Couple having a great time at the beach... attraction is great!

Once you master the basics of how to attract girls, then chasing women won’t be necessary as they will come to you. When a woman is chasing you instead of the other way around, it is much easier to be relaxed and have a good time instead of concentrating on what to do next.

So what attracts girls ?

Things that are out of the ordinary. If you blend in with the rest of the world, then no one will ever notice you walking down the street, or in any location for that matter.

How do most people blend ? By following what everyone else does and this leads to catastrophic results when trying to attract women. Instead, make sure you differentiate yourself by looking or behaving slightly differently than everyone else.

Be a leader

Being a follower is boring and speaks a lot about your personality. It shows that you are insecure to try new things and that you don’t want attention. Now the trick to being noticed is not to dress up in bright yellow colors, but to add one interesting item to your physical appearance. There are a few guidelines to selecting the proper attire that will attract women without making you look like a fool.

Becoming More Attractive

First, take into consideration what kind of social setting you will be in. If you’re going to a club, then you can go all out with outlandish clothing and accessories. However, if you’re going to the library, it would be more effective to carefully choose one single attention drawing accessory.

For clubs, keep in mind that you want to look different than everyone else. If everyone else is dressed up with expensive clothing, then wearing something cheap will work better. You’ll automatically be classified as the ‘guy who doesn’t care’, which can be very attractive.

If you’re at a place where people are dressed like bums, then feel free to dress up a little more and you’ll automatically be seen as ‘the only classy guy’ in the place.

Sometimes clothing itself can make a large enough difference, however accessories can further improve your magnetism throughout the day. Something unique that represents you is the ideal thing. Let’s say you enjoy biking, then you could have a necklace with a bicycle on it for instance. Then, in a social situation, people will notice and comment on your accessories.

Stand Out To Get Noticed

The more out-of-the-ordinary your accessories are, the more you will get noticed. However, you must be able to continue the conversation and match the boldness of your accessory with your personality. You see, once you’ve attracted them, you need to learn how to keep them.

This is just the beginning

There are numerous different things that attract girls and this is just the beginning… but before we finish, I want to leave you with the most important one: having an attractive attitude.

An Attractive Attitude

The attitude that you have is more important than all the clothes, money and looks in the world. Its cliche, but personality is more important to women than looks. In fact, there are a few secret techniques that will make you irresistible to women regardless of appearance. One of the most effective techniques is called “Cocky / Funny” in the the Double Your Dating book by David Deangelo. It teaches all the fundamental and advanced ways on how to attract girls and keep them attracted to you permanently.

  • Neeraj Singh

    For attract women I’ve tried different kinds cologne spray, but the one I’ve gotten the most compliments from women was RX attraction

  • Jason

    Terrible advice. Do whatever it takes to ge as many women as you can possibly handle. ‘just be yourself’ is the advice women give to men to keep them from gaining the upper hand. Dress classy to stick out. Get strong/muscular/ripped to stick out. Get tats to stick out. Be smart to stick out. Be funny to stick out. Be aggressive to stick out. Get rich to stick out. And most of all: be BETTER than those around you- to stick out.

  • Dominic

    Beggers cant be choosers. My brother always told me that because I was being shallow to but I had no room to talk because I was good looking but not rich. What happens when hot woman loose there looks? If I were rich I’d get rid of them and look for younger hot ones. Then of course men are horny they can probably just look for another rich guy. Looks do matter as well when there young. I say if your young and good looking guy and not rich enjoy it while you can and go bars where girls/woman are looking for one night stands. While you are doing that look for a job that pays good and start saving up. You dont have to spend a fortune to get girls and stop being so shallow. Pus*** is Pus*** As long as she dont look that horrible or obese I think you will be fine. Smoke some pot it will enhance your sexual drive. Just dont do it all time incase you burn out. Have life, goals, dreams and they will naturally come to you. I really cant blame them you know?

  • Hassan

    Girls never looks for money.Only prostitute does.anyhow if you wanna get attracted just keep lookin at the eyes of a girl definitly the girl realize that somethin attracted you from her.then the same girl surely feel shy to look u back.which means she love to talk to u.start wit hi ask her profession name etc and immediately show off you got some urgent work.surely she wil ask your name.once if she ask your name then exchange the phone numbers and leave do on phone.

  • Tariq Khan

    Yeah but make sure that you do it for the girls who worth it.

  • Maxbert

    From my experiences wit girls i have noticed that the love guys that have great experiences wit other girls.they like “spontaneous” guys.when u are natural and confident they get the feelin that “i am not the first he has talked to,he is so free wit me”.so my advice for guys is dont ever tink of a subject to bring up when tryin to start a conversation wit a girl you like rather approach her wit all confidence then “topics” will follow naturally.

