARTED GETTING RID OF NEEDINESS. And the crazy part is that I could not even conceive of what would be more desirable until I reformed my thinking / frame of mind.

    Lastly, consider some possibilities with me. Think of some genuinely decent and desirable girls who are married. Even if you don’t know any, you can conceive that they exist. Now consider that those girls probably had more than 1 boyfriend besides the boyfriends they each married. They probably “loved” at least one other boyfriend at some point in their lives. So it’s believable that a girl can love more than one guy over her lifetime before choosing a spouse. Similarly, guys are capable of feeling love for more than one girl over their lifetime. THIS IS IMPORTANT: It’s okay to let the current girl go because you are capable of feeling love for more than one girl over your lifetime. I hope this goes a long way to help guys begin to release their neediness.

    –M

  • Adam

    Hello, So over the past two years I have known this girl to a lesser extent, but we have been in and actively participating many of the same clubs such as best buddies. I have always thought of us as friends until about a month ago when we started talking more and more. I have one class with her, but we have many of the same teaches so sometimes we talk about school, sometimes best buddies, and sometimes just fun stuff. After every lesson in math I would normally go over to where she sits, or she would come to me, and we would spend time talking. We share many of the same morals, ethics, and interests and it seems that over the past month things have really hit off, or so I think. I spent a couple times staying up till all hours to help her understand how to do things.

    The only thing is though that I spoke to a mutual friend a while ago (probably when I first was really started to take interest in her) and asked him about her and her relationship status. I know she is single, but about a month ago he said she was interested in someone else who is not her usual type (he then mentioned that people like me are). But that was a while ago and now that we are talking every day for a while, I’m not sure if things are changing or not.

    Basically, how can I tell if things do start to develop between the two of us, and if they are, what might be some signs, and how might I go about to take our friendship up one level?

  • Rajesh

    I’m in love with my best friend. We knew each other for 1 to 2 years. We did our studies in the same college. I have completed the course and now I am working in a company. We are very close to each other. I can feel her sadness, pain, happiness and all. She says that she loves me than I love her. She can understand what it truly means to love someone. She began to love me after we talked a lot. Now i am 3000 kms away from her. I want to be with her. I want to marry her. I am waiting for the day to see her…I miss you a lot my girl….

  • daniel

    i like this girl we went out a year ago and when we went out we dated for around a year when we broke up we hated eachother but the we became friends again how to make her like me again?

  • No none

    I don’t believe that there is any girl who love a boy beyond his richness or looks. Most girls wants them to rich and remaing want the looks. So there is never be a single girl who loves a boy for his heart….. :-):-)

  • mat

    hi i asked this girl out tonight and she said no she said that another boy who i am friends with asked her out she said it wouldn’t be fair to say yes to me and no to him which is fair enough but… I know I’m not the best looking of the bunch but I’m shy to talk to her when shes with her friends yet i can talk to her fine when shes on her own she said she will come to the cinema with me this week sometime so shall i make a move and if I do how???

  • Trevor

    Wow good advice but there is this girl that i like but some how I made her mad and now she hates me I don’t know what to do I’ve tried to apologize that didn’t work and when I try to txt her she always says i don’t want to talk to you she gives eye contact sometimes but I get nervous and look away I have been very depressed and down about it she used to love to talk to me but now when she txts me it seems as if she is supper pissed at me one of my friends tried to hook me up with her by pretending that I was emo and that I was going to kill myself but of course that didn’t work it’s just so frustrating because the life that she knows of me is a complete lie I need help

  • Zak

    mat,
    i would only go as far as you feel comfortable i mean dont leave your comfort zone and always kiss her on her neck first an see what she does because if you kiss her on lips and she gets mad its game over lol

  • Patrick

    hi, i am deeply in love with a girl, our relationship was going on smoothly until she told me that she is going for PhD, and now she wants to breakup with me, and stay as a friend, i know she loves me, but i don’t understand why?? She wants to breakup the relation. Actually she wants to fulfill her dreams and her parent’s too, its fine, i told her and i will wait for her because I have also some duties and responsibilities and wants to fulfill my dreams too, as I am working and need to earn some more money, we are discussing this frequently for our future settlement but the problem is she also wants to get married with the parent’s choice too, what more ??? Why??? I don’t understand, I feel very depressed, I love her more than anything else but I know she loves me too, now there is nothing to say, she just wants to breakup with me. I understand that she wants to fulfill her dream and I too, I gave her time also but she said no. as she was always there for me in good time and bad time too what should I do …. by any means i want her back and wants to get married and live happily ever after. Her answer is negative for this.

  • Zack Jannenga

    Ive been working with this girl for about 2years now, I really liked her, and even asked her out, then i found out she had a boyfriend. Though then we started talking and she started calling me, then i would call her, and when we talked, she would hardly ever mention her boyfriend. She told me stuff that “us will go out, just not right now”, for a while i believed it, but then she threw my heart, she said she cant do this anymore, and she told me she doesnt love me but loves her boyfriend. I just feel so lopsidede because i see this poor lost girl who has it all wrong, I feel she’s loving the wrong guy and i will never get the chance to show her,. I keep telling myself i dont need her, yet i keep having thoughts and dreams about her. So please help me.

  • Daiana

    I am a girl and I think I can help all you…

    At first, i think you should know who you are: Know yourself! It’s gonna take some time t realize, but if you look inside yourself, I’m sure, you’ll find. Love yourself, at first! never change for a girl! We hate it! We think that we can’t trust him, ‘cuz they even trust themselves. understand?

    Secound: be real. say ‘hi’ and ‘how’s going?’ ‘news?’ … make she feels like she could trust you. trust is very important on a relationship. Make it often, but on a day, tell her all your feelings. Maybe you’re scared to lost her friendship forever, or fear of her say ‘No’ . But you have to try, even it being hard. Don’t let the fear speak higher than your love!

    Thirty: Give her flowers in commun days. Say ‘good morning’. Hug her, make she feels like she was a queen. My boyfriend, for example, get my heart when he tells me: I’ll be with you, whatever happens. Because I love you, understand it? Is it clear?’ Let clear the girl can trust you. This is essential.

    Fourty: IF you think yoursef UGLY, you never gotta to get a heart girl. If you’re pumple, or scar, like does too much ones here, … if you hate yourself, everyone’s around you gonna hate you too. If you can’t smile, no ones gonna wants to be around you.
    Think about you.

    Look at mirror and try to see out of your image. Try to see you heart.
    It seems hard, but if you look inside, I’m sure you’ll find.
    Good luck ;)

  • tyler

    how do you get a girl to love you that says your like a brother to her

  • Patrick

    i am deeply in love with a girl, our relationship was going on smoothly until she told me that she is going for PhD, and now she wants to breakup with me, and stay as a friend, i know she loves me, but i don’t understand why?? She wants to breakup the relation. Actually she wants to fulfill her dreams and her parent’s too, its fine, i told her and i will wait for her because I have also some duties and responsibilities and wants to fulfill my dreams too, as I am working and need to earn some more money, we are discussing this frequently for our future settlement but the problem is she also wants to get married with the parent’s choice too, what more ??? Why??? I don’t understand, I feel very depressed, I love her more than anything else but I know she loves me too, now there is nothing to say, she just wants to breakup with me. I understand that she wants to fulfill her dream and I too, I gave her time also but she said no. as she was always there for me in good time and bad time too what should I do …. by any means i want her back and wants to get married and live happily ever after. Her answer is negative for this. please help

  • j-shoe

    Everything u wrote is everything we already know. but sometimes we have to hear it from other for it to have more effect. Ultimately what u say in all articles is for a guy to love himself and value himself first and the rest should fall in place on its own.

    i like your articles because it makes me happy… Your happiness is very contagious.

    thanks man

  • Tareq

    im in love with this girl but she unfortunately is one of my best friends. i dont know what to do. i see her everyday as she’s in my class. but lately she found out tht i love her and it started feeling a lil awkward. she wouldnt make eye contact and all. i also found tht she’s not really into me. i need to know how to make her like me. its affecting my life in a bad way. i cnt sleep,eat,study.should i open up to her or what?

  • Jagan

    Hi Tareq. Even my friend has the same problem. My advice is just OPEN yourself to her. When she is knows your point of view in you should stand bold buddy. Express yourself and take care!

  • Diamond

    What’s up people.. THIS IS A FEMALE… who speaks perfect English so maybe you can understand me..

    For all you guys who has a girlfriend who refuses to say “I LOVE YOU” back.. :

    Say: ” I know you may not love me, but regardless if you love me or not I know that I can love you enough for the both of us.. I will always be here for you.”

    if that doesn’t work.. she’s not worth your time and you should TRY to forget about her.. BYE!

  • Peter

    I fell completely in love with a girl in one of my classe. I don’t believe in being in love at my age but I see her everynight in my dreams for a week and I can’t pay attention in class because I think of her all the time. And I’ve felt like this for a long time. The problem is, we did go out like 6 months ago but I wasn’t actually interested in her, shes now moved on, thinks I hate her, and has another boyfriend, who I’m extremely jelous of.
    Point is, sometimes we fall in love with the wrong person and can’t do anything about it.

  • Idk

    I know! No matter what she is in all if my dreams. It freaks me out but it’s also kinda cool and in a good way

  • Rajesh

    I’m in love with a girl, who is my best friend. We know each other for 2 years. We did our studies in the same college. I have completed the course and now I am working in an organization. We are very close to each other. I can feel her sadness, pain, happiness and all and I will share everything to her. I am very friendly and sincere to her. She says that she loves me so much. She can understand me well. She loves me since I became her friend. She didn’t reveal her love to me. I understood that thing on the day we separated. Now i am far away from her. I want to be with her. I want to marry her. Both of us are waiting for our parent’s approval. I am waiting for the day to see her…I miss you a lot my girl….i love you so much..

  • Christopher

    I fell in love with someone and I felt there is a feeling hard to express. Good points though.

