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Man’s Guide To How To Pick Up Women Without Looking Like a Fool

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If you’re here, then I’m going to assume that you’re determined to learn how to pick up women. I’ll tell you right away, the fastest way to learn is to hang out with guys that are already successful at attracting women on a consistent basis.

Assuming you don’t have any of these friends around you, let’s move on to the second fastest method to learn, practice.

Mastering the concepts that will help you pick up women

There are a few concepts that you should master in order to successfully engage and “pick up” a woman. First, I don’t really like that the term pickup, because it automatically puts the guy in a situation where he’s chasing the woman. Now this might often be true, but ideally, you don’t want to come off as a guy who’s hunting for women. For reference, we have an article on how to get a girl to chase you.

The correct attitude to have

The right attitude to adopt when you’re going to is to think of it as a mutual selection process. You’re going to go talk to her to simply find out if you would like to know more of her. Likewise, she’s going to assess if she wants to know more of you or not. Kind of like when you go shopping for a car, you need to investigate, ask questions before committing to a certain choice.

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That way, when you do make a choice (ask her number, kiss her, etc), it will seem natural and logical. The problem with most guys is that they see an attractive woman, decide RIGHT in an instant that they want to sleep with her, and then go to talk to her caring about nothing else but getting her into bed.

From the woman’s perspective… a random guy approaches you and you KNOW he’ll say anything to please you and will likely DO anything you ask him as well. Immediately, for no reason, she has complete power of a man who’s throwing himself at her.

Don’t throw yourself at her.

Instead, ask her interesting questions that she won’t hear every day, tease her whenever she answers wrong ( according to your standards ) and try to see if she fits your mold of the ideal woman. She might not even know it, but she’ll be doing the same to you!

So let’s break this down into simple steps

1) Figure out what you want in a woman (preparation)
2) Approach a woman, say something interesting / captivating / entertaining.
3) Referring to Step 1, speak about topics that will allow you to know more about her while telling herself about you.

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  • bede eagle

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  • NinJon

    Dude I seriously agree with you.

    U the Man!!!!!!

  • Fernando

    Could you give some examples of interesting things to say to a woman while your talking to her when you first meet?

    Thanks

  • jordan

    i’m 18 and my next door neighbor is really hot and shes very flirts with me. she is 20 and i think she likes me the way i like her, but she has a boyfriend and a kid what shall i do
    anyone help please.

  • Mo

    You shouldn’t do anything. A girl who’s 20 and has a kid and is flirting with you isn’t loyal to anything including herself. Insta–family—just add water? No thanks. Trust me, enjoy the flirting–but don’t let it go further. Girl like that ain’t nothin’ but trouble.

  • jarrad

    what u talkin bout mo? he should at least get something out of the situation. just deny the hell out of it after :)

  • MMA Fighter

    Hey guys, I just met this girl in the church today. Actually we went with school to the church, this girl is 18 I think I’m 17. I know her, I mean she’s very “popular” in school for her looks, she’s very sexy etc etc… Lets get to the point now. I was standing alone by the wall listening to the priest, suddenly this chick appears first with 2 of her friends. She asks “Hey, can I stand here? or sit I can’t remember” I said “of course” then she started to talk with me, we talked about a lot of things, for example what we do for living and stuff… It was a very nice moment I loved it, I had a feeling she was interested in me, because she constantly asked questions and stuff, and every time I “isolated” her she got more interested. But when we were about to leave, I was so stupid I didn’t even think of it, I could ask for her phone number, it was a 110% chance that I would get it, but I didn’t ask for it :(( I know her name I can easily add her on Facebook, I don’t know maybe that seem strange, I really should have asked for it in the first place, I don’t know what to do? I feel so stupid, shall I wait 2 weeks til I get to meet her again or shall I send messages on Facebook I don’t know, please give me some tips would appreciate that

    Peace

    MMA Fighter

  • MAC

    MMA Fighter,

    Lay low and wait the two weeks man. Chasing after a broad shows your needy or are at least very interested in her. Both will get you no where. Often times when you ignore or seemed disinterested in a girl it makes them want you (want what they cant have). If you run into her before, sweet, but other wise make the move for the number when you see her in 2 weeks. Be casual when you see her, talk for a short time and get that number when things are going well.

    Give her one for me bro !!!

  • Brandon

    Hey, I started talking to this girl a short while ago, and after a while i told her i liked her as more than a friend, and she told me she felt the same way about me. She also told me she had to much for a relationship, and that maybe something would happen when she fixes everything. She acted nice around me, and we trusted each other with our lives. But one day she was acting kind of strange, and i asked her if she wanted to talk about anything and she rudely replied “I’m not talking to you”.

