If you’ve been practicing your skills with women for a while, you will have come across this piece of advice for talking to ladies: “it doesn’t matter what you say, it’s how you say it.” While there is truth to it – your energy and delivery make or break your successful interaction, nonetheless, I am convinced that if you have nothing substantial to say to begin with, your interactions are going to lead nowhere. Agree? Lame platitudes like “where do you work”, “I like movies” or “I’m an accountant” only get you so far. I say: you should skip that stuff altogether and learn right away what makes an amazing conversation.
Today, I would like to talk to you about exciting conversation topics and interaction-starters. With this, you’ll never run out of things to say again. I believe that the bigger our repertoire of these is, the easier it will be to open up exciting conversations. Plus, the process keeps fuelling itself. If you bring up the right topics, people will tell you exciting stories from their lives, and with these, your repertoire will grow. “A friend told me this story (and I’d like to hear what you think)…”
Your repertoire for spellbinding conversation
Here’s a secret for ya: we all have resources of rivetting and enthralling stories inside of us. All we need to do is tap into them! We already introduced you to some key aspects of enthralling stories in our article “How To Tell a Story That Captivates a Woman’s Attention”, but let’s have another scoop:
- Personal transformation (“I used to be insecure…”)
The more your story pulsates with life and emotion, the more gripping it will be – and once you open the portal with these notions, conversation will flow quite easily. You are triggering a human excitement in your listener that will evoke their own stories in them.
Listen and move forward
From there, it’s all about listening and moving forward: as your conversation partner replicates the spirit of your stories, you take the position of the listener. You take in what they say and let it trigger your next reaction: they bring up their family members, and you have a new topic to dissolve into.
Your vibe: be energetic!
Now here’s the catch: even the most exciting content can be excruciatingly boring if you tell it without any passion or devotion. On the other hand, if you sparkle with enthusiasm, you can even make your job as an accountant sound exciting (even though you’ll still want to pick better subjects if you have them). Here’s a tip: when you bring something up, lead into it with an energetic “oh my God!”.
But how do we open up this kind of conversation?
Here are a couple lines you can use to tap into the right kind of mood:
– Who do you love?
– What’s your ideal man like?
– What are you passionate about?
– What’s your favourite spot to get kissed?
– What’s the weirdest place you made love?
Human interest: your constant frame of mind
All this has to become your permanent frame of mind. If you have to consciously shift into “human interest” mode every time you’re about to interact with somebody, it’ll come off as fake. If the human, emotional side of things is your standard perspective, though, it’ll be natural.
I suggest you take some time to find stories from your life that had an emotional impact, were exciting, adventurous, led you into a personal transformation. Write them down, it’ll make it easier to remember them and you can refresh them at will. As you accumulate interactions, you’ll never run out of things to talk about: you open up to people, and as they open up to you, they automatically contribute stories to your repertoire. When it grows, you will have better and better tools for intriguing conversation.
How do you guys never run out of things to say?
Think of conversations like a Venn Diagram. In one circle is shit that you think is interesting. In another circle is shit that SHE thinks is interesting. Your goal is to shift the conversation to topics where the circles overlap.
If you just talk about shit that only SHE thinks is interesting, she will lose interest because you won't be into it. She will also be able to tell that you are just pandering to her cuz you'll be saying shit like "tell me about your cat."
If you talk about shit that only you're interested in, then she'll lose interest because it'll bore here.
So you have to find the middle of the Venn Diagram.
Of course, it's easy to know what you're interested in. But figuring out what she's interested in is a little harder. Sometimes she'll just tell you but part of it requires you to read her.
How to keep a conversation going and never run out of things to say?
every time a topic is losing momentum and repeating a bit just switch topic to the first tangent that becomes available.
"heh yeah mand burgers are the best...... 'specially with cheese."
"**cheese,** I love/hate cheese....."
How can i never run out of things to say?
go to wikipedia, click on random page