  • anon

    hey, how do i get a girl to leave her boyfriend? she gave me her number and we’ve been talking heaps but im not sure how she feels about me i really like her, would she give me her number if she just wanted to be mates?? help plz

  • NS

    I like this girl but she likes someone else and it bothers me because i dont feel very ugly and i just have more few freckles i try to make her laugh but she never pays attention

  • Unknown

    I am in love with a girl, a girl that I loved for years and years. We are kind of a friend before but not anymore after I have said I am in deep love with her,and she is just keep on ignoring me. What am i gonna do, i can’t live without her, I have tried to do everything, I have tried everything I can do in my knowledge,she likes twilight and romantic stuffs,and when I make her happy or say I am in love with her,she just ignore me and say “all the thing I said was so disgusting, but I said I will never give up because if she is still here I must try my best to get her or it will be to late for a love to start, isn’t it?? But I just can’t live without her!

  • Idk

    I know how you feel unknown. I know xactly how u feel

  • Ben

    I asked a girl out. She said we would try it out for a week or two. She’s the prettyist girl ever. I told her that then asked her out. We text all the time. How do I make her stay with me? Were in grade school. Please help…!!!

  • I miss you

    My Girl friend left me about 2 months ago and I cant believe how stupid I was for letting her go… It went wrong to start with because I put too much pressure on her asking demanding questions. I never really gave her enough time to fall deeply in love with me and after I asked the wrong question she ended it… I miss her so much and cant believe how dumb i was, I have searched the internet for answers and ways to get her back. I spent hours think about her in the past and now she has gone all the energy has turned to making myself into her perfect guy, working out, improving charisma and trying to become better. I need help I dont know how I can approach her anymore, we are still in touch but only as friends and I cant seem to compliment or flirt with her without her seeing it as me hitting on her, it feels like a dead end. In most the internet advice I have seen it suggests not trying to win them back and just going with the follow and only trying to influence them back into falling in love with you. I need some help with how exactly i can influence her and make her see how much i love her. plz if you have any suggestions reply thx!

  • collegegirl

    ben,

    you cant make a girl stay with you. she has to want to stay with you. have confidence and respect for yourself. if she doesn’t see how great of a guy you are then she doesn’t deserve you. Theres a girl out there for ya, you just gotta find her.

  • Bloody

    Hey I’ve got this problem I really REALLY like this girl but she has a boyfriend which is a lot older and I don’t really think he trusts her and stuff I don’t think that they’re good together and I’ve been spending some time with her we’re really connecting and stuff we’re always laughing together,hugs maybe a few kisses and stuff and tomorrow I’ll see her I don’t know if I should tell her how I feel ? Should I? I don’t know maybe she feels the same for me or not? I have no idea but I really like her.

  • bahama papa

    some of you guys give me hope damn. Stop crying and move on if the girl you love has a bf. i repeat, move on. Now if shes having a difficult time deciding, then id say you have some wiggle room. Always remember that you are not the only ‘NICE GUY’ Try to be extraordinary, creative and original. But balance your creativity with good judgement so that you don’t suffocate them. Ladies would you agree?

  • stella

    This is a girl speaking. All guys should know that if a girl says she ”just wants you to be friends” then she means exactly that and doesn’t and will probably never see you as a potential boyfriend so as hard as it may be, just try and move on. And again,if you like a girl, just tell her, its that simple, maybe she likes you too and is just waiting for you to make a move. If she doesn’t though again, just try move on, there are very many fish in the sea!:)

  • Love stinks

    Hi I am in love with a girl down the street from me. She is one year younger then me. We hang out a lot but I’ve been stuck in the friend zone for to long. So one day I asked her if she would be my girlfriend. She said no and ran away from me. Now she thinks I’m some kind of weird-o because she is a year younger then me and I shoudn’t date her. When she ran home I think she told her parents because they used to like me but now they hate me. How do I fix it? I’ve tried everything I told her she is beautiful (no lies she is the hottest girl I have ever met) taking her out to dinner. I need to get my act together because if this goes well I’m planning to purpose (after about 6 mounths of dating) please she is the love of my life and I will never find another girl like her again please hurry up and email me thanks.

  • fariz

    i told my love to my girl,she said from that moment she want talk with me!i didn’t worry about that.but now she hates me.why is it?

  • Alonzo

    Fariz! Don’t ask us man, ask her, she will know the answer for you….

  • Jacob

    Ok I like this girl a lot but she has a boyfriend that she has been going out with for like 2 and a half years. I just started talking to her about a few months ago and she says I’m really sweet. We text eachother a lot and she asks why I don’t have a girlfriend. We are both good friends and have the same interests. Do you think she likes me at all? And what should I do if she does/doesn’t seeing as how she has a boyfriend.

    P.S. We both are freshman in a fairly small highschool in texas. And I don’t want to break her and her boyfriend up, it’s just not the kind of person I am. However, it is hard seeing a girl I really like hold hands and hug another guy.

  • …a girl’s advice…

    okay, so i am a girl and here is my advice. First of all, I find it a little sad that you have to come to this website for your love life,but I also find it sweet. If you love someone enough to research how to make them happy, then i guess you’re off to a decent start. Second of all, you can’t get your “moves” and advice from a website. You want someone to fall in love with who YOU are. Otherwise you will have to put on an act eveyday (which is very difficult, trust me). You have to do what you feel is right. If they don’t love you for who you are, they don’t deserve you. Also, become friends with them. Sometimes if you aren’t friend with a girl for a long time and they dae you, they feel like they were rushed into the situation and they are generaly nervous and reluctant to move forward. Hugging is a good thig because, not only does it make a girl feel secure, it makes them feel wante. This is VERY good. And, every girl needs a good listener. DO NOT ACT AS IF YOU KOW EVERYTHING AND NEVER SAY “I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL” (unless you actully do know)!!! GIRLS HATE THAT!!!!!!! just be confident, open-minded, and (most of all) be sweet to them, their family, and their friends. ***do not be an overprotective or jealous guy either. at first its cute, then it gets annoying real fast.***

  • katterine

    well this is for “loving lowles’ girlfriend” .First of all I want to say that your girl or your friend is very lucky, the way you described her was really amazing; it touches me deeply . I think that it’s too late now, but anyway you need to tell her everything, tell her what you feel so as to see her reaction .you need to stop leaving in a dream!!! It’s gonna hurt you! I m sorry you love her ok!!!!!!!!!!! But tell her everything trust me! It’s the best thing to do.

  • Matt

    Wow. I thank you so much. I really hopes this works. John, that was really up lifting and going to try tomarrow to start being nice and judging my self. Thanks for all the help, and p.s. (She is sooooo hot!)

  • k

    Well theres this girl ive known for three years. We are good friends, and i just got msn about a week ago and every second day we have stayed up from 10 to 4 am talking and I make her laugh alot. I love talking to her. And I miss her alot..

    I love her obviously. And she doesnt know. But she flirts a little, we only ever do an ‘x’ at the end of a convo.. I dont know what I should do, is there any ways I can impress her or make her feel special? Or how do I tell her?

  • St30

    I am a loser essentially. I love this girl, but she won’t tell me if she likes me back for fear of hurting me and her boyfriend. It hurts to see her with him and i can’t help feeling sad all day. I don’t feel complete unless i am with her. I have a girlfriend as well but i am not showing much towards her sadly and we barely talk. I don’t know what to do, and i really would rather date the girl i love, and get rid of her boyfriend so i can date her. I know it’s heartless, but i love her. Please help meh.

  • Anonymous

    I have no idea what drew me to this site, maybe I’m just dumb but since I’m here I guess I’ll share: I met this girl on a computer game a few years ago and we’ve been really good friends and we text each other practically everyday. We live in separate states but the both of us are very alike in a few ways, especially when it comes to the relationships we’ve been in which have been “really crappy” to say the least, and despite the distance between us we’ve become so close. My problem is I’ve been attracted to her ever since we met and she currently has a boyfriend who she says is a lot like me. What do I do? Feel free to include how stupid I am for asking this question, thanks.

  • Vatanak

    Here the thing that I had. I’ll explain you through my bad english. Now I’ve girlfriend, we love each other so much. We know each other by phone (she confused the phone number) and now we’re worry about our future. Beacuse my and her parents won’t allow us to have love. And another thing we want to marry with each other while we’re grow up. So what we have to explain my and her parents if the time that we want to marry with each other arrive?
    Wait for help by ideas. Cause I have no any idea about it at all.

  • Jaidyn.T

    well i like this girl and she likes me but everyone kinda hates her and will hate me if i go out with her and i don’t know what to do

  • katterine

    Jaidyn.t , if you really like her don’t care about the others ok?? if you wanna do something do it for yourself don’t care about stupid people.think wisely, you like her she likes you, this is the most important thing isn’t it? go out with her ok? and good luck and good luck “sorry for the bad english”lol

  • Raj

    for all of you who are sitting around asking for help with
    some girl that you like…who exactly are you asking.
    Fellow peers who like you have come to this site looking
    for help. Cuz the author isnt going to read all of these
    and help every one of you.

    Presumably the majority of you are men. Well then
    be manly. get off the internet and talk with some women.
    Don’t ask stupid questions. If she said no, keep in contact but
    stop hoping and wishing for a magical formula to make it work.

    • Chris Calo

      Hey, I do read every single comment but there are 50+ comments & 60+ emails every single day so I can’t reply to all of them unfortunately.

  • Tyrone

    I met an amazing woman last year. She took me home and we started seeing eachother not long after that. She used to say she was madly in love with me, she would practise writing her new initials and signature (for when we get married). I’m in my mid twenties and she is just under five years older, I was overwhelmed and oversexed and ended up treating her with disdain and contempt. When I was in rehab she visited everyday, but when I got out I gave her the flick, then recalled her into my life. Our turbulent relations lasted a year and then we parted amicably. She has had a short relationship since with someone violent. We never stopped talking to eachother and we have recently been going out on dates for kicks, doing things right and having a ball, although she says she doesn’t want a boyfriend. Am I just a booty call?, someone familiar to have fun with?, or is this the start of something worthwhile. Help. I think I love her this time and yes I know her favorite colour, movie, songs, reactions, sense of humour and yes I think about her romantically.

  • hazar

    JAIDYN.T, if you really love her then you wouldn’t care about the other people that hate her. if you are embarrassed to go out with her then you DON’T love her.

    and by the way being embarrassed to go out with is not the same thing as being embarrassed to ask her out.

    And by the way i love a girl but i see her once a year, she’s the most beautiful girl i ever saw but i don’t have time to make a few moves!