  • Julissa

    I TOTALLY Agree ! Now Guys Say Girls Should Make The First Move , NO SIR ! Guys , Make The First Move , It’s Cuter If Your Shy (Well For Me It Is )

  • Ramano

    I always made it a point not to show interest, this seems to irritate and frustrate many females I often come across, some appear to follow suite, those are the ones I don’t bother with, the ones who put forth a special effort to engage! those are the ones I show equal interest in. If your truly confident in yourself, let the girl from time to time make a special effort to do more in engaging you. Who says the guy has to do all the work’. There are a lot of Females out there who enjoy a challenge! they aren’t the only ones who subtly play mind games. When I first met my girlfriend, that was one of the first things she mentioned, that’s what got her to make an extra special effort to approach me.

  • Scottie

    Also, if a girl already likes you and is mature enough she won’t expect you to do anything or be anyone but who you are when she decided that she liked you to begin with, alot of girls don’t like a guy who tries to be something he’s not, the truth is if a girl already likes you and you know she does all you have to do is not do anything stupid or try to play her, the situation will eventually develop and blossom itself but regardless, it’s her choice, she is in charge even when you think you are,and she will decide on what role you will play in her life.

  • Scottie

    There is no specific way to attracting girls because different girls respond to different things, I used to believe that if u show a girl attention and put yourself out there and be sincere with her that she will see you’re not a creep trying to play her and she would treat you the same, boy was I wrong, the truth is different girls like different things, it has alot to do with their personality and mentality, some like a guy to be confident, a leader, some like a guy’s attitude, whether he is a fun loving funny guy or cocky/bad boy type, some like a guy who is emotionally supportive, some like the guy for his social status/popularity, looks, ect, and some only like guy for his looks, these girls are immature imo and only see a guy as opportunity,some do use guys and only want their money, and some just wanna play games and purposely try and ruin the guy, even if he’s a genuine good guy, some girls like shy guys, some girls don’t know what in the hell they like,so the truth is to quote Forrest Gump “Girls are Like a Box of Chocolates, u never know what you’re gonna get.” The truth is it’s better to bypass girls and go approach REAL experienced mature WOMEN if you don’t wanna go through the BS and struggle, if you recognize and approach a woman and just be very straight forward and honest with her, but not in a crude way, you will have more luck and less headache, they will respect the fact that you are bold and honest with them, this will show them that you are serious minded and mature and respect the fact that you are not trying to waste their time, this is my best advice..

  • Jemima

    This is not help what soo ever I am a girl(lez) and I need to not how a girl attracts a girl!!!

  • Matt

    @Gautham wow..what a defeatist attitude you have towards life..I think you are just going after the “very beautiful” girls and they are quite obviously out of your league or you wouldn’t have posted that.

  • Rishi Ganesh

    If u r trying to get a girl, don’t let her know it. Try to be as casual as possible. The moment the girl finds out that u r trying hard on her, sure she’l loose interest in u.. ALL THE BEST

  • Sam

    Agree with you 100%

  • aj

    i have started wearing my cool and expensive accessories at my high school and it really helped me a lot, now many unknown girls in my college ask me about my Rolex watch and other accessories which gives me a great chance to start a conversation with them….

  • himanshu

    if you want to attract girls be what you are. don’t try to be oversmart. it attracts the girls most.

  • A

    Girls are very clever. So we boys also use extra clever against a girl, that’s better..

  • Sayen C

    If you want to be attracted to a girl you love,whenever you talking to her keep smilling with her,also be funny to them in order to make them laugh with you be for you know they will fall in love with you.

  • sud

    If she knows you nicely,than surely she will say yes.

  • chris

    just be yourself, and try and be confident, and be happy

  • Drake

    well great advice but just be yourself,dress however you want to classy or not because your yourself and that is what mattersto a girl.A girl wants somebody to bethem not someone else and you be there in good and bad situations just don’t give up 😀

  • Filip

    All of this is correct…but you don’t really attract women with wearing something interesting…when approaching a girl, you have to be confident…be yourself ofcourse, not a follower…and last you have to relax and not hesitate when approaching…

  • Sarah

    One add on, if you suspect some dislike from her to you, don’t be obsessive. If you hardly know her, take it easy on saying ‘I LOVE YOU’ too soon. When she likes you, you’ll know. When she loves yo, you’ll probably know because she’ll tell you. Boys, you are truly amazing. Keep it up 🙂

