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What You Absolute Must Do To Get a Girl To Like You

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A simple trick that solves the age old question: “how to get a girl to really like you” is to remember the little details and then casually insert them into your conversation at a later date. The problem is that guys tend to remember larger things and women appreciate the details. Do you remember what she was wearing the first time you saw her? Probably not… but she will.

Getting a girl to like you isn’t just about remembering little details either, it’s also about triggering massive attraction right from the start. One of the gurus on this subject is David DeAngelo, he teaches guys how to create massive attraction in any situation.

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Once you have attraction, and you’re fairly confident about the situation, the easiest way to really have all the details sink in is not to concentrate on remembering the details, but to really be passionate about the situation that you’re in. The more your truly devote yourself to that situation, the more the little details will stick.

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Contrastingly, the more you are aloof and distracted, the more you will miss the subtle little details that show her that you really care. Humans, especially women, need to know that you really care, and being knowledgeable of the little details is one of the best ways to show this. Not to mention, the little details of your relationship are things that only you two share. Not even her best friend will know what she wore on your first date, so if you know, then you’ll be that much more ahead of things.

A fair warning about this… subtle details are great but don’t overdo them. Bring them up if they are appropriate, but sprinkle them throughout your interactions instead of fully using them.

For example, saying: “Hey remember that our first date, when you wore that top and those pants, yeah… I liked those” is really odd and out of place.

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Instead, if she happens to wear the same shirt that she wore on your first date, mentioning: “Didn’t you wear that when we first met? That was a good day!” would come off much better.The difference is that one is sincere and natural, the other is manufactured.

Don’t manufacture your comments, let them come to you naturally! It’s the little details that count when you’re trying to get girls to appreciate and like you, remember them and you’ll reap the rewards.

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A simple trick that solves the age old question: "how to get a girl to really like you" is to remember the little details and then casually insert them into your conversation at a later date. The problem is that guys tend to remember larger things and women appreciate the details. Do you remember what she was wearing the first time you saw her? Probably not... but she will.
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  • junior

    please help and tell me all steps on how to love a girl

  • Leon

    I loved a girl.. I have been trying to get her.. Already. 3 Years. We broke up just because of 1 lie. I know i shouldn’t have lied. So i wrote her a letter. To forgive me.. But. She got more angry. Can you please help me? I really love her.

  • http://www.seductionbooks.org/ Chris Calo

    Leon: The sad truth is that if you wrote her a letter asking for her forgiveness and she got more angry, then there are other forces acting here that you need to handle first.

    First of all… it sounds as if you’re a little concentrated on this one girl. Have you seen any other girls in these 3 years? If not, then you should.

    Keep on reading the site and I’m sure you’ll get a few insights on what went wrong… and it’s not just 1 lie.

    Although 1 lie could have been the catalyst for the breakup, it’s not 1 thing that ends an entire relationship.

  • Lance

    i have this friend who lives down my street and ive known her for a long while and shes liked me for so long and I’ve liked her but we’ve never dated, and recently i met her friend and i fell for her slightly and overtime I’ve fallen for her and i did the “tell the girl how you feel” thing I’ve heard about, and its gotten weird and shes taking it well and all it seems but its gotten weird now sorta. what should i do ? i really like her and want to be with her..

  • Josh

    i have liked this girl forever and we went out once but didn’t work. We have been friends forever and i haven’t stopped liking her. Yes i have had other girlfriends but when I’m around her i just fall for her. She said she liked me just a little but she wouldn’t go out with me because my ex still likes me. I really like her and might love her…

  • dave

    ive really liked this girl since ive known her but never really knew how much until i stayed at her house one night and we kissed during the night. she woke up the next day and didnt speak about it and hasnt since, until it got out and people started talkin and she got angry at me for telling people.

    its hard because her cousin lives with her and i am his best friend so its really awkward because of the friendship i have with her cousin, they are like brothers and sisters!

    i think she has liked me for some time but never been quite sure! but now i just want to ask her out because we will be moving apart because of educational preferences! how should i approach her knowing wot happened? i really, truly love this girl but im not quite sure if she knows how much!! help?? cool i not this much of a romantic type until this one girl so its quite unusual to ask how to go about your life!!

  • Anonymus

    I love this girl, but she has a boyfriend. She tells me she likes me too. I have had intercourse with her as well. But she has not broken up with him . What should I do?

  • Crash

    dave: i think the problem might be after you saw she liked you (kissing) you turned into a wuss. it was just a kiss and you don’t care ~ don’t forget that PLZ 4 ur own sake and any other guy who’s been their.

    JOSH: you said it ur self “it didn’t work” look though that whole i won’t date you cuz ur EX likes you was 1. a reason to not be mean and blow you(OFF!) 2. she likes you and wuz seeing ur response. either way you should have done the same thing… RUN!!! really but since that ain’t happening ~ when she told you the whole “cuz your ex likes you” thing, you should of busted her on it and change subject. or something of that nature. what do you do now? flirt flirt flirt ~ touch touch touch -until she stops you –> you’ll never know if she would’ve!!!! good luck~~~Crash

  • CeeJay

    i met this girl, she is really cute, and i dont know when to tell her i like her or when to ask her out. we have some things in commen if that helps. i was wondering how can i get her to notice me more and get her to like me back

  • jay

    there is a new girl in my class i really love. we are friends but i dont know what to say when i am in front of her. can u plz help me to get her. one more problem – i m not the only one who likes her – there are also a couple of other guys in my class who like her too. i dont know what to do. i really need help…

  • I’ve liked this girl for almost 4 years and we’ve been friends the whole time. She knew I liked her a couple years ago but I said I didn’t anymore even though i still did. throughout the whole entire time the passion has increased and decreased. How do I get her to like me back? She’s said She liked me in the past but not anymore. Am I stuck being one of her closest friends? or can I fix it?

  • killz

    Yo. I got the same problem but iv’e known the girl for almost 8 years now. I didnt start liking her till about 3 years ago but i always denied it because i didnt want to jepordize our friendship. BUT i think she MIGHT like me; how do i know after 8 years of friendship??

  • killz

    And if i tell her, what if she don’t like me? That could be akward!

  • doug

    i like this girl and she knows i like her, how do i get her to like me?!

  • josh

    so this girl i met is amazingly gorgeous, no matter where she goes guys gawk at her. she works above me. Problem is the age, shes older and done school and I’m not. I’m not going to lie she is kinda like a guy she likes working for guys. So for the first week or so i was pretty aloof. We went on a few dates and seemed to have a great connection. she said she found me attractive and liked me. She couldn’t get enough of me then after sex for the first time tells me she doesn’t want anything serious. But at the same time keeps giving me mixed signals. I feel she doesn’t respect my time and seems to not really care about me. or at least seeing me as much anymore. i feel like we are not longer on the same level anymore. I want to know how to take control out of her hands and basically show how i have value. any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

  • chris

    i really like this girl and she really likes me says, but she flirts with a lot of other boys but i don’t think she can help it. Also its a hard situation because My ex girlfriends is like best friends with the girl i like and we would be going out by now but its all to do with the ex girlfriend stopping us please help what do i do!

  • patloc

    I got a best friend who I love more than damn near if not more than anyone on this earth. And she knows everything about me and I do about her (I mean everything) and even though I have had plenty of girlfriends I can say by far that I haven’t loved them this much before. And I really think I’m falling for her.I have came straight up with the situation and told her that I love her. But this whole thing was said in a weird moment……basically she saw something I put on the internet as a headline and she thought i was talking about a girl I liked or was going to go with. And she asked me who it was so I acted like I wasn’t going tell her cause I was really nervous. Which I never am? I’m usually the person giving the love advice. Anyway so I told her it was her I was talking about and she didn’t believe me and I called my closest friends who knew that I was and she thought it was all planned and I was playing. And I figured maybe she just was too afraid to say I don’t like you in fear that I would take it personally. Or is it that she was nervous to tell me what she really felt…..and ever since that day she does things a little more openly towards me like in a flirtatious way though. Like when I’m over her house she may wash up in the shower and sit around me in a robe. And she knows that I’m going to pull the string and what she does is where something such as a bra and panties under it too tease me. But even though me and her are friends we constantly flirt and. Play on and off anyway. What do you think is going on with me her and the situation

  • Nathan

    This is for comment number 1 ; Go talk to the girl in person wemon like courage. btw a letter wtf tht never works lol. courage when u see her give her a kiss hug her tell her that u love her aND IF the doesnt work stalk her lol jk bt tell her u will it never fails.

