Every man at some point in his life has dreamed of becoming the legendary “player” – the man who has the abundant choice of women. In today’s day and age, so many resources are available on how to become a player. So why aren’t there more men out there with the women they want?
The first thing to understand is that many men believe that the ability to be a player is something that you have or something you don’t. It is something innate to them and since they don’t “have it”, they’re simply going to have to settle for what comes their way.
It is possible to pickup women on a regular basis
As players-to-be, you know that this is not true. Rid yourself of this limiting belief now and understand that it is possible to learn how to pick up women with consistency. You have the knowledge at your fingertips and as a man, you have the ability to transform yourself into one with limitless options.
Now the road is not an easy one. Think of all the masters out there you know, the experts in their respective fields. I’m talking about the Michael Jordans and the Donald Trumps. These people did not reach where they are overnight – they had successes and losses and kept on going regardless of the outcome. They learned from their experiences and ensured that they did not repeat their mistakes. You must do the same to become the player. Put yourself out there and see how your different tactics work. Yes, you will suffer some harsh interactions there but don’t take it personally – all failure is just feedback after all. As you acquire more reference experiences, you will begin to naturally calibrate your game based on the situation. Read how to keep going when life gets tough.
Making A Habit Out of Pick Up
You’re probably getting excited at the prospect of becoming a player. However, few of you will actually be willing to put yourself out in the line of fire on consistent basis. Now, if that were a part of who you are, it would be far easier to do, wouldn’t it? This is why you must routinely meet and interact with women. You must make it a habit. (Start by reading how to talk to girls)
Decide now what it is that you want to make a habit. Perhaps it’s going out three nights a week. Perhaps it’s saying “hi” to women you want to meet. Whatever it is, make sure it is something you can do on a regular basis. Don’t know where to go, well we have an article on where to meet attractive women.
The next thing to do is to do it. Don’t make any excuses – just do it. The hardest step is actually going out there and doing it. Feeling a bit sick? Well go out anyways and talk for a bit. Not dressed up for a club? Who cares, your clothes are not what are getting you laid – you are. Have shopping bags? Big zit on your face? Too sleepy? There are hundreds of excuses that you can come up with to prevent you from going out, especially when you’re just starting to implement a habit. Don’t fall into this trap – push yourself to do what it is that you said you’d do. As time passes, it will become almost automatic and eventually you’ll have this new habit implemented in you, making it a part of who you are.
There is one more thing that separates the champs from the chumps and it is this: the love of the game itself. I can hear what you’re thinking – “I don’t care about the game, I just want to sleep with lots of women!”
What’s Your Motivation
Guys, if sex were your ultimate goal in all this, you could easily hire an Angelina look-a-like for the night. Your reasons for getting into the game may be very different from each other but ultimately the goal is never as sweet as one expects it to be. More often than not, once you reach the level you want to be at, you find yourself thinking “now what?”
If you learn to love the journey you’re taking, you lose the attachment you have to any specific outcome. Find the fun in seeing how what you say causes the girl to react. Pull her into your vibe and show her a good time, while at the same time learning more about yourself from her. When you love the game, it is no longer a chore to meet women – rather, it is a joy and passion you have.
The road to become a player is not an easy one. It requires great inner strength, determination and passion. Yet if you have that, you are almost guaranteed the success you desire. Know that what you choose to pursue is achievable, be consistent in your pursuit of your goal and above all, love every step of this epic journey you have embarked on.
How can you become a better player?
The best thing you can do is go out as much as possible. Even if you're dumb as a rock, you'll learn from experience. The more situations you encounter, the more you'll come to expect them and react accordingly.
Can I become a player if I've never kissed a girl?
Of course you can but that's a foolish goal. No one really wants to be known as a player and instead, you want to be known as a guy that's confident with women.
Were you disappointed when you became a player?
Yes, I thought that getting women would bring me joy and happiness but unfortunately it's more about quality than quantity.
Who's the biggest player?
The biggest player is probably some guy you never heard of.