Every man at some point in his life has dreamed of becoming the legendary “player” – the man who has the abundant choice of women. In today’s day and age, so many resources are available on how to become a player. So why aren’t there more men out there with the women they want?

The first thing to understand is that many men believe that the ability to be a player is something that you have or something you don’t. It is something innate to them and since they don’t “have it”, they’re simply going to have to settle for what comes their way.

It is possible to pickup women on a regular basis

As players-to-be, you know that this is not true. Rid yourself of this limiting belief now and understand that it is possible to learn how to pick up women with consistency. You have the knowledge at your fingertips and as a man, you have the ability to transform yourself into one with limitless options.

Becoming a Player

Now the road is not an easy one. Think of all the masters out there you know, the experts in their respective fields. I’m talking about the Michael Jordans and the Donald Trumps. These people did not reach where they are overnight – they had successes and losses and kept on going regardless of the outcome. They learned from their experiences and ensured that they did not repeat their mistakes. You must do the same to become the player. Put yourself out there and see how your different tactics work. Yes, you will suffer some harsh interactions there but <don’t take it personally – all failure is just feedback after all. As you acquire more reference experiences, you will begin to naturally calibrate your game based on the situation. Read how to keep going when life gets tough.

Making A Habit Out of Pick Up

You’re probably getting excited at the prospect of becoming a player. However, few of you will actually be willing to put yourself out in the line of fire on consistent basis. Now, if that were a part of who you are, it would be far easier to do, wouldn’t it? This is why you must routinely meet and interact with women. You must make it a habit. (Start by reading how to talk to girls)

Decide now what it is that you want to make a habit. Perhaps it’s going out three nights a week. Perhaps it’s saying “hi” to women you want to meet. Whatever it is, make sure it is something you can do on a regular basis. Don’t know where to go, well we have an article on where to meet attractive women.

No excuses

The next thing to do is to do it. Don’t make any excuses – just do it. The hardest step is actually going out there and doing it. Feeling a bit sick? Well go out anyways and talk for a bit. Not dressed up for a club? Who cares, your clothes are not what are getting you laid – you are. Have shopping bags? Big zit on your face? Too sleepy? There are hundreds of excuses that you can come up with to prevent you from going out, especially when you’re just starting to implement a habit. Don’t fall into this trap – push yourself to do what it is that you said you’d do. As time passes, it will become almost automatic and eventually you’ll have this new habit implemented in you, making it a part of who you are.

There is one more thing that separates the champs from the chumps and it is this: the love of the game itself. I can hear what you’re thinking – “I don’t care about the game, I just want to sleep with lots of women!”

What’s Your Motivation

Guys, if sex were your ultimate goal in all this, you could easily hire an Angelina look-a-like for the night. Your reasons for getting into the game may be very different from each other but ultimately the goal is never as sweet as one expects it to be. More often than not, once you reach the level you want to be at, you find yourself thinking “now what?”

If you learn to love the journey you’re taking, you lose the attachment you have to any specific outcome. Find the fun in seeing how what you say causes the girl to react. Pull her into your vibe and show her a good time, while at the same time learning more about yourself from her. When you love the game, it is no longer a chore to meet women – rather, it is a joy and passion you have.

The road to become a player is not an easy one. It requires great inner strength, determination and passion. Yet if you have that, you are almost guaranteed the success you desire. Know that what you choose to pursue is achievable, be consistent in your pursuit of your goal and above all, love every step of this epic journey you have embarked on.

  • Sin

    @Passion – Hey man, I know how you’re going about there. I have read a lot of things on the net about these kind of stuffs, and I just want to give you a term that fits you when you are like that what you said, like being too emotionally attached to the girls. I want to share my own understanding of this interesting topic, that what you are with that kind of status with the ladies is what they call, that you are on the, “Friends Zone”. Meaning, the girls only will see as a friend, and just remember that even if it’s been like that, there are still a lot of girls out there, and if you want to be a new guy to your current girl friends, then you can still change, and always remember too that it’s never too late. I hope this helped.

  • Jon

    Great post Razzputin,

    I feel its a natural drive for men to seek an abundance of women. Men and women ultimately are searching for different things. I think seduction training actually breads interesting and entertaining partners for women, who in the most part just want to be swept off their feet right?

  • Anony

    I’ve liked this girl for years… But she’s attached. I don’t know what I’ve turned into now. I still like her but I meet lots of other girls. I I’ve learnt how to make any girl ‘love’ me in only a couple of days… It’s probably to do with my looks, intelligence, and sense of humour (or so they tell me…)

    I’m usually involved with two or three at the same time which I think is perfectly ethical because we aren’t sleeping together and I haven’t indicated any form of commitment. Talking to them and seeing how they react is the most enjoyable part of these relationships. I don’t have any wants to sleep with them, but they still get angry at me when they find out I’m not into them at all; I just talked to them so that they’d be obsessed over me. They don’t realize I’ve put them into the ‘friends zone’. … ok I was kidding about the last part.

    I still like the same girl, she loves me, but only as a friend, and she wouldn’t let me go, so I can’t move on.

    I act like a player, I attract attention like a player, I’m despised like a player, I don’t have sex nearly as much as a player, and I ‘committed’ more to one girl much more so than a player. 😐

    But its not so bad. 🙂 Sex is overrated anyway. Its the ability to obtain it thats so gratifying. ; )

  • weezydamentor

    Well, I’m a player, so im called. I’m very private when it comes to my personal life, but some how everytime I meet a girl she’ll kno my history. At first, it bothers them but I charm my way in. When I was younger I believe that cheating on a girl was the worst thing a man can do, but as I went through a couple of relationships I felt like they were boring or that I wasn’t getting enough out of them. So, the first time I cheated I fell bad and said I was never going to do it again, it was on my conscience, but I felt so good I wanted to keep going. Since none of my girlfriend knew what I was doin` I kept going until I lost my conscience. As I fall more into a girlfriend I cheat on them more. I still don’t kno how to answer this question. What I do know is that I started of as a nice, caring, sweet guy that always gotten hurt and decided to turn it around, I’ve turned into an charming asshole, that doesn’t care if any ones feelings get hurt. I’ve used a lot of women and also hurt them, but I never really cared how they felt. I fell for the first couple but my mind told me otherwise. This has turned into a habit after couple of years and I don’t kno if I can ever be faithful. But when I meet a girl that I really like my mentality turns around back in tym. Quickly I forget that im an asshole and ill change jss for her, but I always think that I won’t keep up with my heart. Don’t get me wrong, I love the game but there are times where you need more than just sex.

  • princess A

    to the poster above – i hope you will meet one good woman. because the fact that you have feelings proves it is not in your nature to become a dog oops i mean playter. it shows there are decent men out there. do not be ashamed of your feelings. good luck

  • Passion

    Nice I am planning on becoming a player very soon, but my problem is I get attached to easily to the women I meet. So I need to learn better techniques on not to get emotionally attached. If you know of a way plz leave a comment on how or put a site name up. Thx man

    – From Passion