If you’ve ever wondered how to attract a woman as a man and you’re searching for a magic formula that will solve everything, then stop. The answer to attracting women is simple: Be attractive.
Sure, that’s easier said than done, so what make a man attractive in the eyes of a woman? So what do women find attractive? Why can two guys do the exact same thing and get different results?
Confidence isn’t a mysterious force that only the gifted-few possess; it’s a trait rewarded for repeated success. Be unapologetic about your existence. Know that you are a highly valuable man and eventually this will become your reality. Overcome your fears to gain confidence.
Calmness in the presence of beauty
Women are rarely attracted to the stuttering, sweaty fool. This is the opposite of confidence…vit’s creepy. The solution is simple: repeated exposure. Get out there and talk to as many beautiful women as possible. I would go to the hottest club nights and approached every beauty I spot. I’ve approached hundreds of women and can attest that if you approach enough women, approach anxiety will vanish.
Having strong positive posture will increase your attractiveness exponentially. Imagine a string running through your body from toe to head, now pull that string tight, and lift your shoulders up back and down. Learn to strut. Instead of leaning in to women, lean back. Slow down your movements and remember to smile. These are the basics of good body language.
This includes clothing, grooming and hygiene. Don’t you love a girl that dresses well, smells good, is clean and in shape? So do they, and trust me, the moment you meet they’ll be scanning you from head to toe. You don’t need an Armani suit and six pack abs (it would help,) but you should invest in some cool clothes and keep your nose hairs trimmed. An average looking guy can be a “cute” guy with the right style.
Become a touchy feely type. Use hi-fives, hugs, thumb wars, eskimo kisses. This is totally normal. If you’re comfortable touching people, they’ll be cool with it. Often, kino will escalate an interaction to the sexual faster than words.
Women are attracted to men with high social value, or status. You don’t have to be famous–just act as if you are. If you have a large social circle, use that to your advantage. Throw a party, be the host. If you don’t have a large social circle, then appear to have one. Take her to a party, and start random conversations with complete strangers—she won’t know the difference, you will look super cool, and probably make some new friends. Girls want a fun social guy they can brag about to their friends. They don’t want a guy that’s reading about how to attract a woman online! (So don’t tell them)
Be an object of desire
Women are very competitive. If they sense you are in high demand with other women, they’ll compete to win your attention. Try taking an attractive woman to a party, and watch how easily other women will open up to you. Jealousy is powerful.
If you tease a woman properly, she’ll adore you. The guy that teases her like she’s his little sister will stand out from the legions of boring men asking her where she’s from and kissing her butt. This also shows that you are unaffected by her beauty; it’s something your used to and no big deal.
Talent is good, as is ambition. I was dating a girl once, and though she was pretty, our conversations seemed to stall on many levels, and I began to lose attraction for her. Then one night she pulled out her guitar and started singing. Her voice was beautiful. I wondered what other talents she was keeping from me, and we continued dating. She had lofty goals in the music biz, and so did I. What’s your passion? Goals are very attractive.
Play hard to get
Women love to chase a hard to get guy. Most guys give in as soon as she shows interest. Pull back once in awhile, screen her with probing questions like, “So, what’s your favorite food? Oh you like oysters! We would never get along.” Push her away playfully, turn your back. This is an excellent way to flirt.
Wit/Sense of humor
Chicks dig funny guys. This is also a skill you can learn. The key is to take conversational risks. Verbalize the absurd without apology. If you see a chubby little dog, you could and say, “She’s pretty fat for a little bitch.” One thing with humor: don’t become a performer. Funny guys are attractive, try-hards are lame. Learn to be a good witty conversationalist, get out and practice. Take an improv course if necessary.
Hone the skills mentioned in this guide and how to attract a woman will be a question of the past! You can start today by going out and approaching some. Have fun.