You know it’s funny that a lot of guys who aren’t even dating on a regular basis are trying to figure out how to get a girlfriend when instead they should be learning how to get a girl’s number. If you’re clever, you already spotted step 1 to getting a girlfriend: go on dates.
More Dates Lead To More Potential Girlfriends
Dates can be thought of as a trial period for couples to see if you want to get to know another person or not. The first date being the most important of them all as it sets the tone for the rest of the relationship, no pressure! It doesn’t matter where you get the date, personals, through friends or even randomly meeting someone during the day using some crafty pick up lines, it’s the first date that counts the most.
(That said, we won’t leave you hanging, we have a ton of second date ideas for you as well.)
When dating, each subsequent date must progress more and more. If the first date as great and the second is a flop, then you can kiss (or not) that potential girlfriend goodbye. Ideally, you would want to become closer with your date every time you go out together. In other words, the third date should be more physically intense than the first one! If you aren’t growing, then you’re dying. See how to increase physical contact with girls.
Set The Girlfriend and Boyfriend Tone Immediately
In order to grow together, you want to set the tone right away that you are a potential mate and not ‘just a friend’. The closer of a friend that you become, the harder it will be to change that into a relationship. This applies to girls and guys alike. You’d be amazed if you knew how many girls had crushes on their ‘best guy friend’ and he just isn’t interested.
One trick that works well is to pretend that you’re breaking up with her and now she’s your ex-girlfriend… even if you never dated. “You like pineapple on your pizza? Sorry, we’re done! You get the kids but I keep the dog!”
A loving relationship takes time to build
If you’re looking to turn that woman into your girlfriend, then you’ll need to be interesting enough to want her to get to know you more. If you lead an interesting life, then show her a piece at a time, keeping her intrigued. If you show her absolutely everything on the first date, then there won’t be much to go on later on. If you already read the book, then watching the movie version won’t be as compelling because you’ll already know exactly what happens. It’s more fun to be surprised. That’s one of the keys on how to get a girlfriend.
Spark love so you aren’t just a guy friend
The part that most men lack is to create massive attraction while you are dating. It’s a shame because they really have all the pieces except for that one last little piece. Fortunately, it can be solved by simply reading a few good books on the topic. The man I recommend the most on the topic is David DeAngelo. He shows you exactly what it takes to create massive attraction and get that girl you’ve been wanting.
Usually I find that most guys have all the other aspects of their life covered, but remain clueless when it comes to really building massive attraction. Well let me tell you, you might have everything going for you in terms of looks, money and fame, but if you can’t spark attraction you’re not going to get a girlfriend. So what’s the best way to do that? Well you have to be a man that isn’t afraid of showing his desires. Read how to be the man that women desire.
More Tips on Getting That Girl
Now I’m not saying you need to go out and tell a girl you’re attracted to her (although that does work when said in the right tone, see our article on how to tell a girl you like her), but instead don’t play it safe. One huge mistake guys do that kills all attraction is to approach women in an overly safe manner. So that even if she rejects you, you don’t feel rejected because ‘you weren’t really trying’. How do you know if you’re doing this or not? Well if you make up an excuse to hang out with her on a continuous basis, such as to study together, for work or any other reason then you’re playing it too safe.
Girlfriends Require Constant Attraction
Instead, the real way to build attraction is to make sure she knows that you’re attracted to her in the first place. Then from there, tease her and use the techniques described in David Deangelo’s book, I know I said it before, and I’ll say it again, he’s really the man when it comes to building attraction. Best of all, it doesn’t require learning how to get a flat stomach or a six pack!
The last and most overlooked part on how to get a girlfriend is that you must look for someone who is compatible with you. If you’re a geek that enjoys playing video games, then go for a hot geeky girl that enjoys playing video games as well. If you’re into going outdoors, then find a girl that enjoys the same things as you. If you find the right girlfriend, then it can be a very rewarding experience. It will enhance the quality of your life in ways you never thought possible, who knows, she might end up being your fiance one day!
What's the counter-intuive way to get a girlfriend?
Focus completely on yourself and don't want a girlfriend. Avoid every opportunity. Keep upping yourself. Until you meet one you finally cannot live without.
How hard is it for a non-confident person to get a girlfriend?
The limiting factor is going to be how many women you approach. There are a ton of shy, single women that will find even non-confident guys attractive... and the more women you meet, the more confidence you'll build.
How do I get a girlfriend when I don't have a social life?
You answered your own question. It's like asking how to catch fish but then saying you don't go to the water. You have to start forcing yourself to go out even if you don't want to.
Start with bars, social clubs, sports clubs, nights out, work, mutual friends.