  • Sarah

    It’s TRUE, girls like a tough guy but not too much of a tough guy. Certain girls have their certain stereotypes for guys but when it comes down to it, they want you to be your superman; the one that they can look up to and hold on to for support. I, personally LOVE a guy who can pick me up and squeeze me, the type of guy who asks ME out, a guy who talks to ME FIRST, a guy who makes the moves first, and then I do. Us girls don’t ask much of you boys. You may think that but we don’t. Just make the first move, and if the girl decides to make the first move, then still make moves along with her. The absolute key to attracting a girl is knowing what she likes and using that. For example, if a girl likes to be written little love notes, and you know that for a fact, then send her a love note, or whatever it is that she likes.
    All girls have their “types” of guys, but all in all, she likes you to take the first step, show her you like her first and make sure she knows how much you do. When attempting to attract a girl, make sure you’re looking good and don’t fall back by the slightest. Don’t be TOO much in her face, but make sure you talk to her enough. Girls don’t like boring guys, but at the same time being TOO hyper and exciting could end in a blow off. Girls don’t have high standards that much, it’s just that boys in this generation aren’t playing the male role right. Boys will always be boys, but you can’t expect the girl to play every part. In all words, just try your best to make her fall in love with you. Some girls fall fast for the guys who are mysterious; the ones that tell you they like you but always keep you wondering. Other girls fall fast for the ones that are dedicated; the ones that show her that they care for her and only her. I love a mix of both, but no matter what if you follow this advice, the girl you like will guaranteed show affection for you in some way, if not all.

  • Same

    MIke just go and tell her that ‘you are the only girl that i want in my life with every second because you are the reason for me to happy, you are not only a girl you are my life and i cant forget you, i will make you happy till the end of my life. i love you so much please… Be mine forever’
    he this will not work then try this.
    meet her or call her and tell her all the bad words you know and say that ‘you want to destroy my life but i cant let you to do this, i dont want You in my life again in to hell’.
    If it also not work then do this. ‘do flirt with any of her friend you want and make her jealous’ .
    Please do any of them and say me the result
    best of luck…

  • imf

    i hope those advices work with the girls in egypt you know they are so hard to get and trying to get the hot girl isnt easy as she is reserved before for someone else so itis hard to love her or make a relationship as you are not the first to spoil her>
    any way girls are neccacry for teens as if you dont have a girl in this period you lose your joy in life you know girl give you thing to care about if she is pretty >
    i think ths right girl is when you see her you feel love to her and you fall in love from the first sight > the wrong girl to mak a friendship with her when you see her you feel sex not more and i think the girl without make up or those things they put on their face make her pretty if she is already has a beautiful face and white also >
    by the way why do in other countries friend shp and having a girl is easy >
    and thank you for the good advice
    some of who will read this text will wonder how could egyptian guy be good at english>
    alot like me are here in egypt

  • mayur

    I liked a girl to much but from to months I am not able to talk to her and when she come near me to talk I get scared
    so some one please advice me what to do and I am scared that if I whould talked to her and she may refuse me………………………………………

  • Johnathan Graves

    Don’t worry. Girls like guys who have money, looks and class.
    Show you are interested, but don’t be too pushy. If the girl is interested a small bit of encouragment with go a long way. But if she doesn’t like you don’t make a fool out of yourself. walk away and leave her alone. Because that’s the girl I want! 🙂

  • Nick

    how do i let a girl know I’m not using her?


    so seems too difficult to do with a girl at first but every thing becomes easy with the passage of time. wish you good luck !

  • Gerald

    There is also this girl that I’ve known since we were young. We went out when we were In midle school but it didn’t mean anything. We still talk but she says. Were lik siblings but I know she likes me because on the bus she sits next toe and sometimes puts her head on my shoulder. She sits by me all the time and jumps on my back. It just seems weird asking her out but I really like her. Even my friends asked me if we were going out. Odontoceti know what to do.

  • Gerald

    Great tips. I think that being fit helps alot. I’ve been working out and I lost some weight and now girls that really didn’t talk 2 me in a flirtish way now flirt with me. I’m going out with a girl that I asked out before and she said that we were just friends. Another thing is be confident don’t talk fast and think before u set something. Acsessories do help it doesn’t have to be a chain it can be a watch like I have a collection of G Shock watches and the girls like the different colors. Red matches with more than just regular colors, and shoes help alot too. Don’t wear old cheap dirty shoes. Get a pair of all white nike’s or some casual dress shoes with a button up shirt and dark denim jeans. Women don’t like cheap men do don’t dress cheap. They know if you don’t spend much on yourself u won’t spend much on them either.