  • tutii

    Look fellaz . . . everyone has his own point of view & we should all listen to eachother in order to understand eachothers problems & how to solve them However what i think is when a girl loves a guy too much a guy gets bored …yea? But if the girl is smart & knows how to deal with that & pulls thr strings roughly & softly in times then i think she will have him forever, Pulling the strings means sometimes she shows no interest in him & ignores him he will then feels abandoned after that he will immediately run after her & ask why is she ignoring him but not in all cases fellaz sometimes a guy really likes a girl & she likes him back & i agree with this book as it is correct & you should make her laugh & be witty towards her & always smile dont show her that your sad Only when you really have a problem then discuss it with her she might help you cause in the end your just a person that needs him when ur in trouble.

  • Jeremy

    First off. EVERYONE who is begging for help. Take a step back, and re-read the header on this page. The fact that you are begging for help and asking what you should do about everything state’s that you have low self-esteem (most the time). Be yourself. If a girl’s not interested in you, odds are it’s for a reason. take a step back, re-evaluate the situation and just get to know them. Find out if they really are a person you would like to be around a lot. It’ll help. Sorry if that was confusing but ya =P

  • HollisterGuy

    I met this girl on the internet and we talked for a few days and then we started dating over the internet. We liked each other a lot we called each other a lot almost everyday. A couple of days ago we were on the phone and she said “I Love You.” I was stopped in my tracks and didn’t know exactly how to respond, besides saying it back to her. Well then the next day she broke up with me because she said we’re going too fast. But she told me its not my fault. I just want to know what I can say or do to maybe get this relationship back on track, because things were amazing and we were both constantly happy. I truly miss her.

  • send

    I think anyone who tries too hard is doing something wrong. Truthfully, if something is going to happen, then just let it happen. You can’t force these things.

  • bobby

    ive been meeting with this girl i see as a potentiel partner and weve both admitted to liking each other but i didnt make a move. eventually she said she liked somebody elese and me both at the same time and i dont know who she likes more and i dont know what to do!

  • mani

    4 years from now I fell in desperately for a girl. We were in school. Then I was not at all serious with life, didn’t care for my turnout either. We became “friends”, just friends. She knows I like her and she avoids me now. We are in different colleges now (her’s being of higher reputation). Now I am left with everything average in my life… nothing special. There seems just no way to get her. It seems impossible that a girl would accept a boy whom she had once rejected.
    Can anyone please suggest something?? Is there any chance?

  • Collated

    I am new to this forum. I just found it and the messages look interesting. Here is one thing I don’t understand about women. A lot of women say the want a nice guy, but they look for the bad guy. The nice guy is always some schmuck she uses to cry on his shoulder when the bad guy she is with is…, well…, bad to her.

    What did these women think was going to happen with a bad guy. This isn’t rocket science, but they never look for the nice guy that they say they want. They always want to get the bad guy, and then try to change him. It would be so much simpler is they looked for a good guy that they didn’t have to change. Women always like trying to change whatever man they are with, even when they say they love him the way he is. What’s up with that???

    Men don’t do this. Men pretty much look for women they think they will be compatible with if they are looking for a long term relationship. Why don’t women do this? What’s so tough about that?

    Now here is the kicker. After a woman crys on the good guy’s shoulder, then they always go back to the bad guy until he mistreats her again, then she’s off to the good guy again. The so called ‘friend’.

    Now don’t get me wrong. There is something to be said for being committed to someone, but staying with someone who always makes you miserable is taking it to the extreme.

    I think the thing here is that a lot of women have a totally different definition for the word’s ‘Bad’ and ‘Good’ than is in the websters dictionary.

    For instance, if men see another man being a jerk, then most men know that the guy is a… wel… a jerk. DUH! But a typical woman sees the exact same guy being the exact same way when the man seen him, and she doesn’t see ‘jerk’. Instead, she sees Mr. ‘Exciting’! Go figure!

    On the flip side, if a man encounters another man who is polite and helpful, then the that man usually sees someone that he would call a pretty cool dude. Here again, a woman sees something totally different. If a woman sees such a guy, they don’t see ‘nice’. Instead, they mistake nice for weakness. Again, go figure.

    A real good example of what I am talking about is this:
    Did you know that a lot of the male prison poplation have no trouble getting one or more women wanting them. Here again, a man will see such men for who they are. Convicted felons, a lot of whom should never get out, but certain women won’t see a convicted felon. No, what they will see is a knight in shining armor.

    I remember watching some show one time about our justice system, and I was shocked to find out that Richard Remerez (probably didn’t spell that right), who is a serial killer I think, has like dozens of women a writing to him, and to be with him, and more.

    Again I say, what’s up with this? You never hear of men trying to hook up with female convicted felons.

    There are a lot of things that women are smarter about then most of us men, but picking a mate sure isn’t one of them. Not by a long shot.

    These are the kind of women I seem to always encounter. So my question is, how or where do you find women who have some commen sense, (who knows a ‘bad seed’ when she sees one) and an I.Q. that is more than my shoe size? Or are there just not many of these women around?

  • Dillon

    Okay, you guys are trying to hard. Seriously. If you’re ugly: spiffy yourself up. If you’re boring: Be more charming and ask people how to make girls laugh more. If you have acne and zits: Buy some Proactive or Clean and Clear or something. If you’re to poor to buy it: Use rubbing alcohol… It has the same exact effects as the other leading acne avoidance brands, but takes a little bit longer to achieve acne relief. If a girl doesn’t like you because you’re poor, then she’s honestly not worth your time… She’s a “gold digger.” If you’re “dumb” and she likes smart guys: Read some books. Do some research, maybee go to college? It’ll impress her that you’re trying so hard for her, especially if you’re succeeding. If she likes the type of guy that is the foot ball butt slapper type: Lift some boxes, join the gym, and join some sports. Find out what she likes. And to be honest, this is rare, but there is some girls that like nerds. So if you’re a nerd and you have a girl that talks to you a lot and texts you quite often, talk to her back =] she’ll appreciate it. If she’s the punk princess that gets everything for the price of nothing type: Don’t flatter her. She’s expecting it from you. Kind of act like you can, and have done better than her… Even if you can’t, and haven’t ever done better. These types of girls usually like a challenge… Even if the guy looks like a foot. I hope my advice has helped you. *peace*

  • ItalianStallion

    Guys, just have be true to your heart, true to yourself (dont change who you are), and be straightforward and confident. Thats all it takes. And lets face it, looks do count, but there not everything, your attitude, personality, career, the way you hold yourself holds equal value too. Looks are the initial point, and while if u have it, it helps alot, u can balance out your other qualities. And besides, most guys out there in general are average or good looking, unless your indian or pick your nose, than im sorry, there’s no help for you. But really, just do some basic grooming, be clean, confident, and be true to yourself. And if you like someone, just tell them so(dont go over-board), but ask them out, and spend time with them. you have to be comfortable with them too.

  • girl hates me

    well i like this girl and i asked my friend to ask her what you would do, if i asked her out? well he asked her today and she said no, what should i do?

    PLEASE HELP ME Chris!

  • You would know but don’t

    I like this girl very much. we have so much in common, like the same music, food, animals, places, and have esp sometimes… But she is dating this guy who is mean to her and always makes her sad but he apologizes and when she is hurt it makes me angry. I like her very much and wish I knew that she does. what do I do!?

  • Amber

    Actually guys u have it all wrong (most of u) I’m a girl so ill tell u what we like about guys (don’t ask how i got here i really don’t know) anyway us girls like the type of guys who are kind and sweet it doesn’t really matter about anything else. Girls like guys who are kind to them it doesn’t matter if your hot, smart or anything else if the girl doesn’t like u for who u are then she isn’t worth your time i really have to realize this. I was in a relationship with this guy who was smart, funny, hot but so NOT kind to me so just try to stay kind to her and you’ll have her heart sometime soon. Oh and if she says no to a date or something, try just walking home with her and try making your friends help by like pretending that they are gonna hurt her in some way and they like save her or something (but don’t run away screaming like a big wuss).

    So there’s my advise just be kind to her.
    Amber

  • ¡k.dawg¡

    Ok there is a girl I like but she’s acting like one of my friends is her boyfriend.and I asked her out at a dance once but after a little bit she said she already had a bf but later she asked me to ask another one of my friends out and he said no but now were getting closer but I’m gonna need some tips to make her love me more. The only thing is that I’m not the most handsome kid but there are also rumors going around our school. And she isn’t all that popular and were about the same popularity but I just need some tips cause I really love her. Plus I’m a bit fat.

  • narmi

    i am fall in love and don’t no how to attract her i need your help to fall her love with me

  • Bob

    If a girl says that she wants to be with you but will not say that she loves you, she actually does. Most girls have low self-esteem and they try to get guys to notice them more than we guys do. That girl is too shy around you to say she loves you, but the reason why she wont tell you she loves u is because she actually does. If a girl tells you she loves you, she doesn’t. She just thinks you are kind and stuff, and has another BF. A girl will not say she loves you until you say so yourself. And you have to look confident otherwise the girl will not be confident to put her in your hands. Also, try to hold her hand and hug her once in a while. Not too much, cuz then they will think u r a creeper, the worst comment a girl could make about a guy. Just tell her that you love her and hug her. Be very kind to her. Make some jokes, and no sex jokes. Those turn girls off. I am a 32 year old man who is married and trust me, I’ve had many girlfriends. I know what I am talking about. Oh yeah. Gel your hair. Girls like big ass hair thats wild and standing up.

  • namad

    it’s an extraordinary situation but i want a real help on this.actually there is a girl in my school and i am in love with her and i know she is also in love with me as i eavesdropped her saying this to her friend one day. we both even look in each others eyes most of the times but we haven’t talked to each other since we knew each other (for 1 years) as we both are so shy and most often i really dont know what to talk to her and how to tell her that i love har too.

  • headoverheels

    @Namad i kinda fell the same as you i like her a lot burt she doesnt like me and i try to talk to her but my mind falls blank except for her!

  • Samy

    Ok i understand how you have to be yourself but still…there is this girl i like very much and i am her best friend and i have told her i like her and i do everything like listen to her, comfort her when she wants, hug her, and everyhting else but she has a boyfriend but they have broken up like 3 times and they keep getting back together…uuuuggggghhhhhh and i’m tired of just being there for her and her best friend…oh and by the way she is a year younger than me…i am always happy and laughs at everything i do but still she hasnt…i dont know how to explain it…um…she still tells me she sees me as a guy that she can rely on that she doesnt see me more than just a friend.

    i just don’t know what to do anymore can anyone give me tips or advice…whatever that can help me get her in my arms everydaywithout her calling me her best friend :(

  • mo2nes

    i love agirl who is engaged , now days we became aclse friends but all i eve wanted to tell me how to be sure about her feelings towards me ( afriend , aguy she wna to comlete her life with or what ) ???!!!!