    I am certain i must have done something wrong, but i honestly don’t know what happened. Can you give me some help, as to how to start up our relationship again? We don’t have to but girlfriend/boyfriend, i don’t care if she is just my friend, but i don’t know how to approach her about it.

  • rico

    hey brandon it sounds to me like she is trying to see if she can play mind games with you, i had a relationship where things would be fine and then bam.. she would throw all this crap in my face, listen brother the best thing to do when they do that is ignore it and shove a little back act like her not talking to you isnt bothering you.

  • Crash

    I have a few tips for you guys.

    1. learn to get MORE girls in your life instead of obsessing. trust me. been their.

    2. remember to flirt and NOT be afraid that she KNOWS you like her. it’s mutual. See, girl need to know they CAN have you – with out you sucking up etc… not through your words but how you act.

    3. BRANDON, my man!!!! rule #1 who cares what she thinks. start talking to other girls 1st. but don’t be like “hey i got this hot chicks number” to show off. “i like you as more than a friend” don’t tell that to girls though!(you shouldn’t have to) although it sounds like she likes you. but not THAT way. start on some1 new. but as far as friends go, dude, for me its SOOO easy to make girl “friends” you need to keep value & most of all, most of all ~~~ CALL HER ON HER B.S.!!! dude, i can think of a few ways to get around what happened(when it did) i’ve figured out -sometimes- you just gotta call B.S. dude. show that you wear the pants and they have holes, paint stains, and a effing wallet chain! cuz ur a MAN!!!

  • oscar

    i know this chick at church man she is so beutifull but everytime that i see her i do not know what to say please help me.

  • dd

    does anyone know how to get rid of bad breath….. its realy stoping me from getting chicks and effecting me in my social life

  • Colin of Day Game Dating

    Great points,

    Dont throw yourself at her, so important!
    nice recap

    Colin

  • Geoff

    Is it possible to have a girl as a g/f, even after you’ve slept with her and still been friends for awhile?

  • VRT

    Ok heres a situation i have. There is this girl that is one year younger than me. She is basically the girl that I’ve always wanted to date. Her personality, looks, everything. So… I got her number from someone else and decided to text her and joke around. Then at the end she said stop texting me delete my number haha. I think I failed. Anyways its so easy to go to physically talk to her.

    Advice from here on what to do would be very helpful.
    If I don’t get advice in a week I am going to try something crazy…. so post something and stop reading….

  • Chris

    When picking up women, you have to realize that it’s a little like fishing. If you pull too hard, too quickly then the line will break.

    Translating this into the real world of dating:
    If you text a girl that doesn’t even know you in the first place, or if you text her too often, then you’re going to fail.

    Instead, you made a huge mistake of text’ing her without getting the number from her first. She has to want you to text her before you actually start! Unfortunately, you started off really bad and instead you’d be better off slowly getting into her social circle. From there, build attraction.

  • Manu

    Hey, I totally lack the Confidence to talk to girls…What should I do?

  • Cage Fighter

    this is gold

  • Find your love

    Pretty Interesting article..Hold the reality.
    You seem to be much more experience in dating culture..
    don’t you?

  • chris

    please send all your articles to my mail,I love them your really helping out a brother from another mother and you my undying unwavering unfortunate gratitude thanks twin (have the same name and interests) But you are officially my number one hero and mentor of women madness

  • Chris Calo

    Chris: lol, I’m glad you enjoy the article.

    Manu: Read the articles on talking to women! Building confidence is something that takes a long time but the easiest way is to start off really small. Talk to normal people (guys and girls) and then work your way up to girls you find more attractive. It’s counter-intuitive, but talking to random guys will help you talking to girls. You just have to develop your chatting muscles in order to pick up women.

  • Josh

    hey, I have a female friend of the same age, we new each other in high school and i met her again now i am at college. We have grown closer over the past few months and i would like to take the relationship further, and i think she feels the same. i was wondering if you would have any advice on how to go about doing this without destroying the friendship if it turns out that she wants to stay just friends.

    thanks to any who reply.

  • enoch okyere

    hey, i have a lot of girl lovers but i don’t actually know which of them is the right girl for me. how will know or see the right girl for me.
    Please help me out and i need the solution my problem right now please.

