How to Ask a Girl Out and Have Her Say YES


Is it possible to ask out a pretty girl you just met, with even a reasonable chance at getting a “yes”?

There are guys out there who ask women out all the time, and get rewarded with more girls, more dates, and more sex in one month than most guys get in a lifetime. And you’ll be just as successful as they are if you simply knew what they know and started doing what they do.

Want to start scoring more dates with more girls? Then let’s get started.

First Things First: What Makes a Girl Say “Yes”?

When it comes to asking girls out, you shouldn’t think and act like you’re begging for alms. Most inexperienced guys do that – they think asking girls out is a game of luck, and when a girl says “yes” to them, it’s because they got lucky (or because she felt sorry for them – and that’s worse).

Don’t use that mindset! The dating game isn’t a game of luck, there is no right time to ask – it’s a game of SKILL!

And when it comes to making girls say “yes” to you, you’ll need to work on three particular skills:

Skill #1: Being Attractive.

Ever watched those old “dating games” on TV, where a “dater” is presented with three potential “dates?” The dater asks each of the contestants a series of questions, and then chooses to go out with the “winner” at the end of the show. We’ve all seen those shows, right?

These dating game shows were hugely popular with women for a time, and scientists aimed to find out why in a 1999 study. In this study, various people watched dating game shows and tried to predict which of the contestants the dater would pick.

Studies show that being more attractive increases chances of getting a date

To the researchers’ surprise, they found that most of the people’s predictions made were actually accurate – the dater almost always picked the most attractive of the three contestants. [R]

Source: Taylor & Francis dating game show study

It wasn’t smarts, it wasn’t personality, it wasn’t compatibility – it was looks.

So what does this tell you? It tells you that if you want girls to say “yes” to you more often, you’ll need to be more attractive. That’s the first skill to cultivate – keep it in mind!

Skill #2: Being Open About Yourself

Speaking of “dating games” and the revealing questions asked in them: Do you know why “getting to know you” types of games (like Truth or Dare) are popular at parties?

The answer is simple: These games are enjoyable, non-awkward ways to get to know other people better. And if you’re a reasonably attractive guy at a party, the girls there will likewise be reasonably curious to know you better.

Don’t be afraid to be open, after all you’d expect the same back

That’s natural, by the way. Ever caught yourself, after chatting with a pretty girl, fantasizing about what it would be like to be her lover? Guess what – girls do that too, when they meet attractive guys. And it’s even likely that girls fantasize about romance and sex even more than guys do!

So if you want her to be curious about her, be open and approachable. Be someone girls can approach and know better anytime they want, without having to hide behind silly games like Truth or Dare.

Skill #3: Finding Areas of Compatibility

While you’re chatting with a new girl, it’s important to quickly and subtly find areas of compatibility between you. The easiest way to do this is to zero in on any common interests you share.

One proven method for developing a successful relationship is to find common interests

A good method of uncovering common interests is to simply tell her about your interesting lifestyle. Leisurely talk about the fun things you do in your life, or something exciting or interesting you recently did. It’s when she finds something about you she can relate to (or at least excites her) that she instantly becomes more likely to say “yes” to you.

Those are the three skills that make it much easier for girls to say “yes” to you. Now let’s talk about how to develop each one.

The Art of Becoming More Attractive

Since fashion trends and tastes vary from one part of the world to the next, you’ll need to check on what’s trendy where you are. For a quick reference, check a recent women’s magazine – the male models they use in the ads should clue you in on what women consider sexy… presentation is important!

Grooming and a good sense of current fashion trends is a great way of getting that date

On the other hand, becoming more attractive to women over the long-term entails some good, old-fashioned work:

How to Be More Open About Yourself

One technique to attract her by being open

The fast way to be more open about yourself is to simply NOT try to impress a girl with your lifestyle. Don’t brag or try to make her like you – instead, just tell her fun stories about your past escapades and have laugh about it. Tell her about the exciting things you do in your spare time and if she’s impressed, she’ll let you know.

