Rejection Proof Method: How To Ask A Girl Out Without Any Rejection

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My friend told me a creepy story: one night, a guy followed her down the street in the middle of the night. He came up behind her, walking fast to catch up with her. As any sane girl would do, she tightened her pace to get away from him. “I was scared and annoyed“, she said. “I just wanted to mind my own business and get home.” The guy caught up to her and started asking her questions – what her name was, how she was doing.

Then he put his hand on her shoulder:

Hey, I just want to talk to you!” She turned around fiercely: “Don’t touch me!” As she walked away, she heard him calling after her. “Can I have your number?” If you ever wonder how to ask a girl out, think of the blatant things this guy did wrong. Put yourself into my friend’s position. Now, let’s explore how you can do it better and create a more positive experience for both parties involved.

The right moment

We probably agree that the nighttime stalker did not have his timing down very well. If you remember only one thing from this article, then make it this: TIMING is crucial.

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Can you walk up to a girl and immediately ask her out?
Sure, if you’re incredibly confident and attractive.

That is, after you do a loooot of homework. And even then, will it work? Well, possibly. But I wouldn’t hold my breath. That’s because you asking her out is unwarranted and unsubstantiated.

It’s so much easier after you’ve established a fun vibe, some familiarity, and common plans with her. Before you can reasonably ask a girl out, talk to her long enough to establish mutual interest: then, seeing her again will feel entirely natural and comfortable for both of you!

The right moment is when it feels right.

When does it feel right to ask her out?

This depends on how you lead a conversation.

You can talk to a girl about classical music for over an hour and still it won’t feel right to ask her out: there is no reason that would make it seem natural.

Yet, other guys can ask her out and she’ll agree – joyfully – after only a few minutes because they have a reason to ask her out.

To have a basis (reason) for asking her out:

1. Find out what interests you share
2. Find out why you would want to see that girl again
3. Ideally, have an activity set up

Both (!) you and the girl want to feel like you get along great and have fun activities to look forward to!

A model conversation:

You: Hey, my name’s … (or any other opener – low-investment, natural, normal). Learning how to approach girls with confidence is key to starting a conversation smoothly)

Her: Hi!

You/Her: (1-3 minutes banter, observations, what you’re up to)

You: Really? That’s so funny, I’ve been curious about that for years! You should teach me.

Her: Haha, totally.

You: Gimme your number. We could get a tea on Thursday, I’ll show you that café I told you about, and you tell me more.

It’s not a “date”

Did you notice how that didn’t even involve the idea of going on a “date”? It’s just two people who like each other hanging out. The key is to make this a low investment – “I’d like to ask you out on a date” is asking for a much greater commitment than “I like the same thing, we should do it together”.

You can also be straightforward: “I like you. Why don’t we continue this conversation over a tea?” Or just have her join you in any of your everyday activities. You go grocery shopping – she should join you and show you that spice mixture she mentioned. (See our article on how to get a number without asking for it for more on this)

How to formulate it

Wrong: “Can I ask you to go out with me to that, uh, thing we were… talking about?”

Right: “We should totally do this! Join me!”

Make it an enthusiastic suggestion, not a timid question. You’re a cool guy, she’s a cool girl, it would be great to hang out together. That’s all it is.

The whole idea is to give the budding relationship – where ever you want to take it – the room it needs to breathe and evolve. Some relationships – take one night stands, for instance – evolve quickly, then burn short and hot. Others evolve over time and last for years. You need to allow the proper natural progression for each of them, and knowing how to ask a girl out for a night out at the right moment is crucial. Wherever you take her next and when, make it natural.

Frequently Asked Questions
How stressful difficult is it for you to ask a girl out on a date?

I'm told it's gone with enough rejections

What's the best advice on how to ask out a girl as a shy dude?

Don't be afraid to be a little nervous. It seems more genuine, and a lot of girls/women find it somewhat endearing.

What are the best directions on how to ask a girl out?

Okay so every time you see her, what you wanna do is awkwardly stare at her when she's not looking, and never actually build up the courage to approach her. They LOVE that.

How to ask out a girl in chinese?

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Reddit how to ask a girl out?

Ask her if she wants to go out.