  • Bruce

    I ‘m a final year student. My last love ended long ago. I first meet her when I came to sign up for a English class. She is a student, too. She is working at that center as a part-time work. I really love her at first look. I have thought about her sine that day. But seem that It hard to have contact with her. Plz give me a advice!!!

  • tyler

    There is this girl that i like and she always looks at me she is my friends neighbor but i don’t know how to just go up there to talk to her and get a good conversation going and my friend that is her neighbor talk to her before and she said i was cute what should i do???

  • Peter

    Hi

    I am married, and situation is we lives far from each other now while I am here can I pick a woman? and if I do so what would be the name of this relationship. I cant lie her that I am not married and I love her to stay with me.

  • Jaime v

    Interesting insight on the “how to pick up women”. This helped me in many ways in picking up women. Single women!

  • mack

    Good stuff. I like how you stated that honesty with women is attractive. However, selective honesty is more accurate. Truly, the art of seduction really does revolve around value, I like your tips, thanks.

  • carla

    Hey guys,

    I need an unbiased male perspective on a situation I have. I met a guy through a mutual friend at uni and we started txt’ing, chatting online. he kept wanted to meet up and I’m pretty interested in him so I was thinking this was great. We really clicked. So anyway, about a week after all this started he says to me that he really likes me but has a girlfriend. apparently their relationship is kinda on the rocks at the moment. He’s still flirty with me and wanting to see me, but I’m not sure how to reciprocate

    my question here is do i:
    a)forget about him and leave him to his retarded relationship issues
    b) continue to flirt with him and hope he breaks up with his girl
    c) try to just be friends and ignore the ridiculous chemistry

    (love the site btw Chris, excellent insight! its all true!)

  • J

    I know it sounds quite rubbish and cliche, but there is this girl, tehe.
    I met her years ago when we were young, and I loved her then. We were great friends, played around like kids do, made each other laugh, but I never had the courage to say anything.
    I have never had a girlfriend, and she was the closest to it, tehe, yeah I know sad.
    I haven’t seen her since 2003. And I haven’t been able to stop thinking about her.
    We kind of lost contact after a short while.
    Do you think I should try and find her, or does that seem to ‘stalky’ and creepy?
    Does anyone have any thoughts on what I could do?

    Thankyou in advance!

    J

  • The political collaspe

    I need help, i went to italy as a student ambassador. I left loving this girl that i had been with for nine months and ten when i got back. But when i got back i didnt feel the love anymore with her, partly because we got into a stupid argument, but mostly i felt like i was being held back from chillin with different girls. Im back in america and i want to tlk to some other girls but part of me is just afraid of rejection. I guess i expect to much out of people……can anyone give me a lil advice

  • Anonymous

    So, i went to this party friday, today is sunday. And, at first i went to this party without expecting anything out of it, but then i saw this hot asian girl. I didnt pay much attention to her, since she was dancing with this other guy. I had a beer and loosened up a bit, went outside and smoked. When i went back in, the girl came to me, and started flirting with me, she wanted to dance. So i danced (grinded). After i left her to go hang with some friends. When i came back, she asked me to sit with her on a couch. lol “sit” she sat and put her legs on me. She put her arm around me and we made out. So we kept doing our thing, and she had to go, she gave me her number, and told me to call her sometime. I texted her the next day to see if she remembered me, but it didnt seem like she did. I thought she was interested in me, (b/c of everything that happened at the party the night before). She said she thought she remembered me, but wasnt to sure.

    Does this girl like me? or was it just the alcohol…
    reminder, we danced, talked, and made out. (and other stuff) SO WTF, i really like this girl, and i want to bring her to another party. help?

  • Samuelle

    political collapse:

    I’m sorry to break it to you, but your encounters with that “hot asian girl” (do you even know her name?!) was a one night thing.
    There’s the elements to telling if somethings going to last- you guys were drinking and dancing and it sounds like you were making out (and other stuff) in less than an hour- which means it was all just some good fun. When things happen that quickly, it is usually a sign that the intentions are to get it all done with that night- if she hadnt gotten any further with you physically after waiting too long, she would find another guy.
    Remember, she was dancing with another guy before you. There were most likely others before him and others after you- so, thats probably why she doesnt remember you.
    Or maybe she does remember you (vaguely) but is so emberassed because she usually doesnt act that way (etc., etc.) that she’s playing dumb and wants to forget it.
    Either way, leave her alone, it was a one night thing and thats that.

  • Samuelle

    oops, i just realised that was to Anonymous, not political collapse- my apologies.