  • abdrahim

    hello every one at first i would like to say something is very important to me but let me explain with my bad english i have been in love with a girl but in fact his mather knew that i love you her and i spend a beautful times with her but the biggest problem she is gave up her of school ?but all that i still love her
    please tell me what can i do to marry her

  • Yang

    I am a average guy at school, who loves this girl. She is kind and pretty, girls say i m attractive but dont know how to use it,such as talking to a girl who you like. Well i met a girl, and she has given me a chance to get to know her. But i dont know how to go and talk to her when she doesn’t like to go out and also knowing that she has rejected alot of guys. I am lost and confused of what to do or how to even do it.

    How do i go and talk to her, when these problems come up?

  • Jake

    I know this is gonna sound like the rest of the stories here but I really need advice :/ it’s my last resort … So I was with my ex for just over a year but even before that we acted like a couple :/ we went through alot but at the end of the night we’d still end up talking till like 4am and telling each other how much we love each other…. We talked every day. I loved her sooo much. We both said we’d be together forever but stuff happened and now were not together… We haven’t been together for more than 2 months now… She knows I still love her, because I told her a few weeks ago but she says I shouldn’t love her because she’s not worth it but she is!! I still think about her every day and night.. But we haven’t talked peppery in ages :/ I miss it alot.. But here’s the twist in this story.. There’s this other girl who i’ve known much longer and we’ve been best friends for ages. We’ve never argues or fallen out and we’ve both always been there for each other.. We even liked each other for a while but that went away. Well now that me and my ex aren’t together anymore. My best friends told me she still likes me, after all this time. I was shocked because I can’t believe that she would wait for me :/ after a long time. Her friends told me she talks about me all the time and whenever she’s talking about me she’s smiling huugeee. And sometimes she says my name while she’s asleep. I mean wow, that’s really sweet. I don’t know what I’m going to do if she asks me out.. Because I still love my ex and it would be so unfair to be with someone while loving someone else.. My ex still talks to me and comes to me for help but she shows no signs of loving me or anything :/. Sometimes I get jealous because she talks about other guys.. So what I want to know is.. Should I wait for my ex who I’ve loved for nearly 2 years now but I’m not sure if she’d get back with me.. Or my best friend who has liked me for a good couple of years now and has waited for me even though she could date any guy she wanted.. And she even dreams of me :/ ahhhh I’m so confused! [by the way, sorry for my post being so long haha]. But if anyone could give me any advice at all.. Then please go ahead.

    •Jake•

  • Chopped and Screwed

    There’s a girl I really like. I’m always nice to her and I tell her she’s beautiful. She says I’m really nice. She liked me until I made the mistake of telling her I didn’t like her anymore, but I was joking. She got mad and now she says she likes me less, eventhough I’m nice to her again. I’ve apologised a billion times, but she still doesn’t like me like she used to. What can I do? Please respond

  • bobby

    hey everyone i would just like some advice please……i really like this girl and we’ve hung out some and kissed but thats it I havnt seen her in about a month and she just went off to stay in london for a month….i talk to her after the first week shes been there and she tells me shes staying there cause she loves it that shes coming home to get her stuff then going back for good i dont want her to go but i dont wanna hold her back should i just tell her I really like her or let her do her thing??… I think she likes me im just confused on what i should do

  • Taylor

    There is this girl who IVe recently began to like. She was a very good friend before and I always talked about my Ex girlfriend with her which sometimes made me look pathetic talking about that but she really helped me. I took her to my Prom party and we had this moment and a really good time but nothing happened (like a kiss). Now I like her but I really dont have anything to say to her, I just love spending time with her and I know I can make her happy, I just need to make her like me first if its possible.
    Any advice,
    Taylor

  • fz

    i met this guy three years ago, we became instant friends and from then on have been best friends, hes always there for me just like i am there for him, he will do anything for me. he is with me all the time. recently our relationship went from best friends to soulmates, he told me he would marry me. after a year, a fight among our families occured and he decided that it may not be such a good idea for us to be together and broke it off but said he still would be friends. we r still best friends, he does anything and everything for me, i have whatever i ask for before i can even ask for it.. he stays with me all the time, i donno if he still wants to be with me? i KNOW he still loves me, but because of family i dont think he wants to be with me

  • BOB MARLEY

    I am insanely inlove with a girl my parents are good friends with her parents shes two years younger than me but theres a rather large problem i live in england and she lives in australia i sometimes talk to her on facebook but i dont think she feels as i do does anybody have any advice.

  • Deniss

    Hello there, i am in love of a girl that knows me well but i cant express my feelings because she got a boyfriend, thats really a computer geek…, so i need an advice, how i need to proceed to get that girl >? plz post something fast

  • IDRISS

    I Love someone deeply but I don’t know what to say before her.Please advice me.

  • Jake

    Best thing to actually do is to take a chance and tell her how you feel :] make sure it’s from the heart and sweet and stuff coz girls like that aha xD

  • jamer

    how can i know if the girl of my dreams likes me?
    she said that she wants her prince charming to be gentle,kind,smart,many friends and most importantly good in drawing…………….
    i was kinda shock that day!!!!
    and theres a time that she said im the most gentle and kindhearted boy she ever met…………..
    my face is really red when she say that and she just smiled and said im cute!!!!!

  • uncertain

    I’m posting here because I hope someone can advise me on my situation:

    There is this very good looking girl, who i don’t just like for her looks but for her personality: her boldness, sexyness, her caring smile and mainly how self-assured she is. Now the situation is thus: our dads are friends, that’s how we got to know each other, we go on holiday a lot together and last year on holiday I for some reason became very attracted to her (probably the reasons listed above). Now the thing is I have a younger brother, she has a younger sister… and I had the feeling she was hitting on my younger brother, I just couldn’t understand why because in my eyes I was better in all ways. Anyway, we shared a bed (brother and sister in the room, nothing happened) and that was alot of fun. The holiday ended and the longer we were apart the more I fell in love with her, but I had no reason to act on it because we lived far away from each other and she hadn’t given me the impression that she was even interested in me. Then, since I had never kissed a girl, she offered to kiss me next time we go on holiday together (she offered via msn). We stayed in contact through msn, and now… a lot later she tells me she had a crush on me last summer. She thought i was very hot coz of my sixpack and stuff (she’s right). But the problem is.. she now has a boyfriend and she is going on holiday with that boyfriend to the same place we went :(. On the brightside she has had a fight with her boyfriend not so long ago, and threatened to break it up with him. Even if she does she will still go on holiday with him.

    OK ! WTF am I supposed to do? keep in mind i really like this girl (and srry for the long story, I hope you read all of it)

    THNX

  • uncertain

    @JAKE

    Listen it’s totally your decision. life is about choices and the choices you make, make you who you are. I can’t choose for you (hehe but if I could I would go for the girl you love, because it’s not fair to yourself or your good friend to pretend to love someone that you don’t and tbh i don’t think it’s even possible)

  • uncertain

    Srry, as an extra on my first post… this girl way too often totally ignores me when i say hi orso on msn. or she just doesnt answer my text messages. Thats actually the main thing that pisses me off. Is this just her playing games with me? because she actually likes me? Or is it because she feels im putting too much pressure on her? (i know i do but i just like talking to her so much that i cant resist) She always apologizes later and has some lame excuse :(

  • jai

    HI, I fallen in love with one girl. She will look me and smile at me. she is very shy. when i approach her for talk she doesnt want to talk to me. so please help me how to talk to her

  • ABED

    tell her jokes and if it doesn’t work try to be more skillful in telling tragedies stories .

  • Jake

    @uncertain I’m over my ex now and I’m happily with the friend I talked bout :) thanks for your advice!!!!! And bout ur situation, i think ou should just back off her slightly. If she wasn’t playing you, then she’d break up with her boyfriend. Does she still tell you her feelings for you? If so then she is playing you. But if you really love her man, then wait for her :)!!!

  • heart broken yung

    i love this beautiful girl, who once loved me. but like a stupid over excited fool i had to tell one person that i felt like i was swimmin in love and with a blink of an eye it was over! i feel stupid for doing that and wish i could take it back! she says i am her best guy friend that she NEEDS in her life and i cant leave. i want to gain her heart back with the romantic desire she once felt for me. not bad looking just need help and guidance. you can help me by replying to this on a comment or on facebook

  • 7ama

    i love a girl she is in my college we where just close friends at first but i started to love her very much at first i thiught she knew that and she was not refusing me she seemed to be,but the problem was she was having a boyfriend and i already knew that but couldnt stop my self for loving her so i didnt stop and tried to make her love me but she seemed to love the other guy verymuch,but i never got hopeless i told her but she didnt refused she said there is that other guy and cant leave her so i said i have a chance coz she didnt say no,so i was telling her love u almost every day and she was laughing at me and was saying OK,so i kept telling her,and i knew things were going not in agood way with the other guy she was fighting with him every day,so they broke up,but i knew i made them like that and that made me sad some times but later i knew the guy was just playing with here and was spending time with her,so i felt i did a good job they broke up after 3 years,and that was my chance so i told her I LOVE U again and she agreed,she said that back but now 5 monthes has passed and every day we fight she says that i mad her sad and she loves the other guy even i told her he was just playing with u,now we almost broke up she told me not to call her any more and when we see each other we are like enimies but iam crazy in love with her please help me i cant stop the pain what shoud i do i really wanna die..

  • Kial

    My love just left me, she says she want something new..weve been happily in love for 4 years. now without reason she leaves..what should i do?

  • Jake

    @uncertain
    Dude you sound like a great guy and if she’s playing you then she doesn’t deserve your love. When my ex found out I was going out with my friend, she sent me a text saying “whatever you do I know you will always love me like I’ll love you”. A few months ago I would of loved her to say that but she’s just sent that AFTER I got with my friend so she only wants me because I’m over her and she can’t have me. You should just ignore her and see how she likes it :] but if your willing to wait for her to break up with her bf, then that’s your choice :D!!

