I originally wrote this in 2010 and it turns out that it has become one of the most copied pieces on first date tips on the Internet. Striving to be original, I decided to re-write and update some of the tips… so they are even better than before. The first thing when going on a date is: Don’t worry about it too much, if you screw up a date, there are always more girls. By definition, if it’s the first date, then you don’t have that much invested! So make it light, easy and fun.
Stack the odds on your side
You can easily place the odds in your favor by making sure that you’re in a comfortable environment and doing an activity that you’re good at. (Read how to make a girl feel comfortable)
For instance, If you’ve never tried surfing before, it might not the best idea to try it on a first date. It is however, perfectly acceptable to have your date try something new for the first time. This has two benefits, first it naturally demonstrates that you are a leader and subsequently, you can be a little more relaxed which is another attractive quality.
Make it unique to the girl
A great date will be personalized to her. During the pre-date contact you have had with the girl, you usually can piece a little information about her. Use the little bits that you know about her and apply it to the date. If the date feels generic, then it won’t be special. (In other words, don’t go to the movies!)
Even in Dates, Practice Makes Perfect
If you are single and going on many ‘first dates’, then it can be a good idea to establish a ‘favorite date’ routine. For example, if there’s a zoo nearby and you’ve been on 2 dates at the zoo in the past week, then you’ll pretty much know exactly what to do, what to say, where to go. Practice makes perfect, even in dates! It might be repetitive for you, but unless you tell her (and don’t!), she won’t know you’ve been on that same date ‘route’ 2-3 times before. That’s why tour guides seem to fun and charismatic, they’ve done it a million times!
Demonstrate Leader-like Qualities
During the date, make sure to lead the way. In nature, the male tends to be dominant and lead (For most species at least!). You can either think of it as a burden or as a privilege, but it’s much more enjoyable to think of it as a privilege. So suggest activities, lead the way towards things that you want to do. If she doesn’t want to, she’ll object and from there, you can both agree on something.
The last cliche of Being Yourself On The Date
When they say be yourself… they actually mean be your best self. If you’re going to show a side of yourself on a date, then mind as well show her the good side of you! Trust me, you’ll have plenty of time to show her the lesser sides of you later on. While you’re on the date, she wants to see your dominant playful side! Go in with a smile and have fun. If the fun is hiding in there somewhere, bring it out.
Keep these first date tips in mind and you’ll be better prepared to have a great time. As usual, if you’re looking for ways to spark massive attraction during the date, I would recommend reading the book Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo.
He presents ways to turn any normal date (and that’s how most guys date) into a hot adventure you’ll never forget.