Today’s article is about a simple, yet immensely effective practice for boosting your success with women and people in general: I lovingly call it “get the bleep out of your house”. It may sound like I’m stating the bleeding obvious here, but from my own experience, I cannot stress enough that going out on a regular basis is a crucial component towards your success with women. In this article, I would like to address some ideas that keep us from actually doing it: the misconceptions are that it needs to be set up properly, you need to set enough time aside for it, and it’s a special event.
Going outside needs no prior planning
I’ll tell you something about me. I’m a guy that likes to plan and organize a lot. I’m German and a Virgo, so there you go: predisposed for obsessive tidiness. As such, I used to think that a proper “going-out” had to be planned in advance, and at least two hours had to be set aside for it to have any effect or sense. I had to have people to go out with, and a place to go to, and something meaningful to do, otherwise I felt it wouldn’t be worthwhile. It took me quite a while to realize what a load of bull this is, and how many opportunities I was missing that way. Now, I go to the theater or cinema on my own, and on a spur, and I always find people to practice my social skills on while I’m out there. I open them up by the entrance door or chat with them while standing in line.
Sometimes I meet people to watch the movie with me right there and then, sometimes I simply run into ones I already know. And guess what, the more you chat people up, the more likely you will be to bump into them by just leaving your house. I have a friend who stayed in my city for only a couple of months, and by the time he left, he could barely go outside without running into people that recognized him. And they all loved him!