15 Unique Questions To Ask A Girl You Like


“Who they attractin’ with that line, ‘What’s your name, what’s your sign?’”

-Notorious B.I.G., “Big Poppa”

That song came out in 1994, yet more than two decades later, we’re still asking girls the same boring questions.

Asking questions is a great way to get to know that girl you like a bit better, but that depends on the kind of questions you’re asking. Girls get asked “Where are you from?”, “What do you do?”, or “What are your favorite hobbies?” all the time, so their responses are pure reflex.

You see a hot woman drinking coffee alone, what do you ask her?

Asking boring or simple questions will get you boring or simple answers, and that’s no way to build a connection — you need to ask questions that make her think. If you do, two things will happen:

  1. You’ll show her that you’re not like other guys — you have depth.
  2. The more complex her answer, the more things you’ll be able to use to build the conversation.

Here’s how to come up with the kinds of questions that will get her fully engaged in the conversation.

Use The Past/Present/Future Method

A good conversation is a give-and-take. You can’t just bombard her with questions, or she’ll feel like it’s an interrogation. Instead, give her information about you while you ask about her, and the Past/Present/Future method is a perfect way to do it.

“She is not going to divulge much, unless you give her a little about you”

In a nutshell, the “Past/Present/Future” method combines a statement about your past, present or future with a related question about her. I’ve split them up into three sections, and because I’m such a nice guy, you’ll also find sample questions for each category. You’ll need to tweak them to make them your own, though — I can’t do everything for you.

Past References

You reference something in your past — could be last week, could be a year ago, could be from your 5th birthday — then ask her something about hers. The goal of the “Past” questions is to give her a better idea of what made you the person you are today while learning the same about her. Everyone loves a good origin story. Why do you think there are so many Spider-Man reboots?

Discussing the past provides more information about your roots

Here are some examples.

1. When I was young, I wanted to be [mention a silly childhood dream you had]. Did you have any ridiculous goals or dreams when you were a kid?

2. Last month, I [mention a place you visited recently], and I’ve been dying to show it to someone else. What’s one place you love to introduce to new people?

3. Last year, I tried [mention a unique kind of cuisine] for the first time, and ever since then I’ve been trying to expand my palate. What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever eaten?

4. When I was a kid, we had a family tradition that [mention a family tradition]. Did your family have any traditions when you were growing up?

5. I remember working at [mention your worst job and why it was terrible] — I can’t even set foot in that place anymore, even as a customer. What was the worst job you’ve ever had?

Present Questions

The Present questions, give her an idea of who you are now. It’s a good opportunity to highlight your interests while asking about hers, which helps you decide if you two are compatible. It’s also where you can try to slip in a little bragging, too — just be sure not to overdo it.

You might find you have the same interests such as traveling.

Here’s how it works.

6. I spent the afternoon [mention an activity you do regularly] — I really enjoy [mention the part of the activity you like most]. What’s the one activity you can’t go a day without doing?

7. I just watched [mention a movie] for the first time — I know everybody says it’s amazing, but I didn’t enjoy it that much. Are there any movies that you don’t like but that everybody else seems to love?

8. One of my favorite things about my neighborhood is [mention something you really like about your neighborhood]. What do you like most about where you live?

9. I’m trying to learn how to [mention a skill you’re trying to learn, like playing the guitar], but it’s been tough so far — I guess I’m just not a natural. What’s one skill you wish you had?

10. I’ve set a goal for myself that I’m going to [mention a goal you have]. Do you have any goals you’re working towards right now?

Future Questions

The Future questions are where you can really set yourself up for success. When you talk about the future and ask the girl you like about hers, you’re effectively sharing your long-term goals and dreams with each other. This can be a great way to get her thinking not just about her future, but what her future might look like if it included you.

Plant a seed to make her think about a potential future together

For example:

11. I really want to take a vacation to [name a location]. If you could pack up and go anywhere in the world, where would you go?

12. I’m going to buy a lottery ticket tomorrow — I know it’s a long shot, but if I win, I’d [name something you’d do if you won the lottery]. What’s the first thing you’d spend the money on if you won the lottery?

13. By the time I’m 40, I’d like to [name one of your life goals]. What do you envision your life being like by then?

14. I’d really like to live in [name a foreign country]. Maybe not forever, but at least for a little while. What’s one country you’d like to live in for a while?

15. I have a bucket list, and one of the things on it is [name something you want to do before you die]. What’s one thing you feel like you have to do at least once in your life?

A Few Tips

Of course, it’s not as simple as just asking these questions and waiting for the sparks to fly — there’s more to it than that. Keep these tips in mind to make the most out of the questions.

Show Interest & Listen

Asking the question is only the first part; the rest is building a conversation based on her answer. When you ask a question, practice empathic listening — don’t just listen to what she’s saying, but how she says it. [R]

It’s Not An Interrogation

You shouldn’t ask questions just to ask them — you should be asking because you’re genuinely interested in what she has to say. If your conversation is a car, then the right questions are the gasoline: they keep things moving, but if you use too much, the whole thing will stall.

Be Enthusiastic

Enthusiasm portrays confidence during conversations

Finally, enthusiasm is crucial — you should be excited to hear her answers, because those answers tell you more about her. If she feels like you’re excited to learn about her, she’ll be more willing to open up to you.

If you find yourself fumbling for the right questions, give this list a try. The next conversation with the girl you’ve had your eye on will be a breeze.

However, if you feel you want to ask her right out without going through all the motions, then your success rate in very much dependant on the use of certain words and taking advantage of human language processing as shown by Say Hello Women, one of the best programs on approaching women

Resources & References

Concerned you may run out of things to say after using up your list of questions? Check out our sources for tips on how to keep the flow going naturally.

