Easy: How To Be Confident With Women When You’re Shy


How to be confident with women is probably one the most basic skills you need to master in order to be successful with women. It’s the foundation for attraction and at the same time, it’s the advice that everyone gives. “Just be confident” they say… sure. If it was that easy, wouldn’t everyone be doing it ?

The weird thing about confidence is that you can’t buy it and certainly can’t fake it. You have to build it.

Building Confidence is like working out a muscle

Slowly building confidence, like working out a muscle, is the only way to achieve true inner strength. So where should you start in order to be confident with women?

Well most guys that lack confidence not only lack confidence with women, but confidence in every aspect of their life. From talking to people at work to talking to random strangers in the street, you don’t need a beautiful woman to intimidate you. If this is your case, then the first thing to do is immediately start working out. Yes, there are other ways, but that’s the absolute simplest way to slowly build confidence.


Fitness is linked to confidence

You see, at a very deep psychological level, humans link up physical fitness to confidence. How well you can physically perform compared to others determines how you’ll feel about yourself relative to others. Although society’s standards has warped our innate tendencies, the concept still applies on a deep subconscious level. Without getting too much into it, if you feel strong physically, you’ll feel strong mentally as well. This applies to being an alpha male as well.

However, what if you’re already confident with everyone EXCEPT for women. It’s possible that somewhere in your life, you’ve developed a fear of women, where the mere thought of interacting with an attractive woman sends shivers down your spine. If this is the case, then the remedy is simple. Start small and build up from there. By start small, I mean talking to a woman that’s the least intimidating to you and working up from there to more attractive girls.

Talk to many girls

Start frequent conversations with girls that you are NOT attracted to first.

Make a conscious effort to engage in a conversation when you’re shopping, walking, basically everywhere you go.

Getting into the habit of talking to women will build up that ‘confidence muscle’ that you desperately need. Remember, every time you talk to a woman, you become more confident with women. Slowly, build up to talking to more attractive women and you’ll see your success level skyrocket. The golden rule is that you’ll have to talk to 200 women before you’ll gain confidence around women. The trick to it is doing it each and every day because, like a muscle, if you don’t use it for a while, it will start to degrade! So if you don’t talk to women for a week, then your confidence with women will drop.

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Frequently Asked Questions
Confident people: can you teach me how to be like you?

Surround yourself with people who like you for who you are. This is the best advice I can give you on this.

How to be confident when you have nothing to be confident about?


How to learn confidence with no reason to be confident?

I've just sent a chat message, I'm keen to help you change those negative beliefs and make some positive change in your life, nobody should feel as bad about themselves as you say you do here.

How do i be confident and stop feeling insecured when going to the gym?

Just show up, that's how you get over it. It'll become routine and you won't feel embarrassed after a while

How are we supposed to be confident?

You can't. You have to believe in yourself and like yourself. Maybe you could pinpoint what traits those people who make you jealous have? Could it be that you feel like something is missing from your own life, and when you see it in others you feel jealousy? Just an idea.