  • chris sanders

    Hey, so I have loved this girl for almost 8 years which is longer then I can remember and we have been best friends for like 6 years and I have never gotten her to so much as to like me. She knows I love her and that hasn’t messed up our friendship but how do I get her to love, or at least like me?

  • heber

    there is this girl i like but I’m not sure if she like me too!
    i tell her sweet words and she would only laugh and have a great time but I’m afraid to ask her out because maybe she would tell me no! what can i do to make her like me as i do?

  • Ryan

    here’s an interesting story. I’ve liked this girl for three years. Its unfortunate she lives far away (about an hour to be exact). I vividly remember the first time I saw her, it was like a truck hit me. By far the most beautiful girl with an awesome personality to go along with it (in my opinion). Somehow, I’m not really sure how, we exchanged phone numbers and talked on the phone. A few months go by and she eventually invites me to her house to hangout. We did, and it was a lot of fun but nothing “extra special happened”. From that point we still talked on the phone and hung-out here and there. I ended up going to Penn State this past year and we still continued to talk. About half way through the year I told her how I felt. The key thing was that I was realistic about it. I wasn’t going to ask her out, wasn’t asking how she felt. At that point she still handed chosen a College yet (a year younger then me) and her reaction was secretive none the less. lucky for me, she didn’t ignore me after that, still talked on the phone etc.. etc… Now here’s the best part, for my b-day (just this past year) I got a txt saying Happy Birthday from her. It really made me feel good but, i got a second txt message saying “I got into Waseda University!” and for those of you who don’t know thats a college in Japan, yep Japan. At this point I’m not sure if im upset that she’s going to college in Japan or not. of course it will make it harder for me but to tell you the truth. Its worth not giving up.

    If you guys really like someone. if you really really like someone, it takes time to build a relationship of any type. That kind of relationship doesn’t sprout over night. Personally, I believe the harder you work and the more you try the better the relationship is going to be. Now im not saying that its always going to work out, but don’t give up and move on right away. Guy’s these days can be really lewd and it’s really a shame. Just be mannered. Oh one last thing, you can’t “make” a girl like you that ridiculous. There in charge of their own feeling, just like we are in charge of our feelings.

  • chris sanders

    Wow ryan, that was a useles sob story, no offense.

  • Anton

    I really like a girl, but she said that she doesn’t like her, but I like her so much.I have never felt so.What to do?

  • chris

    Well I’ve liked this girl named Amanda for awhile and we went out once but it didn’t work but we are still *best friends* i really want her back what should i do? she hugs and comes over sometimes but i truly love her

  • jayjay

    I know there are loads of other comments like this one but i just had to write in. There’s this girl who is two years above me at school, and I’ve had a crush on her ever since I met her when i was five.(long time!) When i was five we were really good friends, but over the past few years we’ve drifted apart slightly. We still say hi to each other other, but nothing else really. I love her so much, and do you think I should get to be good friends with her again before I ask her out?(is that right?!) Should I approach her and say “do you remember so-and-so?” or something else?

  • Bob

    I like this one girl slot but we live kind of far away from eachother we went out for like two mothes but she broke up with me because she says she doesn’t like me anymore, we’re sort of friends now but I want more than that how do I get her to like me again?

  • Austin

    I like a girl and I try to talk to her but I always get nervous is there anyway I can help not doing that

  • Loverboy

    I love this girl a mutual friend asked me if i liked the girl..i said no since she was standing right there and im shy..the mutual friend asked her when i was out of room and said no just as friends.. shes cute smart funny ..and i love her we have 6th and 7th hour together and we both finish work in 7th hour same time and go to choir room to help the teacher since we are her facrite studenrs…we are both in showchoir and are partnered for a slow song. should i give her a gift and tell her how i feel or give up on it?

  • Pedro De Mello

    Loverboy, WHY in the world would you give her a gift? That’s like stating “I’m under you and I need you and you have power over me”. Well, OBVIOUSLY some women you might like will end up having power over you in a sexual matter but you can’t, for the love of god, show that power she has over you.

    Really man, if you like her – be a man while dancing with her, lead her, ask her if she’s comfortable ONCE(!), try to flirt with other chicks on the room but don’t be obvious. Believe me, the trick is: be cocky (only works if you’re genuinely funny or witty), lead her (don’t ask the questions, make suggestions – if she follows you that means she’s into you)… and don’t be a wuss! The only time you get to be more sentimental is after having sleeping with her, not before.

    Really, if you love her be the man she needs, she craves for. Don’t feel bad for someone telling you “man up!” but that’s what you’ve got to do in order to get her.

    Otherwise, don’t be surprised if the biggest jerk in the world gets your girl. Be a jerk, don’t pretend, just be a lousy superficial jerk, only show emotions after sleeping with them (girls love that… but never be whiny or wussy before bed)…

    Well, I guess I made my point.

  • Loverboy

    and I do lead her while dancing. I had to teach her sister the song and she literaly jumped onto my shoulder (and im not short either) lol
    and one slight problem..I’m shy :X

  • Kaylab

    My best friend was Brazilian and he got more women in the 4 months that he was here than I had in the entire 25 years of my life (Approximately 25-30). We worked at a casino, lot of potential to meet women and at night we partied at their apartment which housed employees from the exchange program. He got the girls to like him by being confident, humorous, and a little cocky,in a rather nice way. It was his personality that won the girls over and he was a bit of a tease. He showed interest in them, but knew when to shut off his emotions to keep them wonldering and wanting more. He made the girls feel comfortable, enabling him to get closer to them and all touchy feely and all. Things never got awkward for him, he was always in control. He flirted with just about all the girls incaspiculously, therefore creating competition among the women; while making the ones he didn’t flirt with wonder what was wrong and making them want him even more. This guy was skilled, sorta like a professional at what he did. Never give all of your attention to any particular girl, especially early on, even if you really like them. Coming on to quick or to strong labels you as easy and weak in their eyes. Women love a challenge and yes, there’s a fine line between being to nice and mean(arrogant). Walk that line carefully. Even if you’re confident the girl likes you, make her work a little, give her some of your time/ attention but not to much, if she wants to hang out- tell her you’re busy, blow her off a time or two, but keep her interested. She may like you a lot, but if you give in to easy, she may be turned off and push away, because she knows that she already has you, thus; busting her ego and moving on to another guy to see if she can get him or not. We all know girls love attention, especially from guys and they’ll look for ultiple men to give it to them. Hope this helps- remember, be yourself and be confident in who you are, where you’re going and what you want. Dress nicely and secure your finances. This will help boost confidence and relieve stress and worries about not having no money. Notice I didn’t say dress fancy, or get rich; this doesn’t win women, although it can help, as well as hurt and possibly attract the wrong kind of women.

  • aaron

    I am in college and as i started school met a girl that was a freshman that blow my mind i really liked her from the start. About a month later i talked to her to see if she liked me and she straight up said she liked me as a friend and she didn’t have those kind of feelings for me. Now a while back i agreed with her to just be good friends. i now know a lot about her and she has spent a couple nights at my apartment(nothing happened). i am now even friends with her sister and her mom. We talk at least once if not more a day, we have gotten really close but the thing is i am still mad for her its driving me crazy and its been 5 months already i don’t know if i can take it anymore i think about her day in and day out. i have tried just getting over her and not talking to her anymore but she gets driven to tears. But the combination of her being really upset because i don’t want to be just friends, and the fact that i am madly in love with this girl brings me right back. What should i do?

    P.S. She slept with one of my friends that neither of us talk to anymore before she ever met me. But she hasn’t been with anyone since and im pretty sure i would know the girl tells me almost everything.

  • El

    Ok i been working with this girl for about a year, shes fun outgoing hyper and very active we hang out after work,i like her alot and i dont know what to do shes about two years older then me we flirt and all that but i cant go out with it and tell her i like her… WHAT TO DO????