    BUT for political collapse, you are still hung up on this Italian girl, which is nice, but when it’s over it’s over. You just need time to collect yourself and prepare for other girls in your life, time is the key. When your ready again you’ll find another girl (i mean, you could find LOTS of different KINDS of girls when you’re still not ready, but I’m not talking about them)

  • http://www.waytoosocial.com/ Chris Calo

    @Samuelle: Well said, sometimes people just want to get it on one night.. and then it’s a one night thing!

    @political: If you’re in a different country it’s going to be really difficult to do anything. Like Samuelle said, there are other girls!

  • Ms. Right

    Speaking as a woman who just happened to stumble upon this website, I’ll give those of you who are truly clueless – not to mention disrespectful – some tips your daddies apparently skipped over when giving the talk.

    If you want a woman to like you, let alone LOVE you, maybe start referring to us as women and ladies instead of ‘chicks’ and ‘broads’? Seriously, demeaning us doesn’t turn us on and just shows your naked male insecurity. It’s a sign that a Chris Brown left-hook could be on the way. HUGE RED FLAG.

    Learn how to pick up a phone instead of emailing and text’ing. It’s lame, lazy and shows you don’t care enough about us to make an effort to hear our voices.

    Be appreciative when women do thoughtful little things for you – don’t read into it. I had a male friend who loved the Yankees and was sad the Stadium was being torn down. I gave him an autographed Yogi Bera ball as a gift and he took that to mean I was falling in love with him when the reality was I was just doing something nice for someone who was down in the dumps. Nice is in our nature, guys, don’t make us feel bad about it or use it as a reason to not be with us. Believe me, WE should be so lucky to have men do thoughtful little things for us (a rarity).

    Stop lying to get laid! A man who has to lie to a woman to get her in bed is seriously insecure and most likely has major mommy issues.

    If you want to break off with a woman, TELL HER WHY. Don’t stand us up, don’t ignore us, don’t blow us off like we don’t have feelings. Give us the gift of closure. Most women would rather be told nicely that “we’re just not making a connection” instead of being blown off. Be a MAN about things, and we won’t be thinking about stabbing you in the neck whenever we hear your name mentioned. Instead, we’ll look back fondly on our time with you and smile that you cared enough to be honest.

    And quit worrying so damn much about your looks and size – women don’t care about that stuff, only you guys do. Men society deem as “good-looking” are more likely to cheat and take their women for granted. I’ll take an ugly troll who can stay faithful, say please and thank you, and bring me flowers once in a while.

    While we’re at it, don’t cheat. Are you listening, Tiger Woods? Instead of cheating, why not just communicate with your woman? What’s wrong with just sitting your woman down and saying, ‘I think we have a problem in our relationship’. If your woman doesn’t want to work the problem out, break up and go be single – she’s not worth your time. But trust me, guys, cheating is the coward’s way out. It shows you are a child, not a man, and you made a conscious decision to be dishonest and hurt someone who trusted you.

    If you want to know what women want in a man, ASK A WOMAN. That means getting a platonic woman friend and keeping it in your pants when she tells you all she wants is to be friends. There are other women out there to date, so always keep a platonic female friend on hand for advice.

    Ok, peace to all.

  • mutyaba

    I love a girl but she does not love me. When i told her that i love her, she started neglecting me and was ashamed to be my friend so what should i do. help me!!

  • OOSADO Guy

    I’m a plus size guy an i’m really can’t stop thinking about her for about 3years not. It’s killing me inside just being a friend to her. We use to talk to each other alot and use to got to the beach everyday with 1 or 3 friends. She is no doubt my best friend that is a girl. But i don’t think she knows that. Then all of a sudden we stopped hanging out when high school started. I dont know how to do this right or talk to her since shes always around a crowd of friends. The way i’m feeling for so long right now…. I’d do anything just to hold her hand and take her to the movies Or somethin someone help me please ;;

  • Kennedy.A.I

    Hello,
    Pls i just want to lean how to approach a girl to be my girlfriend. The beautiful girl i had was the one that approached me and start telling me that she love me. Though she is beautiful but i don’t love her. I need to learn so that i can approach the one i really LOVE. But i’m still fighting against the spirit of shyness

  • Santos

    There is one girl my friend was telling me about, a friend to his girl friend. I collected her no and started to have a con conversation with her.so she responds fine to me,even now we have gone too deep to the extent that she said she really love me and she wouldn’t wait to see me for the first time. I do call her and she do cal me too, then this week i opened an email for her and send my picture to her, immediately she went to cyber cafe. She saw it and was happy to see me because she is far away from me.she told me about a guy that use to give her money for her hair but she told me she didn’t love the guy. So what will I do to keep her at my side always and for her to be thinking about me always since we are far from each other.