  1. Need more ideas on what questions to ask? Here are 300 of the best conversation starters you’ll ever need by Vixendaily
  2. Asking questions is only the beginning of what could be a meaningful relationship. If you want to take it to the next level, then guys over at Win With Women have this awesome article on ways to get a girlfriend you might want to check out.
  3. 7 amazing questions to ask on a date (or when you first approach her) by Tripp Advice
  4. Once again by Tripp Advice who shares how to keep a conversation going (a simple trick to keep the conversation going if you run out of questions)
  5. 5 tips for empathetic listening – LifeHack by Reginald Adkins

1. What do you think are the most important questions to ask a girl you like?

1. What are your thoughts on relationships?

2. What are your thoughts on dating?

3. What are your thoughts on love?

4. What are your thoughts on sex?

5. What are your thoughts on commitment?

6. What are your thoughts on communication?

7. What are your thoughts on honesty?

8. What are your thoughts on trust?

9. What are your thoughts on respect?

2. What do you think are the best ways to get to know a girl you like?

There is no one answer to this question since everyone is different and what works for one person might not work for another. However, some general tips that might be helpful include:

-Spend time with her in a variety of different settings and get to know her interests, values, and personality.

-Ask her questions about herself and really listen to her answers.

-Be genuine and honest with her about your own thoughts and feelings.

3. What do you think are the best ways to show a person you like them?

There is no one answer to this question since everyone is different and what works for one person might not work for another. However, some general tips that might be helpful include:

-Spending time with her and getting to know her better. This can be done by talking to her, hanging out with her, and doing activities together that she enjoys.

-Listening to her and being supportive.

4. What do you think are the best ways to keep them interested in you?

There is no one answer to this question, as every situation is unique. However, here are some general tips that may be helpful in keeping a girl you like interested in you:

1. Be yourself. It is important to be genuine and authentic in your interactions with the girl you like. If you try to be someone you’re not, she will eventually see through the facade and lose interest.

2. Be interested in her.

5. What do you think are the biggest turn-offs for girls when it comes to guys?

There are a lot of things that can turn a girl off when it comes to guys, but here are some of the biggest turn-offs:

1. Being arrogant and cocky. Girls don’t like guys who are always trying to show off and act like they’re better than everyone else.

2. Being rude and disrespectful. Girls don’t like guys who are always putting others down or who are always trying to start arguments.

6. What do you think are the best ways to flirt with a girl you like?

Everyone flirts differently and what works for one person may not work for another. However, some general tips on how to flirt with a girl you like include:

-Compliment her. Compliments are always a good way to start a conversation and let the person know you are interested in them.

-Make eye contact. This shows that you are interested and confident.


7. What do you think are the best ways to ask someone out on a date?

Here are a few general tips that might help you when asking a girl out on a date:

– First, try to get to know her a bit and make sure she is someone you would actually want to go on a date with. There is no point in asking someone out if you’re not even sure if you would enjoy their company.

8. What do you think are the best ways to make a girl you like feel special?

There are many ways to make a girl feel special. Here are just a few:

1. Compliment her. Let her know what you appreciate about her.

2. Spend time with her. Whether it’s going on a date or just hanging out, quality time is always appreciated.

3. Do something thoughtful for her. A small gesture can go a long way.

4. Tell her how you feel.

9. What do you think are the best ways to keep a girl you like happy in a relationship?

Every girl is different and what makes one girl happy might not work for another. However, some general tips that may help include being communicative, thoughtful, and considerate of her needs and wants. Additionally, it is important to be supportive and understanding, and to always be there for her when she needs you.

10. How often do you like to be asked questions?

It really depends on the person and the situation. Some people like to be asked questions all the time, while others prefer to be left alone. There are also times when people are more open to questions and times when they’re not.

11. How do you like to be complimented?

I love compliments that are genuine and specific. For example, I love it when someone compliments me on my writing or on a specific article I’ve written. I also love it when people compliment me on my sense of style or on something I’m wearing. I really appreciate it when people take the time to notice something about me and then say something nice about it.

12. How do you feel about discussing sensitive topics?

There are a few things to consider when discussing sensitive topics. The first is to be aware of your audience and what they might be comfortable with. If you’re not sure, it’s always best to err on the side of caution and not bring up anything that could potentially be upsetting.

Another thing to keep in mind is that not everyone will have the same opinion on sensitive topics as you do.

13. What are some good questions to ask a girl you like?

1. What are some things that you’re passionate about?
2. What are some of your hobbies and interests?
3. What kind of music do you like?
4. What are some of your favorite movies?
5. What are some of your favorite books?
6. What are some of your favorite places to go?
7. What are some of your favorite things to do?
8. What are some of your goals and aspirations?

14. What are some things you should avoid asking a girl you like?

There are a few things you should avoid asking a girl you like, as doing so could potentially make her feel uncomfortable or even turn her off. Here are a few examples:

1. Avoid asking personal questions that are too intimate or probing. This includes questions about her exes, her sex life, or her body.

2. Avoid asking questions that could be seen as judgmental, such as those about her weight, her appearance, or her intelligence.

15. What are some good topics of conversation to bring up with a girl you like?

Assuming you want tips for conversation starters with a girl you like:

-Ask her about her day or how she’s been
-Talk about something you have in common, like a hobby or interest
-Find out what kind of music she likes, or what kind of movies she’s into
-Ask her about her family, or where she’s from
-Talk about current events or something interesting you saw on the news

Frequently Asked Questions
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