  • eric

    i really like this girl a lot i mean she’s one of my best friends but i just can’t seem to win her heart even though i give her mine

  • eric

    what should i do?? im heartbroken

  • McArthur

    Well, i’ve been talking to this for over a year now. In the first 5 months i’ve been talking to her, We started going out shortly thereafter but it only lasted 8 days( i called it off becuase of the distance) then i regretted having had to break it off with her. Ever since i’ve been trying to get her back but she’s not responding. She never once told me how she felt about me, well, she’s always saying that i’m a very nice guy and she could see us going out if i wait a little bit longer. I told her Love is no pity, it’s either she feels me or she doesn’t because i don’t want her to feel bad and just go out with me. That was one of the reasons why i broke up with her- she never once told me if she liked me or not. So i took it upon myself to ask her if she feels the same way, then she said she likes me as a friend and she continued by saying she wants us to still be best friends. But, before when i asked her how she felt about me she said i’m a nice guy and all of those wussy-stuff that ruined it. And i seriously feel differently now, i was madly in love with this girl but i’m not heartbroken.. So my question is, how do i turn it around???

  • bryan

    i like this girl but she told me twice that she don’t think that its gonna work out between me & her …. i was a little bit crushed but i still like her she wont stay out of my head

  • Josh

    Ok so im dating one of my little sister’s friends. She and I met a few days ago and I really haven’t fallen so easily and she says she has fallen for me as well. Thing is, She has a boyfriend shes never even met before. Not only that but she is torn between Me and Him. She knows she needs to make a choice. However, Lately shes been saying she wants to sleep with me and i told her I could only do that if I was the only guy she was dating. She got upset. The next day her friend snaps at me telling me what I said was not smart. Now, Today I told her I felt like i was being used. She snapped at me again but that’s understandable. Later on in the day around 3:00 pm a guy friend who likes her started text’ing me thru her phone. He told me to sleep with her before she loses interest in me because she wants it really bad. Now, What I don’t seem to get is Why on earth would you say something like that?! So i have to have sleep with her just to keep her interest? Is there something I’m not getting? I don’t know what to do or say please help.

  • Joshua M

    So there is this girl Im kinda intrested in an I wanna get to know her but when I’m around her I can’t think of anything to atlants. Its not that I’m nervous it’s that nothing comes to mind when I’m around her but I also used to like her friend who is one of my closest friends an I still kinda like her. I wanna move on from her an see if anything can happen with her friend and she’s supportive of that but around her friend I can’t think of anything to say help me out

  • Angel

    I have liked this girl since I’ve first met her, she is physically attractive but thats not why I like her so much, she makes me laugh and when I am around her I feel amazing and shes what I look forward to during the day. I like her a lot but I have been getting mixed messages, she looks at me and when I look at her she turns her head quickly, she laughs at almost everything funny I say, and she lets me sit real close to her and we talk a lot. The thing is when i was at a football game with her she mentioned only being there because she likes one of the guys who plays defense for our school. How do become positively sure that she likes me and how can I make sure that she keeps liking me.

  • dominique r.

    there is a girl i really like, i also had a chance to tell her i like her and she tell me she likes me too, but somehow i hurt her feelings by telling her like “we can get this relationship later”. now she don’t like me anymore, she like another guy now… pls. give me some advice… i really really like her,

  • Pedro Tchiaze

    I am in love with a girl i have been seeing for the past 3 months. We have spent a lot of time together…talked a lot and done a lot together, but have never been intimate. I think i love her a lot. She is in a relationship with another guy and she tells me this makes it very difficult for her to get to be intimate with me at the same time and would rather we continue to be friends. Lately we traveled out together for a week but still came back to the point we were. I feel frustrated because i want her so much, i want to be with her. How do i get her to be more attracted to me and get intimate. Oh the other point is that we have quite a huge age difference.

  • Charles Huddleston

    I liked a girl last year she was cute and nice. So this year something nice happen. When I was talking to her at lunch telling jokes and she said that she send me a huggyhippo. I told her she was awesome. Later when I was talking to my friends she said Hi and I said Hi and then she said did you get the huggyhippo yet? I said no but don’t worry I’ll be waiting. Then she said that I was cute does that mean she likes me?

  • Jd

    I’ve loved this girl for about 6 years now, but I don’t have the courage to ask her out. What do I do? I keep delaying it, and I get dead jealous when I hear any rumours about her with other guys, true or not (mostly not true, she’s not that type of girl)

  • taylor

    ok, theres this girl that works across the street from me i see her sometimes when i go by there, (its a fast food place). Anyway i think shes really cute and i guess im askin for a way to kinda introduce myself in someway. I can be alil shy sometimes and dont exactly have alot of expierence but anytime this happens i put it off from being nervous or something else but i wanna take a shot!

  • Vann

    heres what guys i had the same problem you guys do but i turned around by doing the following; firts off you got to get them interested in you in a way other than just friendship to do this you got to stop being so close and evaluate your situation modifive your behavior and be confident in yourself. second; think more in yourself. woman repond well to a guy that kmows what they want and worked to get it! third; get over yourself and just plain tell her hey you know what i was thinking about us and well i like you and would like to go out with you since we cool and all i tho you shud know. sounds easy? well it is all you need is courage and a lil luck she may feel the same for you. if after all this she turns you down well its time for you to let go bro before you get more hurt cap your losses. and remember to always be honest from the begining makes the whole process far easier. if all she does is send you mix signals after this shes not interested in you some woman just like the attention you may provide even tho there not in to you they will send mix signals your way just to keep you hook well best of luck to you all!!

  • chris

    i really like this girl and she likes me too but she has a boyfriend. what do i do

  • quentin

    There’s this girl i like and i don’t know how to get her to like me. I mean that we are friends and everything but i don’t know what to do.plz plz plzzzzzzzz help me.

  • classified

    the girl must like me because the time I had broke my wrist she asked if she could sign it first. In class she sits at the opposite end of the room and she leans on her desk and stares at me instead of listening to the teacher

  • Anonymous

    Ok, so there’s this girl i like and were not really friends… I mean its not like she doesn’t know i exist, shes a friend of a friend and were not exactly in the same social clique, what do i do to strike up a conversation and begin the art of seduction?

  • cracker

    just be romantic and be good tell her some joke look at her eyes and she will love you really try this

  • secret

    So I like a girl but she doesn`t like me. How do I get her to like me.

  • Aaron

    i like this girl. she sits across from me she tries to play footsie with me does that mean she likes me? (p.s i like her)

  • Bill

    im good friends with a girl i really like, she recently split up with a long term boyfriend who was cheating on her and is still quite damaged from it, how do i know if she wants to be more than friends?

  • matt

    I like this girl a lot but she has a boyfriend, I asked her out thinking that they broke up cause thats what my friend said (which is her cousin) I know she got feelins for me but I don’t know how she goin to feel bout me since I asked her out.I need some advice,so if can help me I’d appreciate it.

  • IAIN

    Theres this amazing girl i like and we have been through alot in the past but now she goes out with this prick who hurts her. She told me she will always have feelings for me. I love her so much she drives me crazy. Shes so pretty and her personality is like mine. And i love her so much. Any help??

  • mohammad

    my sister has a friend who i love since a year but she doesn’t know that and am afraid to tell her that i like her and want her because she became like a member of our family. I see her almost everyday and am getting attracted to her and everytime we talk online and ask about each other, but the problem is that am always afraid to lose her and i really need to be with her. I love this girl very much and i need help to get her attention about my feelings towards her.i’ll appreciate help

  • Phatfarm

    There is this girl i’ve being tripping for,though i’ve not seen her in a long time but i saw her recently and she’s driving me crazy.i dont know what to do.

  • MLG gamer

    I really like all kinds of girls, especially the rocker image type. The only girl who was like that was in my class last year, but this year she isnt… We always used to talk and she would always ask me,”who do you like?”… I wonder what she expected me to say? I wish I could say that I honestly like her, but at the time I wasnt lonely. I might need some advice for talking to her again.PS I look nothing like a emo or anything,so it doesnt really matter how much different you are from who you like as…..