  • durka durka

    hi guys, ive recently been dumped by my gf of 2 years and have been badly depressed for some time i am now on anti depressants but still dont feel as confident as i used to and i feel like its holding me back from finding another girl. i am looking for some advice to gain back confidence that once ran strong through my veins. and how to ask a girl out. it is frightening to have the possibility of rejection hanging over my head in such a small town.

  • Zubair khan

    great job to attact girl but i trust on love, therefore attact and disattact do not work there understand love zubair

  • Ben

    I approached a girl that I wanted to go out with for the longest time. She had a scarred face from cystic acne (but otherwise cute) and probably thought no one would want to go out with her. But I did.I saw sincerity in her face, not scars. Anyhow, I did ask and she said sure! I was crazy about her and we were together for two years. So please,if you have the chance. Ask the girl out, you may not get another chance.

  • John Saref

    This guide doesn’t work…

    I tried nearly all of the steps and have had much WORSE luck than I did prior to doing these things. I think that mixing in with the crowd is the way to not be the “strange freak in the corner”.

    Sorry, but I feel you are incorrect.

  • Mike

    I have a best friend and she is a girl. we met at a party and we’ve been friends ever since. 6 years now i’ve been friends with her and we dated once. but sadly it didnt last. but i still love her and i know she still has feelings for me even though she has found another. she flirts with me constantly and when i’m at her house we hang out and i sneak up on her and tickle her. she tries to grab my hands and get me to stop and when she does i turn and she does the same on suprise. i love her beautiful green eyes, her brown hair, and her toughness. she’s like no other. when she told me she liked me she also told me that she used to pick on me a lot.( punch, poke, tackle,etc…) and she still does this. I know she still likes me but i don’t know how to get her back. when i’m with her, i feel like i’ve never felt before. she brings out a side of me that i rarely see. the side that loves her. i want to be with her again. anyone got any advice?


    Well the art is real cool I hope it works out with my girl because we are ever enjoying and I want her to love me more every time we are together.

  • shyguy

    what if you like them but u are scared not tell her that you like because they may say no could break your heart when I go out to town there is a girl who i like but cant take the first step to ask her out she all ways looks at me all the time in good way. I look at her but don’t know how to just go and ask her out.

  • Shawn

    Thank u Chris Buddy!!!! Hope all that Works…………. lol!

  • Stan

    I had no idea what girls were thinking but now I am brightened. Thanks to the author and all the guys out there

  • chris

    I have always had an interesting but not ‘far out’ fashion sense, I too have accessories that girls comment on eg a skate brand belt buckle. I recommend this!

  • Antony

    I’m bored attracting gals in the same old way. I must try your way. Thanks for the info pal.

  • rokib khan

    Very Very NIce

  • Dylam

    A good aftershave might work, i always wear some and everyone comments. Dont wear cheap aftershave though, invest in a proper one, armani code is a hit with the ladies!

  • @A: I have to disagree with you on that one. Spending money on girls is definitely not the way to “get them”. In fact, when you just give gifts to girls, you’re actually communicating: “I don’t think I’m good enough for you, so I’m buying you this gift so you’ll like me”

    @Hogan: That’s horrible advice to give guys.. It sounds like you’ve been hurt and that’s OK. I think we’ve all gone through that but you have to realize that women are great to have in your life and they are attracted to a hundred things that aren’t related to money.

    @Pleg: Thanks!

    Seriously, there seems to be a lot of confusion on how to attract women here. If you put your email on the right for the coaching program I have, I’ll show you exactly how to attract girls (and it has nothing to do with money).

  • Pleg

    Excellent information for guys looking to attract women.
    Attitude is everything, and women definitely respond to men with a confident attitude.
    Hopefully along with the other tips you provided men will better understand and attract women easier.

  • awais ali shah

    i don’t want to attract anyone and i can’t change my nature for any listen all i am what I am so and that’s all that i am this is the fact so this is my advice to everyone that never try to change yourself because sometimes in this process you’ll lose your personality and confidence.

  • A

    The art of seduction is much more involved than that, but what really works is having money and spending it on the girl…Gifts, shopping, shoes, compliment them on their shoes, they love that. If you have no money, and you are not handsome, you are in a bind. My suggestion to you would be to pick an unsecured girl and flat out ask her out. Say: “I know we are gonna be great together, so I want to take you out.”
    Good Luck

  • L

    so this just means that shy guys got no luck with girls eh?
    if a guy doesn’t have the courage to go and ask a girl out he’ll never get a gf?

  • Joel

    Thank you for everybody’s valuable responses…

  • Lester

    Nice pointers,think i will try them out.

  • Gautham

    Very beautiful girls are attracted to only MONEY. They doesn’t even care about the attitude, looks or anything else. They are just behind the money u have and some girls are even crazy to go abroad. This is the fact!

