Once you get fairly good at opening women and talking to them, you may start wondering why things aren’t moving forward. I certainly remember those days when I was able to talk to anybody, establish a social vibe and make great friends. What I couldn’t do was escalate sexually – sometimes I would instinctively get it right, but I never knew consciously what happened.
The dilemma: unless you know how to escalate an interaction and move the relationship to the next level, you’re likely to stay in the “friends” zone with girls that you could otherwise have a sexy time with. To shed some light on this mystery, let me introduce you to the concept of “push and pull”.
“Push and Pull” is a subtle game of moving forward and holding back in an interaction. The idea is that man and woman either pull each other in – towards a more intimate interaction – or push another away, hence breaking the escalation. You never want to do just one of these two: if you constantly try to pull her in, she’s going to run, but if you just push her away, well, then… You’re pushing her away, what can I say.
It’s about action and reaction. When she says or does something you like, you pull her in as a reward. Example: “I love girls that cook! Come here” – and you give her a hug. When you don’t like what she does, you “punish” her behavior by pushing her away: “I don’t want a snooty girl” – turn away or push her at the shoulder. If used right, these two can make for great teasing – for instance, if you’re already making out, you can break the process (i.e. “push”) and thus make it more exciting.