  • MLG gamer

    long as you meet her needs

  • Scotte

    If she’s already your friend you have to be willing to risk loosing your friendship if you want to move out of the friend zone. Tell her exactly how you feel. Not in a Email, text, or on the phone. Tell her in person. Tell her how long you’ve had feelings for her and that you weighed in on your decision. Tell her that your willing to risk your friendship for a chance at something special. If she has any attraction to you what so ever, she’ll give you an indication that she feels the same way. Which at this point you lean in to kiss her. If she says something like, ” I don’t want to lose you.” Then tell her you respect her decision, but you have to keep your distance from her for awhile. Don’t call her, message her, text her. If you have mutual friends. Don’t let it get awkward if you run into her, say hello, give her a hug, and ask her how she’s been. Limit your time with her, politely excuse yourself, and say goodbye. Go about your life don’t think about what could have been. Find somebody new. Now if she one day out of the blue contacts you, this is an indicator that she’s been thinking about you. Ask her if she’s thought about what you said. If she has changed her mind then this is when she will tell you. If she still insists that she want to be just friends, then give up. Don’t torture yourself like that because life is way to short to get hung up like that.

    Not every girl you like is going to like you.

    If you just met her, find out what she likes, tell her about what you like. Give her a few sincere compliments. Tell her that your attracted to her and ask her out, “Do not ask her to hang out.” Make her laugh and be respectful, but make sure you flirt a little, watch for signs that she uncomfortable. If she’s no responsive to your flirting, then back off. If after a few dates your still not sure if she likes you, ASK HER! “Hey (insert name of girl) exactly what are your intentions with me? (Do it with a smirk on your face). I’ve asked this question many times and I’ve gotten a multitude of responses, all the way from getting rejected, to ripping each others cloths of and having amazing sex. So good luck

    Oh and to the guy that wrote the story about the girl that gave him the cold shoulder after the first time they had sex. Three things might have happened. She might have decided that she doesn’t like you. You might have got all clingy. She’s shallow and thought you had a little dick.

    Some women and especially the uber hot ones can be very emotionally messed up in the head. It

  • ???????

    @ PHATFARM. Talk to her. say hello and howr u and stuff like that. Try 2 be funny but dont if u think you will blow it. good luck

  • Bee

    friends zone isn’t a good place to be.
    Im in high school and theres probably 200 girls in the school.
    I’ve never really have trouble with any of them. Im not the cutest looking guy.
    The rules are:
    1. have confident
    2. no friends zone, try not to be too friendly with girls cause they will think of you like one of their “girlfriends”
    3. good listening skills, quiet/understanding guys get more girls than anoying dumbasses.
    4. have fun with your friends, when girls see you laughing around your buddies, they will see that you’re a friendly guy, and they will feel more comfortable when approaching you.
    5. be mature,don’t act stupid like throw papers at people or run around like little kids, if you see a piece of trash or can laying around the school or someplace, pick it up and throw it away, girls will notice youre a nice/clean/organized dude.
    6. finally, dont try too hard, remember, give yourself the power, guys are always the one that chase girls. Lets turn that around, we want girls to come to us.

  • Luis

    I know this girl from my college who i spotted like a year ago around campus and i liked her from the first time i saw her. I always wanted to talk to her but i was very shy and non confident to talk to her, not until this semester because she is in on of my classes. Well i started talking to her like three weeks ago and we have been talking ever since, we even do homework together, however i am not still sure how to ask her out..do i still have to wait a little more to ask her out?

  • umm

    Ok thares this girl I like but she’s one of those straight A’s girl. I heard of people asking her out but she tells them that she’s focused on school. But she knows I like her and so is thare anything I can do to make her atleast like me?!?!?!?!… please help me!!!

  • donte

    ok i love this girl and i know she like me a little bit but i went out with her cousin and that messed everything up this girl is always playing with my emotions and how do i get her to wanna go out with me

  • William

    There’s this girl that I’ve been in love with for two years. I confessed my love to her, but she really didn’t like me at the time, so we decided to stay friends and to be honest, everything’s okay. We get along well, we help each other out, we have fun, etc. But the more I spend time with her, the more I’m falling in love with her again. And I think that she might be starting to like me as well. Unfortunatley, a friend of mine (not really, he’s the kinda of friend you don’t like to see or speak with at all) has also started to like her and talks with her all the time. Whenever I try to have fun with her, he somehow shows up and finds a way to make me look silly or to make me leave. He always looks for her and waits for her all the time (He’s a stalker at 100c %). I can’t even hang out with her anymore because of him. Anyway, she’s starting to like him too because she says he’s sweet and sensitive. But it’s all just an act, as soon as she leaves, he talks about other girls and says things like how much he would love to have her for a trophy. I want to tell her the truth about him, but because he’s so good at decieving others, I’m afraid he might turn her against me. What should I do, please help me.

  • Dave

    @william, sounds like the stalker friend of yours is just into her for lust. Having a relationship just built upon lust will never work out in the long run. In time she might see what a slob he really is, or she might fall for him because of the attraction he created. If i were you i would try to show her that your confident. Try to make her jelous of YOU and make yourself the challenge. She will come running to YOU if you dont base yourself on her. Have fun doing other things and tell her about, Tell her how much fun you are having without her, and eventually she will become curious to what you are doing. -DAVE

  • jr

    There’s this girl that I’ve known for about 8years. I started likeing her about 1 year and ahalf. She knows I like her. I asked her out and she told me that she couldn’t. That she had all the reason to be with me but that she couldn’t. After that happened we kept on talking and she knows my feelings haven’t changed towards her. Now we have kinda lost communication in a way. I mean we still talk but not like before. What should I do to get her attention once again and make her want to be with me?

  • hello my low egos

    ok.. lets start by saying if you like a girl don’t hide it because chances are they already know you like them. (we have a sixth sense) For two, guys always make the first move its human nature. Don’t be nervous because chances are shes more nervous than you. Most girls like the first cute guy they see. So, don’t worry guys its not hard to find a girl. The main aspect to a girls heart or getting down her pants is honesty. No matter how bad it is just tell the truth. Not unless its unmentionable.

  • Djay

    I seriously need help I’ve liked this girl for like 6 years and I have been her best friend for 1 year but I’m not the only one who likes her there’s alot of boys that like her but I know she ain’t like any of them except for one kid who is like my best friend and he’s liked her to but he’s so shy he will never do anything. Anyway i say that I don’t like but I really
    do and she either likes me or my friend he’s like better at drawing and stuff and I’m more smart but she is both combined so she is always commenting on he’s stuff and She’s always laughing at his stuff to. But me he always looks in my eyes and I look at hers and I make her laugh to. Execpt today was strange I was walking home and she was to an then when she turned off into her street I looked at hr she did’t look back but then I turned around again and she was looking at me,oh and also for like 6 years everyone has been saying like my best friend likes her and she likes him she use just get kinda a red face and say I don’t like anyone. PLZZ. TELL ME WHO SHE LIKES AND WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!!!

  • Djay

    And I can stop liking her if she doesn’t like me but if she does I don’t wanna scare her but I might wanna get in the game

  • Jeremy

    its been about 7 months now me and my ex broke up becase i cheated on her and lost my virginity to the wrong gurl but i still love my ex theres no gurl i can ever want to be with that one night is the werst time of my life i never wanted to be that guy that cheated but becase i did i have to live with it and its hard i try to move on but all i can think about is how much i still love her and how much i want to still bewith her can u please help me is there a way me and her can be back togeather we still talk but every time i talk about daiting again she gets mad and dose not want to think about it how do i get her to see that i am not a bad guy and that i am sorry

  • Nicky

    Ok well heres my problem. I have the most amazing girl that lives down my street. I mean shes perfect, fun to hang with, beautiful, funny, outgoing and is just 100% perfect. We have only been talking for like 1 week and hanging out but not like “That kind of talking like the sweet talk stuff just regular talking.” Mainly because i talked to my friends that have been knowing her for about 6 years and her Ex boyfriend which is currently one of my best friends and they all said that sweet talking at first is a very bad idea, and that for her you have to wait like 6 months to date. Now, that is not a problem she is totally worth the wait by far but, I want her for a true love relationship i dont care if we ever do anything sexual it wouldn’t bother me one bit i just want to date her more than ever, but idk shes different than everyone else im not sure how to tell if she starts to like me because i dont want to say something sweet and screw up please help me out

  • rg

    it seems to be a common problem on here but im gonna ask for help anyway. i met a girl in my work who is amazing, we get on very well(even though i sometimes get so nervous around her i struggle for things to say), we are on nights out together all the time but never alone because i think she only see’s me as a friend. im 23 years old and ive never been in this kind of situation before. ive always been quite confident with women but she really makes me nervous because of how much im beginning to like her. i honestly dont think she knows that i like her and i dont think i should say anything not only because it may ruin the friendship but aso because it would make work very awkward. suppose im asking, How can i get her to like me? or at the very least find out if she could ever like me?