  • jp

    i love this girl she is my classmate but i have a rival that is stronger than me but uglier than me please help me

  • Julian

    Ok, I love this girl and she used to constantly text me like “hey” or something everyday, Don’t get me wrong i loved it, but then we went to a movie with her friend’s i put my arm around her and every thing but then after the movie ended her mom call and said something like “i’ve been waiting out her for a while” so she and her friends rushed and just said “Bye”.
    So next week i told her i needed to tell her something in person and she kept asking wat was it, then i asked if she wanted to go to the movies again.
    I was going to ask her out but when i sent the text she said “we can go as friends” and after that she never texted me again. Idk what i did, and sometimes after that i notice that she had eye contact and when i looked the turned her head !!

    How do i get her to like me again ?

  • Ashish

    Well, Julian
    I guess you need to have a start as a friend again. I think she felt insecure the way your relation was going. Rather than face the fact she may have tried to down play it. You should try having sort of contact with her again before asking her out, as a friend. This might give her the time to analyse you again. Start texting her. If no response you can ask what happened. You deserve an answer when you are sincere. But if there is no response even after 5-6 texts, Stop them as she might feel you are stalking her. You can start with something else then. All the best mate… take care

  • Uncertain

    @ Jake
    Its very nice of you to say that I sound like a great guy but you don’t know me well enough for me to feel honored;) to me you are the one that sounds great: you have 1 girl calling your name out in her sleep and another trying to win back your love! It sounds like you made the right choice though. Anyway I’m not good at ignoring someone I have such passionate feelings about even if it would mean I have a better chance with her. At the moment she is the one ignoring me and that makes it hard to ignore her back;) maybe she doesnt deserve me if she treats me like this, but at the moment she is the only girl i could imagine ever being with. I’m planning to just tell her fair up and straight that i don’t like having to wait for so long for a response to my texts. (I don’t expect you to read this or awnser, but it just feels good to be able to talk about it.

  • Uncertain

    @ Julian
    To be honest I think she didn’t want to be more than friends in the first place but naturally I may be mistaken, if I am mistaken then maybe you could just ask her why it is different between you two than it used to be, it will show her you have some balls and that alone is probably enough for her to feel she owes you the truth. You could tell her that for you in the beginning it was also just as friends, but that you started to like her (give the little reasons why) and that you would like to see where it leads.

  • Girll

    Seriously, everything Normalgirl has said is correct. Just be yourself, and to guys that are waiting for a girl that only wants sex, or random kisses, or stuff like that and she has another guy,, GIVE UP. Why would you want a girl that cheats anyway?? If shes cheating on a boy now by doing stuff with youu, she WILL cheat on you later with another guy if you two ever get together. Don’t go after girls that use you. (Even if you don’t want to admit it, if you feel like she’s using you for things, she most likely IS.) You are a good enough person to deserve a girl that loves you for YOU. Not for kisses, etc.

    And to guys that are after a girl who calls you “best friend,” or “like a brother,” it may or may not turn into a good, real relationship! I know from experience that “best guy friends” can turn into the best relationships. If a girl calls you her best friend and loves to talk to you, hang out with you, etc, she probably has a little bit of feelings for you at least. Your job is to not be crazy about it. Like dont ask her out, over and ever again. maybe just once, to see how she reacts… most likely if she says I dont knooww, or buut you’re my friendddd, etc shes thinking about it in her mind and trying to see whether or not shes willing ot try a relationship with you! =O Just try once though thats it.
    if she says no but still keeps that really close relationship with you, there’s hope. Just be the best person you can be.
    BE THERE when she needs you, wnats to talk, wants to hang out, wants to do anything. but DO NOT LET HER JUST USE YOU.
    if a girl KNOWS she has you wrapped around her finger, she does not/will not let your relationship go any further. youre just a boy she can manipulate into doing/saying whatever she wants and she probably knows its wrong but she cant stop because you LET HER. dont let her take advantage of you/use you in any way. if you do she WILL NOT fall in love with you. Youre just her pet and you let yourself be her pet, so why should she give you anything in return? She wont. If you are already in that kind of relationship where youre “friends” but she uses you for things, STOP. from now on when she asks you to do things with her, say no. No matter how hard it is, no matter how much you might want to, no matter how much you think shell start liking you if you do those things, SAY NO. Shell start to realize, (hopefully,) that you are a human being with feelings too, and stop treating you like her puppet. Maybe shell even grow respect for yo =o if she doesn’t respect you she wont like/love you. EVER.

    When you start to respect yourself girls will too. Be happy, be fun, be funny if you can, flirt a litttle but not too much, be HONEST and open, if youre open with her she will most definitely be open right back with you=] girls love to talk about their feelings haha, so if you open up she’ll open up to you and she’ll be glad to do it and love talking with you. dont ignore her, but dont “stalk” her or be creepy about it. just make it seem casual, and natural… then the relationship will likely flow naturally too. =]

  • Jake

    @Uncertain
    I like talking bout it too xD that’s a great idea actually. Instead of texting her, tell her straight up how you feel and that you don’t like waiting. Because then she’d have to say it to your face instead of stalling it :]

  • sadface

    hi i have a crush on this girl who already has a boyfriend and i have tried on her a few times but messed up and i feel really shy to talk to her but she hates me and doesn’t like to talk to or help me what can i do????

  • redoy

    LOVE means that——-
    L=Loss
    O=Of
    V=Valuable
    E=Energy

  • just me

    I have a big problem…im in love with the prettiest girl in the world…that´s the problem..i think she´s way to beautiful for me..but im to in love with her that i dont want her to go of my mind…i need help..i cant talk to her…there was a day that she talked me i was very nervous and i answer her..after she left i felt very happy because i talked to her..but after that im to in love that i cant talk her because im way to nervous she´s to everything to me…the worst part is that i think im nothing to her…im not even her friend..she thinks our conversation in messenger are the weirdest. Now im in a big depression, im very sad… i want her at least to talk me and then in a sooner future make her the happiest girl in the world..make her my love.. because she’s the one that make me smile.

  • “Spicy”

    Hey.. I don’t have any problems with getting the girl to love me.. Its just I don’t get it.. They’ll say they love me and all.. but then out of the blue just break it off… Like i’ll keep everything interesting and exciting… It’s never the same routine.. I always get really attached.. And I’ll keep loving even after they’re long gone, cause I’ll always be there for someone.. but it seems no one will always be there for me.. =(

  • MobiusStripping

    How are you supposed to stay happy, when your entire life you’ve been rejected and cast aside because of things you can’t control. I can’t walk and women don’t want me. When I was 17, a girl told me that noone will ever love you. You just can’t provide what we want. When I was 21, I was told that I need to stop trying. I’m 26 now, and fully understand that women never truly love men. They only love themselves, and what the man has.
    Love is a chemical reaction in the brain. The trick is to suppress it.

  • SoftTouchHer

    There seems to be a lot of anger and despair from many of you guys. It is definitely a dog-eat-dog love world. Don’t give up. Don’t stop looking. Be confident in what you have, and what you have to offer. Over-affection can be rough on a woman, don’t do it. At the same time don’t neglect her. If you are able to find the proper balance you can make her happy forever. Yes, it’s difficult to find that balance, but that’s why I say keep trying to find her. All of your previous relationships with women you loved only serves the greater purpose; to find the one you are compatible with who you can make happy forever. Good luck gentlemen.

  • Audrey

    Guys, hear me out for a minute :)

    I’ll try to put this simply.

    There is always someone out there for everybody!

    I’m a girl, and have been around my share of all different types~ (not dating, lol, i mean friends and aquaintences wise :] )

    Every girl varies! We each have our own personal preference of what we like/look for in a guy~ And im pretty certain the same thing goes vice versa :]

    My best advice is to simply get to know a girl first and learn the type of person she is, what she is all about, and what she likes… Because you have girls that are either very intellectual and down to earth,.. or very PHONY and two faced…

    some that only cares about a guys appearance and others for their personality.

    Depending on the type of guy you are (and i stress this completely) if you have forked over your heart and soul to get a girl to notice or even fall in love with you and nothing works, its not your fault… It was because SHE wasn’t the right girl for you.

    Hope this helps…

    If any of you guys are confused or stuck on a girl, im here to listen and give my best advice :]

    Btw: What i look for in a guy:

    -One that respects and values himself. Those that respect and values themselves first will respect and value other people~
    -The Intellectual Conversationalist- as well as the great open-minded listener
    -The go-getter and goal setter!
    -Intelligence is attractive, btw… Stupidity is not :)
    -One who speaks and does things sincerely~ and doesnt try tooo hard to be something hes not just to get a girl.

    ……yeahh ^-^”

  • benkim

    I have one problem. Whenever I am with this girl that I haven fallen in love with her big time, I seem to have a problem of not really having stuff to talk about. Actually the first time we had a conversation she told me outright that she usually is not the talkative one and getting conversations going with her is pretty difficult. The thing is I really really like her and want to get her to fall in love with me but how can I do that if we cannot even strike up a conversation? I believe that if we got to know each other a little better we would be able to get conversations going so I am in a dilemma. Should I risk telling her how I feel and maybe she may give me the chance. I am calling it a risk because I have a feeling it is too early to do so and she may freak out. The thing is I don’t think I really have a choice.
    Any help on this will be very very appreciated.

  • black

    i want to to make her but shes 4 years older than me and she wants a little more if you know what i mean and she says that she lost the feeling she had for me before

  • shailesh

    i love the girl she loves me or not I don’t know but she says i love you and main thing is she is always behind money give me money give me money i had given her money on saturday and again when she calls or i call her everytime she asks for money is this a true love or shall i quit with her please help me!

  • Basit rasta bou

    am in love with a girl but i don’t know what to do so that she would love me. also i find it difficult to say ‘i love you’ to that girl

  • Chantelle

    Hey i’ve been seeing lots of posts of guys where they say they love a girl and she doesn’t love them back. If you watch romance movies or read romance books you can probably pick up on some of the things girls fantasize about when finding the love of their life. As said before, it may sound like just a fantasty but there is someone out there for you all, and if you try being with one girl and she only wants to be friends in the end, then thats the way it is I suppose. Im a girl, and I think that after you try things out for a while and the girl isn’t falling for you then its best to circle around a different group and see if theres anyone else. I know its not as easy as it sounds, trust me I know. Theres a chance and time frame that you have to impress her, and I guess with all these pages on this site it shouldnt be too tricky.