The long, slow way to become a more open and approachable guy is to simply cultivate a more interesting lifestyle. That means spending much less time in front of the TV, computer, and smartphone… and more time pursuing more interesting and fulfilling hobbies/pastimes.

How to Find Areas of Compatibility More Easily

Whenever a girl meets a reasonably attractive, reasonably interesting guy, the thought is always at the back of her mind: “Will he be a good lover/boyfriend/potential husband?” And so she goes and finds out just how compatible they are together… starting by checking if they have common interests and pastimes.

That’s why it’s a good idea to talk to a girl about your interests, and ask her about hers. It’s a natural but yet creative way of finding common ground between you. The more you have in common, the more she’ll fantasize about dating and/or sleeping with you.

“The more you have in common, the more she’ll fantasize about being with you”

And later on, after you’ve dated for a while, she’ll check if your idea of a committed relationship is the same as hers. Do you want a more open relationship, with each of you doing their own thing outside the home? Or would you prefer a more traditional setup, with more clearly-defined roles and expectations for both of you? [R]

Compatibility is something you discover as you spend more and more time with a girl. The key is to keep approaching women you find interesting, and then spend more time with the ones you share a lot in common with.

Common Interests You Can Talk About

It should be easy to mention what your true interests are, but deciding which of the many ones to bring up might be a little more challenging that expected (particularly when you want to bring up ones that most likely interest her too).

So we bring to you 4 most common interests both men and women have based on a survey done on 100,000 Australian eHarmony members. The survey looks at what interests both sexes display on their online profiles.

RankMost attractive interests for men to list in their profilesMost attractive interests for women to list in their profiles
1PoliticsPersonal growth
2Travel Health / exercise
3Health / exercise Food
6Learning Art
8Finding loveFriends
9Charitable Outdoor interests
10FamilyWork / career
Food along with health, photography and family is a common interest between men and women

We can see that health & exercise, food, photography and family are the most common interests both sexes have.

These topics are a good starting point to bring up in conversation, as there is a great chance she will be interested in them too. However, they need to be genuine interests, or it will be a matter of time before she realise you have little in common… remember, the idea is not to set her up to reject you, but rather accept you.

Asking Her Out and Making Her Say “Yes”

Here’s how the three skills play out in the real world…

  1. You meet a pretty new girl, and she readily interacts with you. (Attractiveness)
  2. You have an animated, enjoyable conversation with her. (Openness)
  3. Let’s say you mention the barbecue party you went to the previous weekend, and she reacts excitedly, “OMG, I love barbecue too!” (Compatibility)

That’s when you invite her out. “Wow, cool. You know, there’s ANOTHER barbecue party next weekend. You should totally go.”

And when she says “yes” to your invitation, take out your phone and give it to her, saying: “Great. Give me your number so we can coordinate.”

Then you swap numbers, say goodbye, and then see her at the barbecue. That’s it!

And now for the fail-safe…

What if She Says “No”?

What if the girl you’re chatting with doesn’t seem interested in you, or says “no” to your invitation?

Simple: Don’t take it personally. There is no need to feel bad. 

Thank her for her time, and move on to the next girl.

 “Don’t Take THings Personally, because Giving up is the only sure way to fail.”

The key to success with women is to keep approaching and meeting new girls. While many will say “no” to you, others will give you an emphatic “yes” – and those are the girls who make it all worth it!

Soon enough, you’ll be reading our article on second date ideas 😉

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Resources & References

Here are some additional resources that might help you ask that special girl out.