  • D

    ” Even if you’re confident the girl likes you, make her work a little, give her some of your time/ attention but not to much, if she wants to hang out- tell her you’re busy, blow her off a time or two, but keep her interested. She may like you a lot, but if you give in to easy, she may be turned off and push away, because she knows that she already has you, thus; busting her ego and moving on to another guy to see if she can get him or not. We all know girls love attention, especially from guys and they’ll look for ultiple men to give it to them.”

    So, I know I’m weird being a girl reading all of your comments, but this is the type of logic that pisses girls off. We do not like to be played with in any way, we like sincerity. Those girls who look for attention from multiple guys? – Are either not interested in anyone particular or are not the girls who are great at commitment and you should probably avoid them.

    For all those guys who are asking questions: quit worrying about ruining your friendship, or how to get her to like you before you confess your feelings. A lot of times just knowing that a guy likes you is enough to make a girl feel special, which is already a big step forward. Just… for the love of god, don’t do it in a text message.

  • Thomas

    Dear Chris,
    I really like this girl. I told my friends and they told her, which is not what I wanted. I think it might have helped though, because she has been talking to me more, she has been gazing at me, and if we make eye contact, she smiles. She isn’t shy though. So I’m confused, do you think she likes me or not?

  • J

    Man you need to help me.. Last year there was a girl who gave me the stare and signs that she wanted me to ask her out near the end of school but I asked my friend and he said I shouldn’t.. He didn’t give me a reason but I listened to him, friends are everything right? Well this year he has been trying to get at that girl shamelessly and it is working bur he is more calm and less exciting where as I am humorous and always spontaneous. so basically he will not ask her out but I will, problem is her heart probably left me. If I had one more chance I would ask her out no matter what, even god can’t stop me, it’s just… How?

    Note* I am the type that does crazy fun stuff so I’m a pretty cool guy to be around

  • Frederik

    Ive been in love in 3 years with a Girl in my class.
    We are hanging out more and more. And now she txt me hearts and i really like that… And for 2 days ago she broke up with her boyfriend. But there are over 6 boys in my class who love her to and i dont know what to do… Though shes my “Best friend” shes Holding my hand shes still hard to get so PLEASE respone this! I dont know what to do! P.S we dont talk so much because we are both really embaresed when we are alone and Stuff.
    (sorry my bad english)

  • Anon

    Ok here’s my situation. I live is a small country town with maybe about 50 people, theres a girl i really like here and we get along great, share similar interests etc. Problem is i have very little to no self confidence (being slightly overweight and acne doesnt help this). I want nothing more than to be with her and to tell her how i really feel but i am absolutely terrified of rejection. Please help!

  • Vincent

    I have loved a girl for like 3 years! I’ve asked her out and i give her gifts but she always refuses! Help!

  • i have 3 rats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    hahaha ur all retards igot a girlfreind try 2 be funny dont start to act complete dominate just chill smoke weed and drink vordka and rum spirutial thing you know just be your self…

  • George

    Ah man! what’s wrong with you guys? If you are uncertain that being yourself is going to be a bit awkward, try to change a little bit( at least temporarily)…and tell your love how much you’ve loved her all these years and you couldn’t tell and blah blah….If you don’t take chances in Getting your love, you are in a bind! Good luck all

  • adam

    i love this girl but she doesnt like like me but she says she likes me like a new friend so how do i get her to like like me

  • Nas

    This what u do, first u gotta have game and some swagg because u sound ass, look do stuff she like a guy to do, make her laugh like crack her up and then tell this u will Neva have a man make u laugh like this then she going start thinking ohh. U kno u gotta have game George come on now

  • shaun

    i was just in turkey and i saw this girl and in time i found out in time that i really love her and now it is driving me mad that i cant see her anymore and i cant stop thinking about her but she lives in the same country (ireland)but not in the same city what can i do any tips

  • shaun

    I have just been to turkey and i saw this girl and i really fell in love with her but I have no numbers or emails and im not sure if she liked me I had mixed feelings if she did or didn’t and we don’t live in the same city from each but both live in N Ireland and i think i know what city it is and im planning to go after her what do you think.

  • Nas

    Yo Shawn that’s a sign that just happen to u man, happen to me beore to too, it’s like u meet a chick and feel like she want u and u never see her, that’s a good sign because it means it’s time to move on buddy and another girl is coming your way about the say but that’s it she gone u can’t do nothin but to chill so don’t go online typin Turkish girl no that’s it get it out your head because the more u take it out your head u might bump into her and not remember her that’s what it means when the world goes around so that’s it bro I. Guess u lucked out like everyone gets in life.

  • dylan

    i like this girl and everytime we hangout we kiss cuddle etc. but she has told me she doesnt want a relationship and that were only friends but we still continue to kiss and do things like a couple would

  • john

    i went this party and saw a girl who i knew . we knew eachother but not properly. i went to sit next to her and started talking about little things and later on i put my leg next to hers unknownly and she started rubbing her leg against mine. does she like me and what should i do

  • Jess

    I love a girl. But I don’t know she loves me or not. She told me that In her class there r also a boy( Jack) who love her.They r very good friend also.I asked her “do u also love him”. She replied “no”. She always try to irritate me by talking with me about Jack. She call me and I also call her. She becomes very angry if i did not call her for a day. If I ask her “do u love me”. She did not say anything. Now pls help me to let me know whether she loves me or not.

  • stfu

    btw, be confident and straight forward. if you want to date her, at least hang out with fr a week and then ask. if she says no, get over it. be like, still friends? from a girl, i like that.

  • Jason

    I have a girlfriend and am falling out of love with her. I need to know how to break it off easy with her. I am also starting to like this other girl and am feeling guilty for it since i am still with my girlfriend. I just need a little advice bout how to go about this situation. Except the girl i like we only talk maybe once or twice a week so i dont even know if she likes me back. But when we do talk we talk about old times (when we hung out more) and it usually last for long periods of time. Help please.

    • stan

      Tell your girlfriend the truth. But whatever you do, you must do three things: 1. You must do it in person. Its better that way. Trust me, I broke up my only relationship through text she hated me and still does. 2. Be gently about it. You don’t want to upset her anymore than she already is. 3. Make sure you two are alone. You don’t want her to cry in front of her to cry in front of her friends. Just be careful with her.

  • Mr.Unknown

    Hey, I’ve known this girl for about 5 years now, we’ve always been friends, but recently I’ve realized I’m liking her alot more than originally planned. I dont know if I should ask her out, because if she says no, things would be awkward, but if I don’t do anything it feels like I’m missing out on an opportunity with a great person. =/ What should I do??

  • Joel

    So theres this girl i recently get to know and fell in love with her without knowing till she asked me this question “Joel,Do you like me ?” She has a Boyfriend so theres no reason for her to like me,but i want to try to get her to like me in future,how am i to do it ?

  • Josh

    I’ve known this girl for quite some time. I’ve gained a lot of interest in her now that we are older. I have a friendly relationship with her and her friends, but I want more than that. I don’t think she sees me as more than a friend, and I don’t wanna ruin our friendly relationship if I ask her out. She also is pretty popular and a very likable girl. I need a miracle to land this girl! What do I say and do?