    If you guys really want to know what girls are swooning over why dont you read up 100 things that women find attractive? It applies onto teenage girls as well, read up some of the stuff and it will make you knowledgable on how to win over that girls heart.

    Hey btw, girls dont judge on looks that much. Honestly as long as you have a good personality and look half-decent its not a big deal. Besides if youre having troubles like acne, bad hair, weird clothes, fatness or things that make you feel insecure theres always ways to fix them. Invest in some acne cream, new shampoo, new wardrobe with clothes that suit your body, and spend some time at the gym to slim down and gain muscles! Its possible, so theres no harm in starting. :)

    But good luck to all of you in making that girl fall for you. And dont forget to read those 100 things that are found attractive, that list is spot on!

  • sagar

    i have fallen with a girl in my class and often tend to look at her and even she does the same , but i have no guts to go ask her out , how can i know if she likes me? Plz help

  • dizydaydeam

    i’m a teenage girl and we want nice guy. if a girl looking at you she probly cheeking you out.

    so find a reson to talk to her and always smile and be nice take an interest in her life and what she enjoys and ubove all complement her.

    btw we dont care much about what you look like as long as your half-desent it wont mater. were not that sallow.

    now ive given some advise pls help me theres a guy i like but how do i get him to take to me plz help

    p.s we like a funny guy even if it s sh*t joke we’ll notics it
    love Lizzie
    xxxx
    hope i help

  • …..

    I was on a cruise and i made lots of friends. (before school started)Even got a hair away from a girlfriend, but when school started i felt like i was king of the world. Until i noticed girls hate me in my school yet they love me if they dont know me from school. Why? P.S im kinda popular have plenty of confidence when hanging around them yet only a handful acknowledge me!

  • uncertain

    @kingsley

    Send her an sms instead? And if you keep calling her, she might think you really need her and you aren’t strong enough to be on your own. Think about it… how interested are you in a girl that never talks to anyone and doesn’t have any friends, how big is the chance that you will be attracted to her if she aproached you. Now imagine that same girl laughing and having fun with her friends, but then she starts talking to you (maybe together with her friends). You would be much more attracted to her (right?). So maybe you need to show this girl that you can be fun to be around and that you’re a laugh (or if you’re a serious guy that you can have een good conversation) and you should show you have alot of friends.

    And calling can be very direct, so maybe just send her an sms in wich you ask how her day was.

    On the other hand, this could just be a busy girl that genuinly doesn’t have a lot of time… Maybe you should respect that, and keep in mind if she doesn’t have a lot of time right now she won’t have a lot of time for YOU later.

    I’m just a random dude that has no clue as to what to do… just giving some idea’s. I hope they help

  • vishvanath

    there is difference between the things we value most and the things girls value most? how to cross the barrier? we can be happy for a variety of reasons .without knowing the reason for which one which is happy how can we want such person to around us?

  • raskofy

    i have. been chasing a girl for 3yrs, in which she always tells me she is in a relationship,but 4 now she told me there is a broke up and she does not believes i men any longer ,so is very difficult for her to fall in love.[there is one thing i thing she likes me and she has given me her pictures but i can make tell me I LOVE U]

  • Freddie

    I really need a way i can get my ex back

  • Arup Nath

    I love a girl very much… we met each other by phone. Somehow I got her no n just had sent a message. She itself started messaging me as she told me that she likes to chat with me.
    Our friendship has become more stronger but now the main problem is that she already has a boyfriend. I don’t know about their relation strength…
    Though she has a boyfriend, I still love her…
    Will you please tell me how to get her feelings towards me?? Because I don’t think that somebody else will replace her in my mind.

  • harry

    i love my neighbor so much but she doesnt know that i do and i dont even know if she likes me. im pretty sure she doesnt.
    we use to speak alot when we were younger but we never do now. we are classed friends. we would get on well if we spoke.
    she is wonderfull.
    i really want to tell but im to scared she might not love me back

    what should i do and how should i tell her i love her if i do ?

  • http://www.waytoosocial.com/ Chris Calo

    Apparently a lot of people are finding this page looking for five things every girl does before she meets her boyfriend.

  • james

    i really click with this girl, she i just perfect for me. We have one class together, when i look at her it feels like i recognise her from childhood. I’m pretty sure she likes me and i think she is just perfect! We could talk all day if we had the chance… i wish we did!
    anyway, good luck all!

  • ecelle

    when u’re in love with a girl, there is no point hidding your feelings cos it will make things worse but rather be bold enough to walk up to her and express your desires.

  • bayaan

    If we love someone,but he or she doesn’t show any sign that she or he love us.Is it better if we just keep hiding our feeling or just tell her or him that we love them?

  • bilal

    hi i love a girl i meet with her in internet me and her is a good friends but after so much struggle i become her friend but in past many people break her heart insult her and thats y she said no love miss kiss she feel irritate she stop her last effort to get love in 2007 then she go to her friend netherland she live with him now she and he have good understanding but i realy love her and i want to make her fall in my love because with out her iam incomplete plz help me to make my love complete with her i love her so much that only God knows how much i love her one more she is christan and iam muslim but for me its not problem and one more iam 23 she is 30 so thats also not problem the problem is how i make her fall in my love and plz help me to solve this problem

  • Noel

    Just be your self and be patient.

  • Ashish

    i hope this works out.

  • Almost Famous

    I love this woman and she loves me, but shes married…Shes my Mom! LOL!! Why don’t you ask your parents thats what they are for!!! Completely rid your mind of what you think is love based on this pop-culture world, then look inside of yourself to find the answer, trust me its there.

  • tink

    i am in love with this guy. he knows i like him and hates the fact that everyone knows. apparently he used to like me as a friend and now he hates me cos he thinks i spread the rumour that i like him. we never talk but we used to.

  • Agent

    I love a girl that in my thinking she’s in love with other one what can i do to impress her and make her love me instead ?!! need fast answer

  • Think

    so.. i felt in love with a girl.. he loves me at all! but i dont know how to start a longer conversation… u know what i mean.
    so how can i always talk to her without interrupts for 1 min .. more or less??

  • Think about it

    Yes I think that there is a thing called love but I don’t believe in it .I think love is for the weak minded.if you feel love it makes you weak and makes you do stupid things.I think love is for the very young and the old .hit it and quit it is the too live

  • a girl

    I read that someone here doesn’t know how to keep a long conversation going with a girl. Well the thing is, girls will talk about anything, as long as you keep telling her things that you are interested in (while giving her plenty of room to react, comment, or change the subject if she wants to) just don’t get quiet, if you’re happy and talk about things you are comfortable with, you will appear much more confident than when you are struggling to find words, which, however adorable in some cases, isn’t what you want. It doesn’t matter what you talk about, as long as you talk to eachother. In time it will get easier and feel more natural to talk to her and you won’t get shy, you’ll be able to share more personal stories and get to know eachother better. Just don’t become her best friend.. make sure she knows you’re interested but don’t be pushy either.

    I guess we’re a needy bunch haha, good luck guys.. there’s someone for everyone.

  • sam

    well for everyone out there
    you have really alot of questions
    me too

    seriously i always wanted to take the courage n talk to girls, i had preety bad self esteem. got so depressed, since other guys where getting girls attention. i was not happy.

    then i said WHAT DO I DO?
    WHY AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH AS OTHERS?

    then i said who cares i will do what i like, n didnt care about anything else
    i started attending gym since i always wanted, i got build up
    and i m really happy n people around me r happy because i make their day
    and they want me to be around them

    i get peoples attention alot, telling me that i am hot, n build and heapz complement of each girl at my uni. but dont really admit i am, dont wanna act so cocky.

    Girls now ask me to meet up, go out, and they also flirt alot.

    out of all these thing
    my advice is to be happy and if your not then work on stuff to make you happy. also be alot nice to girls, even though they say ur the nicest person i met, i get that alot but seriously dont act cocky.

  • Oliver

    Yea i know how love feels.

    at least i think i do… I think about her all the time.
    When i wake up, the first thing i think about is her, when i go to sleep.. there she is again.
    I can’t get her out of my mind!
    Her eyes are the most beautiful things on Earth, her smile and her perfectly white teeth.
    I could sit and watch her for years of years and never grow tired.
    I’m damn sure that this girl, is my girl! And i do love her.
    We chat every single day, but it’s like were losing the touch.. We are separated by many miles.. I just want to hold her in my arms and kiss her. Why can’t I just do that god? Why can’t she just be mine forever.

  • Oliver

    P.S.
    @Parth
    Tell her how you feel mate, tell her that you love her. She deserves to know.
    And if it’s meant to be, she’ll tell you the same.
    All the best, your internet friend
    Oliver:)

  • neos

    i’m kind of the jealous type, and i always want to have my girl’s attention.
    what should i do?
    i there some way i could keep having her attention?
    or do i have to let her be with her other friends?
    and what should i do to stop being jealous?
    thanks!

  • elie

    i know a girl from 1 month till now , sometimes i feel she is close to me , she is in same work place she comes and helps me at do my work and she comes always and sit next to me at work , i feel she likes me ,she gave me her earings so i keep her on my mind when at home , she was going for a nose surjery for about 12 days , so i had to tell her that i love her and ill miss her then i ask her if she ll miss me she said : <> . deep inside me ,i feel she doesnt love me . I guess she will never tell me that she loves me . I love her too much what can i do!!!?

  • elie

    she said : i dont know if ill miss u ill tell when ill come back

  • CHubby

    @ Neos: Jealousy is bad and and it sometimes ruin the relationships. U shouldn’t be jealous, it is only a fearful feeling that u have toward something that has not happened yet or might not happen at all. I used to be jealous too but u just need to try having complete trust to her…If she cheats on you, she isn’t worth ur love, right ? And don’t be so emotional and attached to her time. Giving yourself a fixed amount of time that u want to spend with her. Then, doing your own things, and somehow it is an attraction that you create to her. However, u can abuse jealousy to show your feelings to her…..it worked for me :))
    Good luck not being jealous ok!!!

  • Banti

    Excellent Concept. The real truth. It can change any bodies life.