  • Nick

    hey guys im going to the park with the girl i like on tue. got any pointers for me?

  • Preston Blain

    Great post. I know for a fact that you can meet women without taking any consideration in how you dress. As long as you demonstrate that you are a cool, fun guy to be around then it really does not matter.

    However I do feel that it can help. It is not the difference between success and failure but as I say, ‘Every little helps’. Or was that tesco. Anyways the point I am making is, anything you can do to increase your chance of success should be done. Obviously don’t go over the top. Just spend a little extra time on your apperance and you should notice that your ability to meet and attract women increases.

  • Armond

    Harsh words from Shellie, but the thing is, shes right… Of course, after that, you need a way to get her to WANT you, right? I may offer the ‘up-down’ suggestion, which worked incredibly for me… I had my eyes on a girl for the longest time and after i grew the balls to ask her out, i used the first date to find out what really made her emotionally happy and emotionally tic. Basically, what you want to do is make her really happy the first day, (sorry) make her cry the next, make her happy again, piss her off the next, then happy one more time. It took me only 4 days to get Carly begging for me and telling me she loved me and needed me. Its a dark art i know, but if you want to try something new, this is the way to go. Good luck out there! Oh yeah, try this guy’s clothing methods, he knows what he’s talking about… Peace

  • Shellie

    Hey guys. I am a girl, and I can give you the true key to attracting the girl you like. ASK HER OUT ON A DATE! For some reason, boys these days think its okay to let her make the first move. That makes you a wimp, and I’m sick of it. Grow a pair, and just ask her to go out with you. She will BE ATTRACTED TO YOU if you do. If you’re too wimpy to do that, you aren’t mature enough to date. You might be afraid of rejection… well boo hoo get over it girls have to deal with that constantly. Just trust me… IF YOU LIKE HER, ASK HER OUT.

  • Bishal

    Walking around campus is a great place to meet college girls. If you see a girl that you want to talk to, don’t just stare at her. Look in her eyes and when she looks at you smile. If she smiles back, stop and say hi and ask her what her name is. Don’t tell her your name unless she asks because a girl who is interested will ask for your name. If she asks for your name get her for her phone number, and then tell her it was nice meeting her, you gotta go to class.

  • mahbub

    very nice

  • Don’t Care

    I find not looking/not caring the best way, I’m handsome but no Casanova. Just dress smartly and get on with life, stuff comes along, probably different in adulthood though…I’m guessing

  • khairullah

    i love a girl and i cant tell her that i love her.
    i wonder if she dont be agree with me.
    please give me the best advise
    i’ll be thankfull of you

  • Underground Seduction

    Yeah i wore a cool looking shirt once and the lady i was with asked me why i had the shirt on i was wearing. All i said was that i didn’t care. but you gotta have something more creative than that.

  • mack j

    i tried this and it really worked!! the only thing is that her sisters and step mom are now hitting on me as well!!

  • zead

    thanks u Chris calo , hope that works !!

  • getachew

    I have a problem in how to get closer to girls. I think some of them would like me to be their boyfriend. But I don’t know how to talk with them. Suggest me something, please!!!

  • saman

    very goooooooooooooood

  • T k

    I like this article.

  • The Guy

    Not everybody can go and buy new clothes and all that other stuff. This might work for rich people but not the everyday ordinary guy.

  • HA

    Yeah i wore a cool looking shirt once and the lady i was with asked me why i had the shirt on i was wearing. All i said was that i didn’t care. but you gotta have something more creative than that.


    Good steps given, I hope this will lead to make me more seductive

  • minger

    nice tips thnx

  • Sybreeno (Nor)

    Yeah, good with tips. I’m rather Anti Social, and always have been but I like your guidelines, simple, but actually effective : /

  • Prana Dawadi

    very good but u have to find more than this

  • Danny

    Get a machine that makes woman want to take their clothes off….its called a mercedes 😉

  • Kelly Jones

    Very cool advice. I agree most with the last one. I believe attitude is everything when dating. Confidence goes a long way in making someone much more attractive.

  • halin

    Nice entry. How about posting some tips on flirting? I think I would like to hear more about flirting.

  • lucas

    smart idea

  • lucas

    Thanks alot for making this web site for people like me. The part ware you sayed to ware something like a necklace that they would notice and the necklace ment something to you that you could talk about to them. Just something to start a conversation.

  • lucas

    hey man it really worked and i used your advice in high school.

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  • Peter

    great tips. I find myself disappointed when I go to the bar with a nice collared shirt and jeans, only to find every single person looks just like