    • Jake

      Ive got the exact same thing bro. It sucks

      • Caleb

        Difficult situation. There are a bunch of subconscious signs to tell if she likes you. Her pupils may dilate if she looks at you, she may stare at you, “accidentally” bump into you, and about fifty or sixty others. Research “How to tell if a girl likes you”.

        Build a very strong relationship with her. Keep your friendship with her friends, but don’t get too close. This is important. Ask them, your girl included, out to activities with you and your friends. I hate to do this to you again, but research “How to escape the friend zone”. There are many different methods, and you need to decide which one you think will work the best.

  • petey

    dudeeee be yourself thats all you can do. i mean if something is funny to you then you should share it with her, dont say pick up lines or any other junk because it “worked” for other guys. be interested and be confident bro

  • jimmy

    there is this new girl i like but she doesnt know it… how can i tell her in a polite and unfunny way

    • Caleb

      Don’t. She will immediately back away and your chances will be gone. Think of how you would feel if a random girl off the street walked up to you and told her that she liked you.

  • Spencer

    So there is this girl that is one and a half years older than me, but she kinda has a thing with my really good buddy and he is like a god with girls and i suck at it. I have told her i like her and it back fired like no other. I still have feelings for her and i want to be with her and like her and she kinda picks on me in like a friendly way but i dont know wat to do. And i am a jelous person so i try to get her attention to me from my buddy but cant so i need help.

  • daniel

    theres this girl i really like.shes 2 years older than me and ive liked her for ages.i worked up the courage to ask her out twice but something happened both times that i just couldnt.i eventually told her i liked her but she said i was too young.but now i cant stop thinking about her.i dont want things to be awkward between us and at the moment there not but i still really like her.

  • Chris

    There is this cute girl in my math class that I really like. We talk every day or every other day and we tell each other stories and stuff like that. And she always plays games on my calculator and stuff like that, she acts like we are friends but I can’t tell if she likes me. Some days we never talk and it’s like I don’t exist and other days we are laughing and having a good time. How do I know if she likes me? And how do I get her to like me? Please help. Oh and she does abnormal things for just class mates like I was showing her the neat and odd pattern on my shoe and she grabbed my foot/shoe even though she could see it. Please help me.

    • jeremy

      hey give her a suprise present, dont over do it tho. try a small teddy bear……………..trust me it works. be confident

  • some1 u dont know

    @ chris
    Hnm…she seems like shes hiiding something…next time she ingnores yoou look forr a sing [I.E : a guy in the surroundings][←that means she dosn't likee you]
    iif thhers no sing thatt means she wants you to get impatiieent…hint: DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT get imppatient…sheel then wonder whyy your not and youll get the advantage

  • James

    There is a girl in my class tht I adore. She is gorgeous! But she has a bf and she acts like she likes me better but I don’t know. It is sooo weird we are really good friends tho.

  • Stephen

    I just recently broke it off mutualy with a girl that I had only been dating for five months.
    It ended pretty ruff. The thing was… I though she was to competitive. It always seemed like she had to one-up me. She insisted that she wasn’t, but it was just to obvious. She was realy sweet sometimes, but then she would just kind of start again. Keep in mind we still chit chat as friends. It even seems like she still likes me sometimes. I mean I like her to but I can’t handle that. Is it just me? Is she a possible Femnazi? Should I stop talking to her? What do you think?

  • Ian

    I liked this girl, and she kind of liked me, but then word got out that I was gonna ask her out, and she got so much crap that she like hates me, how do i make her like me again?
    D:

  • john

    its is very interested to have a glance when we are also in the same problem. will get some relaxation on ideas how to deal with our own confusions
    thank you chris

  • Gigi

    There is this girl in my media studies class, and she can make me go crazy, she’s really pretty and i’m a pretty good looking guy myself and lots of girls tend to look at me alot but she’s a bit different, i’m not very confident and i can tend to be shy when i have to ask a girl out because i was talking one do with her in class and she’s was telling me many personal facts about her and i would tell her my personal stuff… then in the evening we were texting and i said that i would’ve probably liked to have a coffee with her one of these days and she didn’t answer and then i said good night and she answered…and then just today we were texting and as soon as i said i wanted to call her she said that she had to go to the cinema and that she would see me in class on wednesday so that makes me understand that she is shy, but what do i do? i like her a lot she’s nice beautiful and i can’t get her off my mind….thanks in advance :-)

  • davis

    I will never forget this article, never!

  • Bean

    This cute girl that was on my coed soccer team went through a rough breakup with her boyfriend about a month ago. About a week aftter that i started talking to her and flirting a bit and she was flirting back so naturally i started liking her. We talked for about a week non stop and she continued flirting with me, we went out to lunch a couple times and we talked in between classes etc. She told me she wasnt a very physical person because she heard from a mutual friend that i was but i didnt care much because i liked her for her. We then hungout late on a friday night and she was cuddling and playing footsie With me but i didnttry and do amything more because i disnt wanna mess things up. So thatnight went well and i liked her even more now, but on sunday she sais we should take a break from talking and she needs some space, so i layed off. Ofcourse as i feared i learned she liked me lessand startedgetting interested in other guys. So itriedtalkimg to her more often to keep her on my side and that didnt work too well, she kept saying she has other options and im notthe pnly perspn she likes. But then one night she txted me saying shes horny and tht if i was there rightnow we would totally hook up etc. The next day she told me that she wasjust really hyper and shes sorryfor being such a tease. Then about three days later i tried talking to her and she flat out told me she doesnt like me how i like her so i gota little dissapointed and i havent talked to her since. Ireally care about this girl and i really really luke her, how do i get her back?

  • alex

    i really like this girl but 2 other guys like her and she is a cosin of my ex and i want her so bad. i dont know how to talk to her and i only see her 1 class a day.What should i do?

  • Terrell

    I really really need some advice. It’s this girl i been knowing her for three years and shes been knowing me for three years also, basically we just been seeing each other around here and there for the past 3 years. Now recently we just started talking and i really like this girl but when she talks to me im just soo shy , and i got nearly blank. I know she like me she call me her Boyfriend as my nickname and she keep on like putting her ands onme and she keeps bothering me. Sometimes i think she doesnt like me bacuse one day she said i was too soft spoken and she just seems like she gets a attitude with me when i answer one of her questions. I really like her but i think she;s starting too loose interest in me since ive been semming really shy and quiet around her when im not , What things can i say to her and what exactly shiuld i do to show her that im interested in her. PLease Help me
    Thank You . Terrell.

  • joseph

    i saw a girl twice about 3 months ago and this month shw wrote to me on the facebook ‘hey you where r u why dnt u ask about me’? i told her that i dnt know how to ask about u and then she gave me her number without asking her for it…..and then w started to talk not too much but she was tell me that i am her fiancee this was by laughing and i dnt know that she mean it or not, i do like her so much but i dnt know how to be so much close to her ,i met her only one time after the phone calls and o just stayed with her about 30 minutes and she told me to stay with her and i refused because i was so shy and then from this time we didnt have a conversation for 5 days and i called her and she was good….. by the way i dnt know how to move in this situation :$ i need somebody help me .

  • Hellboy

    @sharptux what rubbish menshealth is a joke , where i come from if you read menshealth and use the gymworkouts your a total douche. GIGI if you listen to sharptux you are just as much of a loser as him. It takes months to see a slight difference in your physique and looking at your situation you dont have much time. Also idotic sharptux when you with a women that you are really attracted to the male human body starts to produce estrogen read a book man.

  • shaun

    ive liked a girl heaps for the past 10 months. i told her a long time ago and she was fine with it. then she started liking me but i never knew because she wouldnt talk to me much. so i missed my chance once but then she liked me again, she knew i liked her and i made sure she knew but she never said anything again. i missed my chance twice. we’re both changing to different schools that are really close together and id catch a bus to her house to see her everyday if i had to, girls have told me to tell her that but i can never find a way to tell her naturally in a conversation. we also flirt alot and like a lot of the same things. i dont know if she’d want to go out with me though because she might have better offers at her new school but she calls me cute and stuff like that so im really confused. i just need help.