  1. If you are looking at becoming more successful with getting girls, then the guys at The Social Man explain how false perceptions of women could be holding you back.
  2. Playing the dating game: Do we know whom others would like to date – Journal of basic and applied social psychology by Andrea Chapdelaine, Maurice J. Levesque, & Raymund M. Cuadro.
  3. 5 Easy Steps To Asking A Girl Out by Jad T Jones.
  4. Excellent suggestions by Tripp on How To Ask A Girl Out And Avoid Rejection Every Time With 3 Quick Steps!
  5. Compatibility and the Development of Premarital Relationships – Journal of Marriage and Family by Renate M. Houts, Elliot Robins, & Ted L. Huston.
  6. The Hobbies And Interests Most Likely To Score You A Date – A survey done on 100,000 online profiles by eHarmony.
  7. 5 steps to getting a girlfriend [Doing it the right way] by Carlos Xuma

1. How do I know if a girl is interested?

There are some general things to look for that may indicate interest. For example, if a girl is talking to you more than usual, or seeking out your company, that may be a sign she’s interested. Another possibility is if she’s dressing up more when she knows she’ll see you, or if she’s flirting with you in a playful way.

2. How do I approach someone I’m interested in?

Here are some general tips to keep in mind when trying to approach a girl you’re interested in:

– First and foremost, make sure you come across as confident. This doesn’t mean you have to be cocky or arrogant, but girls are attracted to guys who seem secure in themselves.

3. What do I say if I’m interested?

If you’re interested in a girl you just met, you might want to compliment her on something or start a conversation about something you have in common. If you’re interested in a girl you’ve been friends with for a while, you might want to tell her how you feel or ask her out on a date. There are a lot of possibilities, so it really just depends on the girl and your relationship with her.

4. How do I ask a girl out on a date?

Assuming you would like tips on how to ask a girl out on a date:

-Start by gauging her interest. This can be done by paying attention to her body language, the topics of conversation she brings up, and how much time she spends talking to you. If she seems interested, take the next step.
-Confidence is key when asking someone out on a date.

5. What should I do on a date?

It depends on the girl you are dating and what she is interested in. However, here are some general tips on how to make your date with a girl enjoyable:

– First and foremost, be yourself! Don’t try to be someone you’re not, as this will only make you feel uncomfortable and will likely turn your date off.

– Secondly, make sure you have some good conversation starters prepared.

6. How do I make a woman like me?

Every girl is different and will therefore like different things in a potential partner. However, there are some general tips that may help you to make a girl like you. First, try to get to know her and find out what she is interested in. Once you know what she likes, you can try to incorporate some of those things into your own life.

7. How do I ask someone to be my girlfriend?

Some tips on how to ask a girl to be your girlfriend may include being honest about your feelings, being clear about what you want, and being respectful of her answer. Additionally, it may be helpful to consider what you are willing to offer in a relationship and what you are hoping to gain.

8. What should I do if a girl says no?

There are a few things you can do if a girl says no. First, try to understand why she said no. It could be that she’s not interested in you, she’s not ready for a relationship, or there could be another reason. If you can’t figure out why she said no, you can ask her directly. Once you know why she said no, you can decide if there’s anything you can do to change her mind.

9. What if I get rejected?

If a girl rejects you, it’s not the end of the world. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. Don’t take it personally and move on.

10. How do I know if it’s worth pursuing?

It ultimately depends on your personal preferences and standards. However, here are some general guidelines that may help you decide whether or not a girl is worth pursuing:

-Does she meet your basic requirements and standards? This is obviously the first and most important question to ask yourself. If she doesn’t meet your basic standards, then there’s no point in pursuing her.

-Do you have a strong connection with her?

11. How do you know when you’re ready to ask a girl out?

Ultimately, you’ll just have to listen to your gut and go with your instincts. However, here are a few general guidelines that may help you to know when you’re ready to ask a girl out:

– When you feel like you have a strong connection with her and you’re really interested in getting to know her better

– When you feel comfortable around her and you’re confident that she likes you too

12. How do you find the right girl to ask out?

The most important thing to remember when looking for the right girl to ask out is to be yourself. Be confident in who you are and what you have to offer. Don’t try to be someone you’re not just to impress a girl. Girls are attracted to genuine, down-to-earth guys who are comfortable in their own skin.

Another important tip is to make sure you have the same interests. It’s important to find a girl who you have things in common with.

