It sometimes seems to me that this is one of the most pressing, and most intricate, issues in the world of men. There are those who naturally know how to attract pretty women, and there are others who never seem to get it right – and throughout history, they’ve tested myriads of mind-made “methods”. What works, what doesn’t? If you examine it on a grand scale, strikingly enough, you come to a rather simple conclusion: attraction is constant vibe that naturally exists between men and women. Both sexes are inherently attractive to each other! Nature made them that way! So what’s hindering us? We’re not in touch with our attractiveness. Here’s some advice for us men.
Be a man
Be honest with yourself: the more feminine a woman is, the more attracted you are to her, right? It’s her curves, her lips, eyes, features, but also her demeanor, the way she walks, talks, her actions and moves, her habits, mannerisms, her voice. Believe it or not: in the same vein, whatever media or social convention may dictate, it’s still our pure masculinity that makes us attractive to women. Forget about being “metrosexual”, touchy-feely, or a nice compliant teddy bear. Instead, check out what one of the world’s biggest machos has to say. Clint Eastwood:
“I don’t like the wimp syndrome. No matter how ardent a feminist may be, if she is a heterosexual female, she wants the strength of a male companion as well as the sensitivity. The most gentle people in the world are macho males, people who are confident in their masculinity and have a feeling of well-being in themselves. They don’t have to kick in doors, mistreat women, or make fun of gays.”
Be the gentle man
A “gentleman” is both “gentle” and a “man”. We tend to forget that. Let’s look at “being gentle”. What does that entail? I’ll give you two pointers:
Listen to find out what makes a woman special and unique, and look at her closely to see special features she has. Did she dye her hair in a colour that matches her brown-green eyes? Remember her favorite color, ice cream flavor, food? She’ll love you for noticing these things and pointing them out.
Be in touch with your emotions
Know the good, the bad and the ugly. Life is a series of ups and downs, acknowledge them and don’t hide your vulnerable and weak spots. Showing them is an ultimate display of strength, and what’s more, it will make you so much more credible when you exhibit your powerful qualities.
Now, “being a man” means, let’s say it bluntly, having a huge set of hairy balls. If you have balls, how does it show? Here’s a quick run-down:
- You know what you want
- You do what you say
- You say what you think
- You’re true to your word
- You can stand your ground
- You have options
Don’t care too much!
Much of that originates right in your mindset. Your thoughts precede your reality! For instance, if you are convinced that you have options (and it’s obvious you do!! There are several billion women in the world), you WILL have options.
Humor shows strength
One of the most prominent features of your rock-solid, Chuck Norris-type confidence is a sense of humour. If you can make a woman laugh, it means you can make her feel good. To give good feelings to others, you have to root them within yourself first. Start seeing the good things that happen to you every day. Develop a positive attitude, and wherever you go, seek to amuse yourself. Subscribe to Garfield’s daily comic strip, or any other web comic, so you’ll have a couple of smiles every day even before you leave your house. Ask people for their favourite jokes. Enjoy the sun, relish the rain, savour the sight of a lovely girl.
When you tell jokes, remember to never laugh at them. “Me? I’m going to be 65 this year.” If you, obviously no older than 25, let that phrase linger in a conversation without batting an eye, just a hint of a smile on your face, it will come across much funnier than if you burst into laughter: “Ha-ha-ha! I’m just kidding ya.”
Be proud of yourself, and always stand up for yourself
You are a free man, you create your own reality, and all others are guests in it. Remember what Clint Eastwood said: attractive men “have a feeling of well-being in themselves.” That notion goes a long way. You are at perfect ease inside your skin. Others may try to put you down, but why should that throw you off-track?
Remember the old catchphrase: pretty women are used to being approached. Most men will do so in an insecure, nervous manner, not really knowing what to say or trying to show off their feathers. The above tips should teach you what you need to know to be interesting instead of boring them to death: this article is far from exhaustive, but if you reflect on these ideas and ingrain the habits they signify, you will find it easier to get beautiful women into your life.