  • Tim

    Soo, I like this girl and she says she likes me..we’ve been friends for awhile and have always seemed to like each other..she initiated the text and we’ve been talking for the last two weeks..she has a lil’ boy (quite the awesome and cute lil’ kid) and she doesn’t get too spend really any time with me and I’ve explained to her a couple of times that that’s perfectly fine and she a wonderful mother and I wouldn’t do anything to take that away from them but she seems at times like she doesn’t want tt to me n sometime doesn’t answer my calls or texts..but yet then again when we do talk she seems
    Really happy..I’m confused and really do like her n just have absolutely no idea what to do!! Any ideas for me? Any would help!!

  • Ruben

    Hi,

    I have this problem, i am in love with this sweet girl, and she thinks i am sweet aswell, but i have one big problem. There is this one guy, she is kinda in love with him, but she doesn’t want anything to do with him, because he treats her like an asshole., but whenever he is nice, she just falls in love with him again. I have the feeling though she really likes me, but that other guy is just a major player, to whome she cannot resist.

    Should i go for her without fear, or should i just forget about her (the guy, btw isn’t interested in having a relationship with her, at all, and she know it).

    Any1 with tips?

    TYVM! :)

  • Ckona

    I like this girl in my class. Shes quiet, 2 quiet. Everytime 2 make a conversetion with her i fail. I dont knw if she likes me but i would probably marry if given a chance. What should i do to make her like me and be comfortable enough 2 have a conversation with me?

  • trash

    i am into a 1 month online relationship with a girl and we both daily share a lot of time,fun and chat on net and are good friends, i want to ask her phone number but i am afraid if it would annoy her as this is the thing girls wont like to share with a guy she only knows as an internet friend.Am i getting too fast,also i want to propose this girl but i think its too early and it can end up our friendship, I NEED HELP anyone help me plz

  • mahesh

    hi the words which here are not the things which made me and my girl fall in love .if you want to love a girl be some one she always wnats to see you again and again in my love story i did even tell her that l love you and said are you doing me or not she said give me time if you rae doing me that in the break of the school say hi if not do not see me she said ok after i went to school she said hi to me i was happy what i say is if you love do not be feared if you fear then do not love

  • SURYA

    i am in love with one girl i can do anything for her but there is one problem she is verry innocent and she will not love me she scarces of me and she thinks that i am idiot so what should i do tomake fall in love with me

  • Rahul

    I recently proposed a girl but after two days of thinking she rejected me but whe my teacher asked her that ‘if you really love him’ she said yes than he asked her ‘then why you rejected him’ she said nothing and left crying. What should i do . Plz mail

  • Soothing

    Hello there, Kaci.

    Seems like you’ve gotten yourself into quite the situation there and are kind of stuck at the current point of your relationship with this guy. What I think you should do (personally), is to tell him exactly the way you feel; “he makes me feel like im not worth it” you know, as the old saying goes.

    Try to ask him for which reasons/for what reason he’d get trashed if he’d go out with you and perhaps bring your friendship up to the next level. Now if he’s willing to tell you his story and explain it to you, ask him the question “Why? Ain’t I worth it?”.

    Although, it does depend a lot on what the reason may be. If you feel like “Whoa, he’d really have to go through a tremendous amount of trouble to be with me.”, then it has to be something severe. Think of how much weight those reason(s) may matter to him, how much weight they carry in his opinion. If you deem those reasons to not be enough, then ask him the reason as to why you aren’t worth it and compare X example to you etc etc and try to convince him.

    Don’t freak out at him if though, stay calm, because nobody likes it when someone yells at them, right?

    However, if he still rejects you after you’ve tried to convince him into accepting you as his girlfriend, then move on, and open up another chapter of your life and explore what it yet has to unfold for you.

    Those are my cents, but ultimately, it’s up to no one else except for you and how you feel about his response.

    A side note, to all those who seek advices on this very page aswell;
    No one can help everyone out there with their issues regarding their love life, especially since some of you only leave us with very brief notes on what your actual issue is centered around.

    I’d recommend the lot of you to read the book “Double your Dating”, I’m sure your questions will be answered if you should pay it a read, as it covers a lot of the things you may have issues with.

    Regards, someone who does not wish to reveal his name, lol.

  • Soothing

    Also to add something; You cannot MAKE or FORCE someone into loving you. It all relays on the decesions you make, how the person feels about you, what value she finds in you etc, and also how you act towards her and others while he’s/she’s around.

    Please, read the other articles that you think may be related to your problem(s). You can find them just to the left of the article and/or beneath those 4 links.

    Also, another note Kaci…
    Don’t be all too pushy with it, might seem a little bit off if you do, but that doesn’t mean that you should just put off all the “pushing”. Keep on going strong about what you want to propose as it seems like he’s alright with it. Best of luck to ya. :P

  • abordam

    am a nice guy but no one love’s me
    what must i do

  • Johnson

    I am a student of delta state university..there is this girl i love but i am shy to speak to her.maybe i dnt what to tell her.pls help me

  • Brian

    Hello. My girlfriend and I just broke up, although it is a long and confusing story. Too long to tell the whole thing here. I’ll summarize the last couple of weeks. We were great together, but there was another guy that she had feelings for before she met me that she never quite got over. That other guy was the only reason we broke up. Deciding between us was making her crazy. Now she has seen what he is really like (a womanizer who only wants to sleep around) which sent a shock to her already emotional state of mind. She said that she was completely done with him and couldn’t believe that she even considered him in the first place. Now she just wants to be friends with me rather than trying again. I have no problem just being friends with her. I will live my life regardless. If things should ever happen again and we start up then so be it, but I’m not going to put my life on hold waiting for her. She needs to see how happy my life is, and then miss how happy she was with me.

  • kevin

    ”love is blind hard to find”

  • kameneko

    @vishvanath
    is there difference between the things we value most and the things girls value most? how to cross the barrier?

    yes, may there are differences because of different side point of view. like.. girl do and think emotionaly, but boy with logic.
    how to cross the barrier?
    touch her heart and u’ll win her.

    do not think what best for her in ur point of view, but ask her, what does she like and dislike..
    and the tips is, love her sincerely but do not worship her, dont be her doormat.
    if u do all the things and all didnt work out, then.. may be she’s not the one, do not push things too far or u just drive her further.

    @all boys:
    do not worry bout things as ur appeareance, but if u do,
    well.. girls like clean and nice smell/odor (u dont have to use parfume, as long u dont smell bad)
    so changes ur clothes everyday, bath 2-3 times a day, comb ur hair. just simple things like that enough to NOT drive girls away.
    and for the next step, to attract them,
    just be u, be honest, do not break ur words/promises, try a bit jokes and try to learn things that girls like (read some magz or books will ya.. hahahah).
    well, lot of (not all) girls like smart and humorous boy ^^

    anyway.. the ratio men :girl over the world is 1:7
    so why worry guys? ^^

  • sanket

    305.Hello, So over the past two years I have known this girl to a lesser extent, but we have been in and actively participating many of the same clubs such as best buddies. I have always thought of us as friends until about a month ago when we started talking more and more. I have one class with her, but we have many of the same teaches so sometimes we talk about school, sometimes best buddies, and sometimes just fun stuff. After every lesson in math I would normally go over to where she sits, or she would come to me, and we would spend time talking. We share many of the same morals, ethics, and interests and it seems that over the past month things have really hit off, or so I think. I spent a couple times staying up till all hours to help her understand how to do things.

    The only thing is though that I spoke to a mutual friend a while ago (probably when I first was really started to take interest in her) and asked him about her and her relationship status. I know she is single, but about a month ago he said she was interested in someone else who is not her usual type (he then mentioned that people like me are). But that was a while ago and now that we are talking every day for a while, I’m not sure if things are changing or not.

    Basically, how can I tell if things do start to develop between the two of us, and if they are, what might be some signs, and how might I go about to take our friendship up one level?

  • Ahmed

    hey listen , I love this girl that i really like but she is going thro problems that she cant tell me the and am also trying my best to give her attraction but she told me that it wont work and i dont want to try it cuz if we break up we wont be friends anymore ,,, i just want to ask her out or ummmm like could yu help me by giving me some topics to talk about with her PLZZZ ,,, reply quickk :D

  • William :D

    Ahmed:
    It seems like she doesn’t know you well. she will tell you things if she trusts you and you listen and become closer to her don’t try to jump right in her personal life. start a bet slower talk to her about her day or if she is doing any thing this weekend don’t try to come on to strong or it will scare her and have confidence when you talk to her believe me i know i have the girl i always wanted but she didn’t just fall into my lap it took some time to have her open up enough.

    Good Luck Ahmed :D

  • Celestin

    Really this love is like a game.You love someone and you keep loving constantly,if one cheats you no mess up, or lacking self confidence.You just have to keep in touch with her.This is crazy men.

  • Saiju

    I am in love with a girl, but she loves me as a friend, but her acts like a loving gal

  • Saiju

    She is love me, that is not frndship and love, i dont know what it is?

  • Mark

    at school all the girls laugh at my jokes smile at me glance at me i have asked 2 of them out one said no and the other said she couldn’t because shes taken i like this other girl though she not at my school but after the first 2 let downs of got no courage and we hardly see each other theres a pary coming up soon how do i hint to her that i like her should i compliment they way she looks

  • Pavan

    I am a settled guy with a good job in hand & financially planned future. I had a set of priorities for my wife to be and I found one in my part-time college.

    She is a girl in between traditional and modern society, she has a good career too. I don’t know if she has plans for arranged marriage or love marriage.

    From past 6 months I have been trying to get her into a chat or conversation (not aggressively). I send her an inspirational text every other day or once in couple of days. But when i try to converse with her on text of phone call, she tries to cut it down. But when we meet in-person in college, she speaks fine and her body language is comfortable with me.

    Please suggest me how to get her to interact with me ?

  • seriously confused

    i have been experiencing a similar problem only my problem being i dont know if the guy ive fallen in love with really does love me.

    i met him on a cell phone game chat in november of this year and we began dating talked on the phone somtimes 3 times a day and this lasted for the first 2 weeks we dated but then oneday he didn’t call and continued not calling or texting me for a week so i had assumed we were over and deleted him from my face book and began dating another guy and then 3 days after i had been dating the other guy the first guy calls me and i was afraid to answer the phone because i realized i still loved him and felt bad about giving up on him to quickly so i dumped the other guy and went back to him but ever since we got back together he will only call me or text me once every 3 to 5 days but i think im in love with him how can i tell if he truly feels the same?the only other problem is the guy im dating lives half way cross country and we only communicated by phone what should i do?is he testing me?

    any and all advice is greatly apretiated,please help:(im seriously confused

  • seriously confused

    ps guys you got it all wrong, if a girl only asks you for money thats not love.the best type of girl is 1 who values personality and a good heart over looks and wealth trust me guys theres alot of these types out there u just need to take a closer look and if you only date for looks yourself you may never find the true meaning of love.