  • dawuni fawaz

    if i see her what should i tell her first pls help me out.

  • Rene

    Hey, man, I need some help. I’m a young man, just turned 18 last month. And I’m totally clueless.

    The fact is I’ve never been in a relationship before (as a matter of fact, I never KISSED anyone, never). I’ve always been too shy around girls, and you probably realize by now that I totally lack confidence. I don’t hang out with friends, actually, my life is just home and college. I do talk normally with some female friends, and they even tried to set me up with a few girls, but I’m too shy to really do it. I’ve read many articles from this website (awesome website, by the way), and it looks so easy approaching a girl (I have to say, I actually feel more confident), but when I really think of trying it at college, well, I just can’t help but lose all my confidence.

    I just feel like a creep. When I think about finally kissing someone, the next second I imagine they would only kiss me because they pity me, or they feel forced to doing it, they don’t wanna hurt my feelings, something like that. I guess I’m a mental case, lol.

    Anyway, I would appreciate some help over here. Thanks a lot. And again, awesome website.
    And sorry about the bad English.

  • Dr. Karizma

    First of all Chris, ur advice is awesome anmakes lots of sense. Second, Ms. Right thank you for your imput on how we men should treat a lady. I have no confidence problems, I’ve had my good share of ladies, I’ve never had dilemmas getting through a female… then July hit, I have gone throigh a slump I feel like A Rod trying to hit his 600th homer….so I disonnected my. Phone or a while to.clear mind nd to.not communicate w females. On my phone. Out of desperation. What do I do?…I go.out I gym everyday, I have no prblem talking to chicks… I jist don’t ave it in me anymore…. a friendly advice would be helpful….

  • Jan

    Do not throw myself at her.
    Ok dude I have made this mistake.
    Isn’t approaching throwing myself at her?????
    but dude this could go either way
    you’ve met plenty of witches (all of them)
    so dude stay in control, deep voice and in control….

  • twan

    I’ve met a dutch girl (i’m also dutch) online on World of Warcraft, she’s the guildmaster of the guild i’m in and I think I like her, even without seeing her. I’ve only heard her voice via ventrillo while doing some bosses.

    I only know her first name and her voice, but I want also to know her last name, her Hyves/Facebook and MSN so I can contact her more then only online (and to prove my mother that World of Warcraft isn’t a useless game :P)

    Any help?

  • LALIT

    Hey chiris you are doing wonderful job. Such a great thing you do for a lover. I am very impressed about you. I want all the name of your books & how to get these books. Plz tell me I want to be the alpha male.

  • leo21

    alright, really into this girl and long story short did the whole buying her drinks thing straight away and paying for everything all the time, before anything even happened, which i would never normally do, and now nothing has happened, she still talks to me an stuff but not the same as before, is there anyway to redeem myself or is it too late? advice please?

  • Chris

    I have a huge prob. My gf is all nice until sept 21 she stopped txting completely. I threatened with breaking up (which i now think was a bad idea). she’s on facebook, yet never answering my messages, txts, or calls. Does anyone have a possible situation to suggest? I’m getting bored and she is being unco-operative with me.

  • Zack

    gentlemen, what ever happend to being romantic? treat woman with respect, and theyll respect you. women wanna have sex just as much as most men, its called instincts. take care of your physical apperance, from your finger nails to your hair line, chicks notice everything! although some care some dont, but what kind of girl do you want, one to just bang, or one to enjoy life with? No valuable girl wants a guy that doesnt care about himself.

    Females wanna feel security, they dont wanna be told about it. You have to have something to offer that will seperate you from the other guys, good morals, humor, common intrests,intelligence, muscles,confidence, exc….. Ask yourself this; what do i have that most men dont, what type of girl do i want? these things will help you understand what type of girl your seeking, as a result from understanding yourself. If you understand yourself and what you want out of a girl, you will be able to click with her much easier if she fits your standards , if not then shes not what your looking for. Sometimes you will need to get with a random chick so you can reasure yourself of what you want,(you have to learn the numbers, if you wanna solve the problem) it always helps to know more about yourself, before you deside what type of girl you want.

  • Zack

    lisen to a song by LL COOL J, called, I NEED LOVE. its old school, but if you pay attention to his lyrics, you might realise that you feel the same way, and if you do, it will give you a better idea of what a relationship is about.