13. How do you approach the girl you want to ask out?

Everyone has their own unique approach that works best for them. However, some tips on how to approach the girl you want to ask out may include being confident, making eye contact, and starting a conversation. Additionally, it may be helpful to listen to her and find common interests to build a connection. Ultimately, the best approach is to be yourself and let your personality shine through.

14. Who should ask the girl out?

The person who is interested in the girl should ask her out. There is no one else who can or should do it.

15. Who will pay for the date?

It depends on a variety of factors, such as who initiated the date, who is more comfortable with paying, and each person’s financial situation. If you are wondering who should pay for the date, a good rule of thumb is that the person who initiated the date should be the one to pay.

16. Who decides where to go on the date?

Ultimately, it depends on the couple and what they are both interested in. If one person is particularly interested in a certain activity or restaurant, they may suggest it and the other person can either agree or suggest something else. Sometimes, couples may take turns planning dates or they may discuss options together and come to a mutual decision. Ultimately, it is up to the couple to decide where they want to go on their date.

17. Who should initiate conversation?

The person who initiates conversation should be the one who has the most to gain from the conversation. This could be the person who wants to learn more about the other person, the person who wants to sell something to the other person, or the person who wants to establish or maintain a relationship with the other person.

18. Who should decide when the date is over?

It can vary depending on the situation. In some cases, it may be appropriate for one person to make the decision, while in others, it may be best for both parties to discuss it and come to a mutual agreement. Ultimately, it is important to communicate with your date and gauge their feelings and comfort level before making any decisions.

19. What are some good ways to ask a girl out?

Everyone is different and will respond to different approaches in different ways. However, here are some general tips that may be helpful:

– First, try to get to know the girl a little bit and gauge her interest level before asking her out. This can be done by striking up conversations with her, flirting with her, or simply paying attention to her body language and the way she interacts with you.

20. What are some things to avoid when asking a girl out?

There are a few things to avoid when asking a girl out:

1. Don’t be too pushy or aggressive. You don’t want to come on too strong and scare her off.

2. Don’t be too needy or clingy. You don’t want to seem like you’re desperate for her attention.

3. Don’t be too forward. You don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable by being too forward with your intentions.

21. What are some good tips for asking a girl out?

There really is no one answer to this question since everyone is different and what works for one person might not work for another. However, here are a few general tips that might be helpful:

– First and foremost, make sure you are really interested in the girl you are asking out. There is nothing worse than going on a date with someone you’re not into.

– Take the time to get to know her a little bit before asking her out.

22. Where should you ask her out?

There’s no one answer to this question – it depends on the situation and the relationship between you and the girl you’re interested in. If you’ve been friends for a while and you’re pretty sure she’s interested in you too, asking her out in person is probably your best bet.

23. Where do most people go on dates?

There is no definitive answer to this question as it varies depending on the couple’s individual preferences. However, some popular date night ideas include going out to dinner, catching a movie, going for a walk or picnic in a park, or attending a concert or show. Ultimately, it is up to the couple to decide what they want to do on their date and what will make them both happy.

24. Where is a good place to take a girl out for dinner?

There are many great places to take a girl out to dinner, and it really depends on what she is into. If she is into a more casual atmosphere, then a place like Applebee’s or Chili’s would be a great choice. If she is into a more upscale atmosphere, then a place like Ruth’s Chris Steak House or Morton’s The Steakhouse would be a great choice. It really just depends on her personality and what she is into.

25. Where can you find a girl to ask out?

It depends on a variety of factors, including what type of girl you are looking for and where you are located. However, some general tips that may be useful include:

-Asking friends or acquaintances if they know anyone who may be a good match for you

-Attending social events or activities that you enjoy in order to meet new people

-Joining online dating sites or apps

Frequently Asked Questions
How should i ask out a girl in japan?

Strike up a conversation, then chat for a bit. After that exchange phone numbers and ask her out on a date. Simple!

When is the worst time to ask a girl out?

From the stall next to her while you're both having bowel movements.

How do y'all ask out a girl?

Say hi, how do you do? Want to go out? Why make it complicated?