  • Sakib

    I like a girl,how can i say it to her????

  • William :D

    Most likely she does love you Saiju just flirt with her a bet and after you find out she is falling for you make you move ask her out or something teasing works well like push her just a little friendly push and she might push back just flirt thats all i got to say just dont come on too strong :)

  • patrick

    I havple told me that she is a flirt but i loved her inspite of what i get from people. i spoke to her and she accepted we date, but on the condition that i gave her to let go of her past just in case she is what people say she is. Recently i notices that she is seeying another man. just because i feel soo deep about her i offered to be just a normal friend to her and let her chose to be happy with the other guy but she refuces and told me if i dont want her like my lover she doest accept my friendship. Am confused i know she loves that guy but she does not want to let me go and accept just my friendship and the truth i can die for her but am ready to let her go as long as she will be happy where ever she goes. please tell me what to do pleasee a seriouse problem here. its about 3weeks now that i met this very pritty girl. lots of peo

  • patrick

    its about 3weeks now that i met this very pritty girl. lots of people told me that she is a flirt but i loved her inspite of what i get from people. i spoke to her and she accepted we date, but on the condition that i gave her to let go of her past just in case she is what people say she is. Recently i notices that she is seeying another man. just because i feel soo deep about her i offered to be just a normal friend to her and let her chose to be happy with the other guy but she refuces and told me if i dont want her like my lover she doest accept my friendship. Am confused i know she loves that guy but she does not want to let me go and accept just my friendship and the truth i can die for her but am ready to let her go as long as she will be happy where ever she goes. please tell me what to do pleasee a seriouse problem here.

  • William :D

    if you want her to your self patrick you got to fight for her if you love her dont let this other guy come in. you gota make her love you too. then she wont even look at other guys like that. and if you just want to be friends with her just ask her about the other guy and ask y are you dating him and when guys try to walk up to her and flirt with her and your near her just flirt with her too make the guy thats trying to make a move on her fell stupid :D u gota fight for your girl or just hit the guy if you got the balls haha :D

  • dv

    Ok guys, I met a girl online, we start talking everyday, after few days we xchange ph numbers, then all day texting , chating and she start calling me every night, after one month I fell love with her , and after few days she said she love me , but when I asked to meet then she start saying she need time , its been two month we still talking same , but still she need time to meet me , I always ask her let’s meet up. And always same answer she need time, some time it looks she just playing games with me , she is pecies n m libra male, she really nice , soft spoken, she one of nice person I have ever met in my life , she always says she love me or miss me , but not more then me , so plz help me wht to do , thx

  • Love

    I m fallen in love with a married woman of one son.We just talking to each other for the past 2 years. she miss me very much when I m not with her but I m not sure that she loves me or not as because she is still not declared that she loves me or not. Please tell me what should I do to get her love and one day she will tell me “I LOVE YOU”.

  • ohmar

    not been in this country for long and there is a women that come in all the time to buy the food. Sometime we have a talk and giggle she has blond kind of hair and blue eyes like the sky. She knows my name because of the badge should i ask her it? Am I acting like a stupid pig. I think of her often every day I think it might be love. I talked to a male in work he laughed and told everyone.

  • edwin

    my girl use to be all on me now she she aint n she has alot of gay friends n she say she aint by but i dnt knw wat to think i got one of her web pass code’s n she dont knw n she was telling one of her old friends that she couldnt stand kissing me n then she ask her is it because the three yrs we been together plzz help me sumone so i wont have this douts

  • ragde

    If you guys find that special girl don’t let her go because u will regret it because i lost mine :(

  • Emily

    Hi,I’m a girl and my sugestion is 1] if a boy loves a girl but she doesn’t love you back then don’t force her to love you.Just ask her once or twice and if she says no,then try and find another girl that you like and she likes you.If she’s older or younger than you then that usually won’t couse anything bad,but if it does and she started it then she’s probably either wanting to break up with you or just causing trouble and she’s not a nice person.If everything goes good and you’ve been on a date and everything then you’ll be OK.If she says she just wants to be your friend then accept that because that’s the best your going to get.If she asks you to do a favour then do it.Some girls are easy to deal with some aren’t [I've never had a boyfriend before and I don't want one,I think it couses too much trouble.]If two girls like you pick the one you like best,not just on their faces and outside but on their inside.If you’ve known her for a while then that’s better because your likely to know them more.If you go on a date then remember to keep talking and give her flowers or something.Girls like it if you say for example,you look beautiful …If you kiss then your doing great.Keep doing all of this and you should be fine.If you break up keep moving on but if you can’t forget about her,then do nice stuff for her and ask her why she broke up with you,and if you broke up with her then she’ll be showing up at your door or calling you or never speak to you again.If you didn’t break up then show up at her door and keep calling her and ask her out.
    That’s all I can say right now.I hope this halps you and thanks for reading my opinion!Bye.

  • Nick

    I’ve known this girl since sophomore year of high school. I grew close with her, became good friends with her, and eventually got to hang out a lot. I then started to like her a lot, but she never really gave me a chance. For the next year I watched her date 2 other guys that I’m way better than and since about September she’s been single. I waited around enough to where were talking now and we hangout alot and when we hangout we kiss and stuff like that. We always say were gonna end up getting married and that we’ll always be together forever and it can happen, but the problem is, she claims she doesn’t love me yet. Here’s the situation, I’m a senior in high school, she’s a freshmen in college. She’s also in a sorority and attends parties on occasions. She also works daily and I am busy with sports. I love this girl with everything inside me, all I want is to be with her and be with her for a longgggggg time, but I’m having trouble taking advantage of my chances of making her enjoy my presence more to where she will love me. Can someone help me out here. Please and thank you.

  • James

    Chris please tell me how do i make it up with this girl who is 1 year 2 months older then me and is living in another city and is not talking to me as i told her that i like her…
    and how to i make her like me?

  • Dave

    I don’t know what to do anymore! I told this girl that im in love with her. i tell her every single day. sometimes more then once. she has a boyfriend but i dont think she likes him because she know how much i am really in love with her!! I am kind of ugly but i have a good personality. she never responds when i say i love her but i think she is just shy or doenst want to make her boyfriend jealous. What do you guys think??

  • Bill S. Preston Esquire

    I’m falling hard for a girl who is married to a rather terrible husband. She’s expressed how unhappy she is, and even though I could literally be the perfect husband for her, she’s scared to do anything about her marriage, so I’m stuck. We are getting closer everyday, and it’s so hard to watch her suffer through each and every day, as she longs for what could be. I’m not going to pull a dirtbag move and try to steal her from her husband or anything, but there’s gotta be something I can do to win this girl over and make her realize what’s in front of her face. Any advice? Also, we’re all in our early-mid twenties, if that makes a difference.

  • wc

    i fell in love with a friend who i know since primary but currently she’s really far apart from me due to studies. I dont know what can i do in this situation and she doesnt show a lot of interests towards me. What can I do to improve the situation?Some of my friends asked me to give up as we are far apart and it might be a 1 % success rate. However, I am really serious about her and there is no giving up until I tried. It is hard to make her fall in love with just chatting and probably skype sometimes as by chatting with her everyday, it might annoy her. I need help on this please. Thanks.

  • Nick

    Dear Chris,
    Me and this girl have been talking for about 2 months now but we’ve known eachother for about 3 years, we’ve always had a thing and last year we dated but I then told her I just wanted to be friends, I watched her date two people and now I got my chance again and I don’t want to blow it. Shes in college, Im a senior in high school, shes has school and works almost everyday so I see her like once every weekend and it sucks, when we’d talk to each other or text we’d flirt with it but lately the way shes been talking to me seems like shes not that excited or happy to hear from me, if you can give me any tips on what I should do from here to make her interested in me more and to make her love me that would be greatly appreciated.

    Nick

  • Adam

    When I saw this girl it seemed that time itself slowed down. She is the most beautiful person in the world, and she is very special to me. We have known each other for about 4 years. I think she is the perfect girl. What I want to know how to do is: I want her to know how I feel about her but not in a akward way. I really like her but I just dont know how she feels about me. I also would like to know how she feels for me. If you could help me out and give me some tips on it, words couldn’t express how much I could thank you.

  • jamestheman

    i got to know this girl about 3 years ago. we had been talking and met a few times until summer 2010. then we started to talk more, and it continued with every single day. i said that i was gonna play a football match in her town(we don’t live in the same town, so me almost never meet randomly) and she said she would come, but she actually forgot it. she then wanted to meet me, and we did. we continued talking, and met more times. i was not sure whether she liked me, even if she tried to show she did, because she had told me that she likes to hang out with boys, so i thought it was nothing special. but one weekend i was at class trip to the mountain, so we could not meet, but texted like all the time. that weekend i realized that we could be more than friends, because i had actually fell in love with her, and she then convinced me that she liked me. but about one week earlier i said to her bestfriend that i did not liked her as a girlfriend, only as a very good friend. the problem is that i lied, i did like her, but i didnt wanna tell her in case she did not liked me. a week after the mountain trip i met her first alone with her at her house, and then we went to a restaurant with her friends, and went to a party after that, the problem is that she was hanging more with the other guys there than me. a couple of days later she told me that she wanted to use that night to find back a tone we had missed. i wanted to use that night to build up something more than a friendship. she said that we could not be together, and the next day i realized that i would probably never be such good mood as we have had all the time. the next month i was kinda sad all the time, because i was trying to convince with with long texts about her, just opening my mind about her. and yeah, i told too much. now we dont talk to eachother, i wanna fix this, since we actually have had some fights and discussions about it, at some point we even decided not to be friends anymore. officially we are friends, but we dont talk, and she doenst wanna meet me, and i take contact to fix this problems, she keeps saying that i am way too fussy. can anyone please help me with this, cause i really love this girl, even if it is many months since i hung out with her. please help me!

  • Sai

    I have fallen in love with a girl, who thaugt me as a good friend in her whole life,and also i shared my broken love experiences with her,,but now she is not accepting me as her bride,but I can’t be without her now,so tell me a solution…