  • Jack

    Hey, I need to know how to get this girl to notice me as more than a friend. She knows loads of boys and i wanna stand out a bit. Wat sould i do??

  • karan

    i’m 23 and my next door neighbor is really hot and shes very flirts with me. she is 20 and i think she likes me the way i like her, but she has a boyfriend and a kid what shall i do
    anyone help please.

  • TANMAY

    Good stuff. I like how you stated that honesty with women is attractive. However, selective honesty is more accurate. Truly, the art of seduction really does revolve around value, I like your tips, thanks.

  • Sankar

    How 2 pickup wel known gl bt she fal in love with another guy…

  • VIKK

    I’ve liked this girl named Shelby for almost two years now and I told her how I felt, but she pretty much ran. I haven’t talked to her in a while and I see her at school and everytime our eyes meet she looks at me for a second, but then looks away. This happens more than once a day. Does this mean she likes me and if so how do I approach her and what do I say???

  • Ephraim

    Thank you for ur valuable information. I’m 26 years old and may be to ur surprise never dated or kissed so far. I feel that I am not handsome and attroactive to females. I avoid any contact with girls so far at any expense. At this moment I really concerned because I know that at this age I am expected to get merried or at least to have a fiancie. I do nothing to attract them and feel ashamed if I do anything to attract them. I am afraid of my self. I feel guilty whenever I have the thought of looking at them. It is really tragic to want something and bieng deprived of it all your life. Pls, if you have the time and interest,help me, I provide u extra information if u need to know me more detail

  • Kellhus

    Really Ephraim, is that such a bad thing? I’m 27 and I’ve never dated or kissed any girls either (what’s the point in kissing or dating, really?). What? You hope to find a life partner and be happy forever? Reality check, the probability of that happening is so low it’s not worth the effort, be it time or money! You better of finding some nice friends to talk and a decent prostitute if you really need the sex. Women ARE bad business if you intend to dedicate your life to them. In most cases you’ll have a pair on your head and to pay the mortgage of the house she’ll live in, not you. Besides some other monetary compensation you may have to pay. Get friends where you can and sex in a different place. But NEVER go into too much intimacy with those you’re making sex with!!. If you get too much sex with the same person, you may get stuck in a trap. I know this may not be the kind of replay you may have been wanting, but it is good to get the whole picture before making a move.

  • pete

    i’m confused and i need help about what i should do next.
    i was at this place b/c i needed help with something. before she even helped me with my situation i noticed her as she was taking different clients to the back to help them first b/c they were before me. i looked at her a few times and i noticed that she was looking at me too. finally when she called my name so she can assist me she stated her name, but i can’t remember what it is. i was kinda busy with looking at her body. but when we went into the office, i to flirted with her a little bit, i asked her questions like, how are you and she said that she had a long day and was tired. i replied by saying that well at least it’s friday right? and she said that she had to work the weekend 3rd shift and i said where else do you work and she works at a certain hotel in the town that we live in. basically she told me everything about her from her 2nd job down to her having a month left until she gets her bachelor’s degree. i left when we were done but i ended up going back b/c i thought that it was worth a try but when i got there. i was called to the back by a different person. but i noticed that she was looking at me. i need help b/c this woman is sending me mixed signals and i don’t know what my next move should be. i mean i know where she works but i don’t remember her name. should i just go back to the place where i met her in the first place and see how that works out? i mean the worse she can say is no right?

  • James

    @Kellhus

    Are you out of you mind mate ? :) No one is a holy one on this planet.
    Men are not perfect neither are women. But having a woman in your life who looks at you in a way that makes you feel the most lucky man alive. That is not to be found in any “friend”.
    I would say – you have not met the right girl my friend.

  • EBUKA

    Am 25 and i like dis girl maybe 21, we are living at same building for about 14months. I don’t know how to tell her that i like her. I hv help her solve some problems but i don’t want to use that as a means of wooing her. She knows my parents as devoted christians, will telling her how i fell make me a bad boy ? I don’t want to rush her. My main aim is to have sex with her. Pls, help me

  • John

    And she is sending me mixed signals too. Help

  • dave

    I never really saw time with women described a as a business /time spent
    decision. My hope is that I would somehow make enough female friends to be able to “speak the language” and understand enough to be able to play the “game” someday.
    I would NEVER approach a female, hoping that my “good” qualities have somehow shown through.This approach is “illegal” to the pickup artists, who spend lots and lots of time on this, approaching very high numbers of women. If it is true that men are approaching women a lot less these days, then I hope that it is true.