Wouldn’t it be amazing if there was few words you could whisper to make a girl fall in love with you within seconds of you approaching her? “Your beauty reminds me of autumn leaves falling ….” Well forget it! No poetic (feel free to laugh at my failed poetic attempt), cheesy line or even smart line will ever trigger love in a woman.
As a matter of fact, why would you want to do that in the first place?!
Okay, okay. Yeah, I hear you. We’ve all been there, right? There’s this amazingly beautiful girl at work or school. You watch her in amazement every day: her movements are so graceful, her hair is full auburn, she has dark beady eyes and a smile that could brighten up the effing sun. This is love at first sight. She’s the one! You must not screw this up, like the last time you mustered up your courage and confessed your undying love to a girl out of the blue! How can you go over and rock her world the minute you start talking to her?
Well you can’t. And you shouldn’t. You should approach her with calm and confidence to check out if she has the character to back up her looks. Parable time: imagine you’re an ornithologist, and there’s this incredibly beautiful and exotic bird you’ve been watching in sheer amazement for weeks on end. Then one day, you get close to it: it’s a breathtaking moment. You’re all shaking and sweaty because it’s such a heavenly creature and BAM! It bites you right in the face and craps on your jacket. How’s that for a downer?
The Advantage A Woman Has Over A Bird
There’s one advantage that a woman has over a bird: with the bird, you can’t go over and chat it up. The woman, though, will appreciate if a dashing, fun, outgoing young gentleman shows a casual interest in her. So go over and make some easy conversation to check her out.
To do this, you will need to change your attitude, young Padawan. Your good old “love at first sight” is what I like to call “infatuation”. Beyond that might lie the bitter realization that your “angel” is actually the crappy-bitey type of woman, and that’s something you want to find out before her auburn hair is clogging up your drain and she’s hogging your goods and chattels.
Right before you approach her, take a long, deep breath to flush the anxiety out of your system, then turn around and observe something about her: “Hey, I haven’t seen you in your Ninja Turtles sweater in a while. What happened? Grow out of it?” Be tongue-in-cheek if you can (and if it comes naturally). There, you’ve started a conversation.
Many, many men will act extra-nice, appreciative and submissive when they interact with a very beautiful woman. For some reason, they seem to think that catering to her every need is best way to get a girl to like you. Get this: if there’s one need of hers that you should cater to, it’s the need of being treated like a regular person. What she says or does is not some form of eternal, paramount truth: call her on it! Show that you have your own standards, and while you’re interested in her, she still has to live up to what you want in a great person.
Avoid Scripted Conversations!
Another big steaming pile that guys will step into is “scripted conversations”. I’m sure you’ve prepared conversations hundreds of times in the past, planning all the best things to say, only to screw it up big time. Scripting’s a surefire way to get that outcome. So stop doing it! Once a conversation is on, all you – and the girl! – can do is be in the present. If your mind is busy focusing on some BS “I love you” stuff you made up beforehand, it’s certainly not invested in the situation at hand. Trust me, the girl can tell that you have some sort of agenda running in the background such as trying to impress her, and as you get nervous and detached, she will get bored and annoyed. Relinquish your “control”, just listen and react – it’s the same courtesy she’s giving you.
If you shift your perspective that way, you’ll automatically become more relaxed and present. This is a regular everyday interaction between two human beings. Your goal is no longer to get love from girls: it’s to get to know them because they look interesting. There’s nothing left for you to lose now, but everything to gain. So what’s the worst that could happen? Ending up with all you had before? Well great! This is your new vantage point. Now go out and step forward from it.