    • rita

      Can you tell me more about her like what is her name? who is her relatives or any thing can describe her? and is she turkish or what

  • Tyler Michels

    I really like this girl but she has a boyfriend. Im too skinny and i do alot for her and she still dont like me. i try everythn possible and nothin works… what do i do? i refuse to give up cuz shes soooo amazing and gorgeous and never felt this way bout anyone before… please help me..

  • Megan

    1)Be yourself. If you’re an ass-hole, be an ass. Some girls like that. If you’re the good guy, be the good guy. If you’re fake, we’ll know, and you won’t have a chance in hell. Confidence in yourself is key.
    2)If you get in the friend zone and she finds you attractive, go for it. If not, sorry dude, don’t ask her out 6 times in a row!
    3)If you’re a cheater, chances are, you know deep down that she isn’t right for you. So stop trying to patch things up and move on to the next gal.
    4)Letting the girl come to you is good… unless you realize that the girl you like might be shy…don’t make her come to you, or nothing will happen.
    5)If she doesn’t talk much, look at the way she smiles. If it looks genuine, you’re in the clear. If it looks forced, she thinks you’re an idiot.

  • zeyaw

    help me pls i love some girl she is my bestfriend i said i like her 3 time but she always says she can’t love me back and u wil find good for u… and third time i said she did say she like someone but i don’t know do he like back… please help me that girl live far away we see only sometimes…. But we see always on email so help me pls!!!

  • justin e.c. salengo

    this is the worst advice i’ve ever heard. to remember every detail in the initial phases of attraction is folly. you don’t want to display your hand too soon. you want her sitting at home wondering if you are as into her as she is into. you want to give some clues but keep it playful and flirty until she’s earned more.

  • Joe

    So theres this girl… Shes a hot cheerleader and im a football player…i like her a lot but theres a rumor that she just gota new bf and i like her right? So i was just wondering what i shood do to mayb c if this rumor is true… If its not shood i just play it cool?

  • Josehn

    i like this girl….she was 4 years older than me…but how to get her…she doesnt even notice me…

  • Chris

    I’ve liked this girl, my best friend, for 4 years, I’ve had two other relationships during that time, but if I’m totally honest with myself ive always liked her. So i finally told her i liked her in january. she didn’t like me back but said “i love you as a friend, but not more ATM, but who knows, some things may change…”. Anyway, two months on, I still like her, but ive noticed that after ive told her, she is more friendly around me: she talks/texts me more, she sits on my lap, she laughs at just bout everything i say, grabs my arm if i want to leave, links her fingers with mine if we high five and comes to hug me more and kept her eyes on me during half a school assembly….i know these sound all unimportant and minor, but i’ve noticed them anyway. Girls i talk to about it say “oh she is starting to like you, ask her out, kiss her” etc etc, but i don’t wanna cause a) she just siad she doesn’t like me two months ago, but now i’m not so sure and b)i’m scared as hell about what her reaction would be if i ask her out again after just being told no, or kissing her. Help would be greatly appreciated, as i am so confused atm…thanks :)

    • Michael

      Okay what you said about those “Minor/Unimportant things and details” im here to tell you they ARE important, remember all the things she has done with you. Keep everything calculated and in your mind, so you can know how far your ABLE to take things without it getting awkward. Doing these things EVENTUALLY will open her more up to you and you two will start getting into things more :) eventually, She’ll come out and say she likes you, or something to that effect. Good luck with her :)

    • Michael

      Basically what I mean is, Stick to the things yall do now (High Fives, Hugging, her sitting on your lap, bladda bladda) and things will escalate.

  • Phillip

    Hi. I’m 17 years old and i have only kissed two girls in my life. One of them was my gf and the other was just a make out. The thing is i havent kissed of whatever a girl since then (2 years i think??) and when i try to talk with a girl that attracts me, most of the times i dont know what to say because i dont know what she likes to talk about. Lately i cant have a conversation with a girl… for nothing! and i really wanna know, when the girl is the right one, the conversation doesnt seems heavy and forced right? because thats what i feel when trying to make a conversation with a girl :( when i dated that other girl, we would talk no problems and when there was nothing else to say we wouldnt matter. but it goes a long time since i felt that way close to a girl. Is it my problem? or does it happens naturaly when im with the right girl to have a serious relationship?

  • Steve

    Ok here’s the deal. For quite a few months, one of my friends and his girlfriend joked around about me joining them in bed until one night when we were drunk I ended up joining them. It was not a typical threesome, it consisted of me sleeping with his girlfriend and then him doing the same, taking it in turns so to speak. Now this has happened at least 2 times a month for nearly 6 months and I have also slept with her a few times when my friend wasn’t there.

    My problem is that I have fallen for her. I don’t like the way my friend treats her and I know she deserves better. I really want to be with her, and I get the impression that she does like me a little as well, but not as much as my friend. They always fight and she comes to me all the time. What do I do? Just keep being there for her and hope that one day she comes to me or do I tell her how I feel?? I’m so confused!!

    • geo

      tell her that you love her

  • Angel153

    I met a HOT girl, who has a “dirty” mind, she has got a boyfriend we went to a club and she sat next to me.My hands got cold and when she touched my hands and saw that they were cold she took my hands and sat on them…i was like o.O WTF??? i got hard in seconds. she talks to me about her dildo and we talk about “dirty” things.

  • Duffman

    There is this girl at my church that I have liked for awhile. We never really talk that much. Last week she found out that I liked her and her sister told me to text her and when I tx her for the third time in 2 weeks she responded for the first time. I am getting mixed advice from friends and I want to know if I should ask her out or not or wait and let her get to know me first.

  • Adeolu

    There is this cute gal am really into in my school. We got talking and she started showing some positive signals buh she’s not really sure whether i liked her or not. I got really impatient and still proceeded anyways. She said she’s not sure whether she wants a guy presently buh will still like to have my friendship(stressing how important it is to her). I later went on I.T and decided to give her some space for like some months… only to come back to see her hooked up with another guy. They were in a rel. 2geda for sometime and they recently broke up. I stopped paying attention to her during the time she wuz hanging out with the guy… I texted her some days back and she replied and now we’r talking again. i want to make this right this time. What do i do??????

  • mr.clueless

    theres this girl i like when i began school,during november,word got around tht i was going to ask her out and she got all excited tht i was going to ask her out, but tht was the problem,i needed my parents permission to go out with her so i didnt want her to know tht.then one day my friends cornered me and had me ask her out,she said yes.i felt good and bad at the same time.eventually my parents got word of it on the day i asked her out and forced me to break up with her.but that never stopped me from liking her and i promised myself to never give up on trying to get my parents permission to date in order to get back together with her. during our post breakup,she dated a good friend of mine,which gave me the thought that i have lost,that i’ll never go out with her again,but then she and my good friend broke up and my hopes were given a new hope.so a week after they broke up, a dance popped up at my school on the friday of that week, so on that friday i stopped her in the hallway and asked her if she could be my date.to my delight,she said yes.to keep any confusion away,my parents said i can ask girls to dances,just not date them.so feeling like nothing could stop me, i went home and got dressed to go to the dance. that march night, i waited for a slow dance to turn on, and went to her and asked her to dance. then she confused me by saying she had to go to the bathroom, and avoided me the whole dance.feeling like there was something wrong with me i went home, riddled with the sadness and confusion of defeat.after that my sister told me the girl i liked told her in the bathroom that she just didnt like me anymore,which didnt improve my mood one bit.so after that march night, we continued to talk and text, and she acted like the dance never happened. so i started to really consider liking someone else between april and may when one faithful day, i was playing on my wii when my little sister came back from herfriends house and told me something that really confused me. turns out my little sisters friend was the little sister of a best firend of the girl i liked,and the girl i liked was there when my little sister was there.so they went swimmiing and while they were swimming,she asked my little sister if she was my little sister.when my little sister said yes, she started explaining how she was my ex-girlfriend and we went out for a daybut that is not what caught my attention of my little sisters story.sometime while the girl i liked was talking to my little sister, she told my little sister that i was cute and funny.so that had me thinking what?does that mean she still likes me?so that rekindled my spirit again and gave me hope.so during one day during may, i stopped her after school and once again asked her out, but this time i was surprised, she said no, and actually made up a story of liking a guy from illinoise, whcih i fell for.but then later one of my best friends told me that that was a lie,which sort of made me a little sad.so thats my situation,i was wondering if you could send me advice on how i can rekindle her liking of me or answer one of these mysteries i stated.so,please,help.

