Want some good Tinder pickup lines?

Normally on Tinder, you don’t rely on pickup lines to set up face-to-face dates (which, by the way, should be your goal if it isn’t already) – it’s actually the ensuing conversation is the deciding factor.

That being said, you DO need to know how to start Tinder conversations the right way, because some openers work better than others. This guide will help you develop your own unique openers to get women investing into a conversation with you.

Triggering the correct emotions on Tinder paves the path for further conversations

What it’s Like to Be a Woman on Tinder

First of all, you’ll need to understand that women on Tinder get MUCH more attention than men on Tinder. [R] It’s a reflection of how things are in the real world, as well – the women are the sellers, and we are the buyers.

That means two things:

  1. When you use canned pickup lines on a girl, she’s probably heard it before
  2. When she’s heard your pickup line before, then she’ll think you’re “just another loser…” and so she either won’t reply to you, or unmatch you promptly

So if you’re thinking of using scripted pickup lines on Tinder, you’re in for a lot of disappointment and frustration.

“Don’t use these exact scripts, but rather adapt them to your advantage”

You’ll need to do better than that.

Traits of a Good Tinder Opener

The definition of a “good” Tinder opener is one that engages the woman you matched with in a conversation. That means you’ll need to do the exact opposite of “canned” or “scripted”:

  1. Your opener has to be original;
  2. Your opener has to be funny, interesting, or exciting; and
  3. Your opener has to relate to her in some way.

With regards to #3: There are lots of things you can riff off of that relates to her, including her name, her photo(s), and her description.

Be original, canned material is everywhere on Tinder

Basically: When you match with a girl on Tinder, you have everything you need to start a conversation with her.

But let’s make opening Tinder conversations even easier…

17 Tinder Openers That Have Worked Before

Here are a bunch of Tinder openers (all borrowed off Reddit) that should give you enough ideas to work with:

#1: Movie Puns.

If a girl likes certain movies that you like too, you can use that to open the conversation with her, too. If you’re a Star Wars fan, you’ll get the joke in the example below:

Demonstrate similarities in your interests through an other interest (movies)

#2: Puns on Her Name.

Name puns are slightly overused, but that’s only because they work quite well on Tinder. Here’s how a couple of witty Tinder users opened “Sarah” and “Mechelle”:

Using someone’s name is a doorway into their world
Here’s an other name joke to bring her closer to you

#3: Play on a Physical Attribute.

Check if you have a certain similar/different physical attribute – it might be a good opener just waiting to be used. Here’s one where the guy used their difference in skin complexion to break the ice:

Sometimes waiting for the right moment delivers the punch line with more force

#4: Funny sexual openers.

Opening with a sexual slant is always risky… but if she thinks like you, she just might bite. Here’s an example of a guy lucking out using this kind of opener:

Taking chances are risky, but sometimes they pay off

#5: Fun Rhetorical Questions.

If she can think of a witty answer to your question, she won’t be able to resist replying – and you can then build on that conversation. Here’s an example:

Setting her up is part of the fun

#6: Questions that are Answerable by Her Name.

If a girl has a unique name, see if you can play with it – like what this dude did:

Once again, opening the door into their world by using her name

#7: Being Detailed.

This is where you basically describe, in humorous detail, what you want to do with her. Here’s a hilarious example where the guy made a “bid” because the girl had a career in finance:

Being direct can work provided you do it right

#8: Playing with Her Name.

A popular game is to come up with as much wordplay as you can from her (or each other’s) names. Here’s how this guy played with a girl named “Bee”:

In this case the conversation was extended by other name jokes once he saw she was into it

#9: Going Straight to the Point.

Sometimes, just going straight to the point does the trick. Here’s how a couple of guys did it:

Display some insecurity before doing the exact opposite
What can be said? Sometimes it completely works

#10: Tell Her About Something Funny You Did Recently.

This might work if she’s bored or if she’s just in the mood to chat, not flirt. An example:

Turning mundane topics into raunchy ones

#11: Using Her Name in a Popular Song.

If her name fits into the lyrics of a currently popular R&B or rap song, try it out. Here’s how this cheeky dude used “Emily’s” name in his opener:

Combining her name with music and setting her up so she cannot resist responding

#12: Inviting Her Out to Food and Sex.

It’s the simplest kind of date, it’s fun for both of you… and you’ll never know if she’s down for it, too. Try this out sometime:

Be careful, you may bite off more than you can chew though

#13: Asking About Her Day.

Happily married couples do this all the time, but it can also work as a Tinder opener… especially if she feels like ranting, such as in the example below:

Probably one of the safest means to starting a conversation

#14: Give the First Half of a Joke, and Make Her Ask for the Rest of It.

I’ll let the example below speak for itself:

A great way to engage her into the conversation – keep her wondering

#15: Asking Her for Pickup Lines.

This is basically asking her to pick you up – and yes, you never know if she’s up for it. If you keep it interesting, she can end up chasing you and asking YOU out – which is always a good thing. Check out the epic example below:

A bit of sorcery to make her pick you up – before she knows it, you are on a date

#16: Ask to Make a Business Contact, then Ask for Her Number.

She won’t be expecting it, so she’ll be tempted to give a reply just to see what you’re like. Here’s how this guy made the most of it:

She probably knows what you are trying to do, but hey, it might work

#17: Asking Her for a Joke.

It’s like asking her to pick you up, only this time it’s only to make you laugh. But it works for the same reason: It makes you look interesting enough to check out. An example:

Making her laugh and giving out positive vibes increases the chances of her giving you her number

Follow Up Strong

Using openers is only half the battle, more work might be needed

Opening Tinder conversations is a good thing, but by no means does a successful opener guarantee a date. You’ll still need to get her to give you her number and/or meet you face-to-face. So you’ll need to follow-up strong – perhaps with a fun conversation, or some rapport-building, or whatever works best for your personal style.

The key is to not slip into needy/kiss-up behavior on chat – it makes you look weak and unattractive, and you end up wasting a perfectly good opener.

It’s a good idea to immediately ask her out the moment you get her laughing or reacting excitedly during your conversation. You shouldn’t let a chat drag on for too long, because you’ll run the risk of boring her or turning her off.

The smoother your opener, the better your conversation, and the sooner you ask her out… the sooner those Tinder matches start rewarding you with dates. Now go ahead – open a few girls up and see what happens!

Resources & References

  1. Tinder pickup lines that girls react too by MeUndies … warning some explicit language (but funny)
  2. Gareth Tyson, Vasile C. Perta, Hamed Haddadi, & Michael C. Seto. A first look at user activity on tinder. 2016 IEEE/ACM International Conference on Advances in Social Networks Analysis and Mining (ASONAM). http://ieeexplore.ieee.org/document/7752275/ Accessed Aug 5, 2017
  3. Premium Life English shares his #1 successful opening line on Tinder