So there’s this girl you want to impress. She could be that hot blonde you’ve been chasing for years, that cute redhead who sits next to you in class or that sexy brunette in the bar. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you’re attracted to her and you want to do something about it. Which brings you to ask the question on your mind – how to impress women without being obvious about it?
Impressing women is counter-intuitive
The first thing you should know is that if you try and impress a woman, you won’t. Let me say that again: If you try and impress a woman you won’t. Why? Because as soon as you try to impress her, you’re acting differently from how you normally would around someone you’re not trying to impress. This subconsciously sends her the message that you don’t perceive yourself to hold enough value to naturally attract her – and if you don’t think you have any value, why should she?
The secret to impressing women is to be an impressive guy. Now don’t give up straight away – every man has qualities that women find overpoweringly attractive. I want you to do the following.
- Stop and think about how much time and energy you spend pursuing women. This doesn’t just mean how much time you spend approaching and chatting to them – this also includes how much time you spend thinking about them, what you want from them and your plans to impress them. Most guys spend hours every day simply thinking about how they can impress women, without even realizing it.
- Pretend that you already have everything you want from the women in your life. Imagine what your life would be like if you had what you wanted, whether it’s a constant stream of women entering your life, a healthy relationship, or something else entirely. Getting a woman is effortless for you, a task akin to breathing.
- Find out what your new motivations are. Since you’re no longer using all of the time you spent pursuing women, what would you now be pursuing? Where does your ambition drive you now that you don’t need to impress women, now that you have everything you want and need from them? Passion is one of the the 100 things that attract women to men.
- Pursue these new goals. What you’ve just done is found out what your life’s goal. Now, once you begin to attempt these new tasks, you may find out that it’s far more difficult than you anticipated, or that you don’t actually like doing it now that you’re devoting so much energy to it. That’s fine. Just do this exercise again and after a couple of times, you should find something that you enjoy doing in practically all your free time.
Now what was the point in doing all this? Well, a woman can easily tell when a man’s driving force is a woman, and to them it is not very attractive. When they meet someone who actually has a goal or a purpose that is more important to them than a woman’s approval, they find it insanely attractive. Nothing is more impressive to them than a man with ambition and direction. For more information on that, read what do girls look for in a guy.
Of course, now that you have found out what it is that you truly love doing, should you rush out and immediately tell every woman you meet?
All you’ve done is turned your passion for this task into a cool story with which to impress her. Guys have a desire to spill out their life story at the drop of a hat. To really impress her will take something a lot of us find difficult – control. Hold back on the stories and details for a bit and listen to her. Show a genuine interest in what she has to say and what she’s sharing without constantly trying to think about what to say next. Eventually she’ll begin to wonder “Wow, this guy has listened to me for so long without trying to butt in. I wonder what he’s about.” Make her work to learn more about you and you’ll both get a lot more pleasure from it.
By adhering to these principles, you’ll soon find that you’re getting an increased amount of interest and respect from many more women in your life. By understanding what it is you’re really passionate about will lead to you having more interests in your life and well being while at the same time preventing you from placing excessive value on women and their approval. You will impress women by not talk endlessly about yourself and instead, slowly let them discover your life and your values. When you give a woman a chance to tell you about her life, she’ll be drawn to you because you’ll be one of the few that listens.