    • Caleb

      Don’t let your parents stop you. Go somewhere with her without your parents knowing that you are going out with her. Maybe have her meet you at the park and bike there alone, or go to the library alone. If someone needs to go there with you, then “coincidentally” find out that she happened to be at that location at the same time as you. If you think it’s okay, try to get your parents acquainted with her parents. Maybe that could get your parents okay with it. There are a tone of things you could do. Email me if you need more help.

  • Michael

    So, theres this girl I go to school with and I really like her. We just met 2 days ago, and we got to talking and flirting a bit. Not hard flirting just “eh” flirting… She has a boyfriend of course, so it makes it EXTREMELY difficult to tell whether or not she likes me a little bit, or at all to that matter. Shes pretty popular, and I’m kind of the all around guy, where im not popular but im not a geek/dork/nerd… Im friends with everyone. Her and I text, and talk a good bit now… I REALLY need help on getting to know things that would make her more physically & emotionally attracted to me… any help would be great, thanks.

  • chuck

    There is this girl that I met on Facebook and I really like her, she’s pretty smart she loves all the things that I like but I don’t know if she likes I think she might be to good for me but I really don’t know cuz I haven’t even met her yet I really don’t know how to set up a date without seeming like I’m pressuring her into it I want her to think I’mchill funny guy and stuff because I am but I don’t know how to ask her on a date without sounding like an idiot please help me

  • Matthew E

    Hey, Im kinda stuck I like a couple of girls but they sometimes act like they like me and when ever I ask them out they dont answer. What should I do???

  • Stephen

    I have feelings for this girl when we were dating it was a about 3 years ago, now I just can’t get her out of my head she was my first true love, idk about for her but we don’t talk that often but I would like to get starting to talk with her again and try to get her attracted to me once more again because she is my dream girl. Any advice?

  • Jake

    I really like this girl. We are really good friends. We have known eachother for a really long time now and she knows I like her. Did I blow it? What do I do?

  • jay

    hey guys i need abit of help here ive liked this girl for 4 years she always used to come in a shop i worked in we spoke few times then years went by never seen her since but i jonnied a dating site and found her on there singal so i mailed her and she mailed me bk anyway we got each others numbers and shes got a kid who is 2 i just want some advice how to go about things shes said she would meet me etc :)

  • James T.

    Ok there’s this one girl in my class i really like her but she (quote from one of her friends) thinks i am gross and nasty-looking, i am trying to change myself and i have been since i met her (1 year ago) we have been friends on and off and i asked her out december 22nd 2010 and got rejected by her, i am a kind of shy person, and i dont get to go out with friends very much. im not exactly one of the coolest guys in the school but i do hang out with them alot (when i get the chance) im willing to do anything for this girl, i just dont know what to do because i’ve never felt this way about a girl before.

  • sasha

    ok so im confused help i met a girl yesterday through a guy i just met yesterday she and him live together and have been dating for 3 months i went to return a cd that her boyfrioend left in my car the next thing i know shes asking him if she can go to dinner with me shes 18 im 25 she and i go to dinner shes so excited keeps calling me a g loves my style tells me how much we have in common we r laughing im enjoying her componey like feeling more happy than iv felt in a long time cloud 9 nothing else matters she tells me her boyfrikend is short that she does not see herself with him in the long hill stayes out with me from 6 to 12 am while her boyfriend stayes at home her boyfriend is 19 she tells me hes not the one wants advce about there relationship it ovias somethings there i like her we r seying the same thing at the same time shes in my mind i cant sleep her and her boyfriend fight hes always sick he drinks she shared personal info with me really opend up thinks we r best friends i really like her i dont want to get hert though dont want problems with her boyfriend they live together we talked about plans for tomarrow shes attractive i shared info with her about me what do i do do i walk away from situation do i keep in touch with her as a friend is she drama she says shes lonley and pretty much he keeps her componey shell feel alone without him she goes out hoping to meet another guy she told me help me make the best choice thank u

  • clueless dude

    i liked this girl that used to like me when we dated like 3 years ago and i have been falling for her but she gots a boyfriend i dont know if she likes me still we talk hereand there but i never see her hanging out with him or talking to him

  • charley

    The two main obstacles I keep reading in comments are confusion and fear. Most guys suffering from one or both.

    These advice websites and/or books can teach you valuable concepts and skills that will help you know what to do and how to be.

    But can they help you overcome the fear of rejection? Maybe they can help with that, but ultimately it has to have to find courage with yourself to try.

    Faint heart never won fair lady. You have to man up and try. If you’re shy, start by practicing socializing with women you aren’t attracted to (easier). Then work your way up to women you are attracted to, and do use the advice in these websites.

    My neck was broken in a car wreck. I had to learn how to walk again. I’m in pain evry day. But I still try to be my best and do my best every day.

    I am somewhat disfigured and still have difficulty walking. If I can muster the courage to keep trying in my career and to keep working and to be the best I can, then so can you!

    I even got a promotion and raise in my job as a computer

  • charley

    continued from prior post…

    As I was saying, I. Even got a job promotion and raise last year.

    One of the most frightening things to me is trying to get a woman. I’m not even sure it’s possible, but then I think of all the other imposible things I do every day and I know anything is possible for people who have the courage to try.

    So I keep trying, even with women. If you can see past the fear of failure, there is glory in trying.

  • Heith

    Okay… Well I like this girl who is 4 years older than me. I really like her. I told her that I liked her and she said it was no big deal… I have had past girlfriends but I have never felt this way for them. This girl is something special. I have been to her house once and it was pretty fun. She has a boyfriend though….. I’ll probably never in my life get a chance with her. Hi Austin. I talk to her a lot. Not in person thru text. Sometimes I see her.. She is very beautiful and has an amazing smile. Her laugh is funny. She is always bubbly and it’s cute. If anyone has any thoughts on what I should do, please share them. Thank you.

  • daniel

    i like this girl she knows i exist but it looks like she is dating someone. i have some friends that know her and they told me that she wasn’t dating anyone. i dont know if i should ask her out or should i just ask to hang out for a while then if i want to, ask her to go out with me? wich one should i do?

    • luke

      ok daniel what you should do is you should ask her if she would like to go somewhere just as friends and once you feel like your in the friend zone then maybe ask her out if you still like her
      BUT
      if that dosent work out then just go right in and ask her out cause you never know if you never try ask say
      trust me i have had over 12 girlfriends and im only 11 my whole life and I’ve always did one of these but i would usually do the 2nd one i give u all my luck
      keep me imput which means if you don’t know tell me what happened
      ps i did the 2nd one and now im going out with the hottest girl in my school
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  • Jacob

    really like this girl. When we first met she talked to me first and seemed to really like me. We talked over text alot but have only met face to face like 3 times. She perfect except we stoped talking about a month or two and in that time she got a boyfriend. They have dated before and broken up TWICE. I really like her and we are both in middle school but she’s in 8th and I’m in 7th. I have literally cried thinking about her before. I feel like I’m kinda being friend zoned because she has been telling me all her problems and I help her out with them. But she is perfect and we have so much in common. I fell like she doesn’t like me as much though. She used to have these long happy responses but they have gotten to be a little shorter but still Are pretty happy. She great so please help!

  • The V

    actually you can flirt with her to build up to actually know

  • anonymous

    I’ve liked/loved this girl for around 3 years now. We had a thing back then and my life felt amazing. Ever since the day I lost her I genuinely felt broken. Took me 2 years to get over her and what seemed like an endless fury of tears and non stop feelings I was over her. Then soon after them 2 years a friend said to me… ‘You never forget your first love do you.’ From that moment she was back then in my head, feelings rushing back. I see her basically everyday of the week at University and have another 2 and a bit study years left with her. I’ve already been in her same class throughout 2 years of college and now another 3! I know she’ll never fell the same again and I know I’m not her type. But I just don’t know what to do anymore.