making a girl feel comfortable
Girl Feeling Comfortable

If you remember the saying, you get what you shall receive, then it is no wonder that many guys are searching for how to make a girl feel good. If this is your goal, then that’s amazing! The logic behind the idea is that if a girl feels good, then she will stay with you forever because she will feel happy around you. (You might want to check out how to make a girl happy as well) Is this is absolute truth ? Not quite… If I look at all my relationships, including girlfriends, friends and family, I tend to hang out with the people that make me feel happy the most.

Most people seek to avoid pain and gain pleasure.

Feeling good is the definition of pleasurable. There are some pitfalls however, if you accomplish good feelings by degrading yourself socially, then that person will not respect you. The idea is that you cannot force sincere emotions if, in terms of status, you are not worth anything. Let me elaborate.

Don’t be a clingy guy

If you are a clingy guy who always tells a girl that she is beautiful, she might enjoy it the first time, but she’ll soon come to realize that you are putting her up on a pedestal. Since everything is relative, telling her that she looks great consequently means that you do not look as good as her. When your social value drops, your ability to make her feel happy drops substantially. For example, imagine a famous actor of your choice walking down the red carpet. Now a crazed fan runs up to him and tells your favorite actor that he is amazing. “Big deal” he thinks, another fan. In this situation, the fan might have a masters in Cinematography, it wouldn’t matter, the approach taken by the fan reduced his value to less than zero and therefore his compliment had absolutely no effect. However, if another person, say… a respected peer of the actor, maybe a co-star, came up to him and told him he really played a specific part in the movie well, then this statement would be valued much more.

The golden rule if you want a girl to like you.

Remember the golden rule that people will feel comfortable around you IF you feel comfortable yourself. Same applies to feeling good, if you feel good, then she will feel the same way. Enjoy life, be happy and it shall be contagious. If she’s happy to be around you, then you can assume that you’re doing your part.

If you must compliment her, make sure that she deserves it.

Tell her something specific, accurate and include yourself in the goodness as well. There is a huge difference in saying: “We’re the best looking couple at this Halloween party” and “You look the best at this Halloween party”. But enough about looks, people don’t care as much about looks as society leads us to think. Here are some quick situational examples:

  • Get her to cook for you, and then tell her the food was amazing
  • Go out and do a team activity, and then ‘talk her up’
  • If she’s putting herself down… talk her up
  • If she’s talking herself up… tease her!

If you’re still wondering how to make a girl feel good, then I’ll leave you with this piece of information: Make sure to read the book Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo, it shows you ways to make girls addicted to you for life.

  • smith

    i am in love with my uncle’s daughter but idont know she loves me or not we have accounts in facebook and chatting every day. but i couldnt tell my love 2 her because am afraid about the relation breakage if its NO, what should i do?

  • Jenny

    Well… I have to say from a woman’s stand point this article is really lacking – so if you are seriously looking for advice doing these things on this list, you’ll fail. Like this one: Get her to cook for you… bahhahaha ! Really, then compliment her?! Are we in the 50’s? Rather if you want to impress her, do something most guys don’t do. Like actually become interested in her and her dreams, goals, the life SHE wants. Its obvious the writer is coming from a male view point because all of the list is based on ego stroking and performance, which is what men need and want, not women. I suggest you keep learning about women and save yourself the embarrassement from this artice.

  • Ella

    My best makeout session EVER: (by a swedish guy, hehe)
    He kissed my neck and ears, it’s basic, but it feels sooo good. And he was also biting gently at the same time and that really made me go crazy. He also pulled my hair kind of hard, that was so unexpected and amazing.

    Being a little bit rough made him to appear very confident and like he knew what he was doing. And that’s so sexy. But he wasn’t like touching my breasts or backside, so his touch didn’t creep me out: on the contrary actually. I felt like he really wanted to make me feel good.

  • jerry

    my girl said kissing her on the neck made her go crazy. use it

  • Anonamous

    Thanks for that!

  • chase

    haha, you guys are hilarious just be yourself, if she doesn’t like you, then too bad! There’s plenty of fish in the sea, just find the perfect one for you.

  • Rinku

    Hello, could you please tell me how can I get back a girl in with whom I had a good friendship. I loved her in colleges days and she was very close to me, she had a boyfriend but now her boyfriend hurt her and she broke up with him, she loved her too much but I am sure she some space in her heart for me because I was very nice with her but sometimes I teased her because I wanted to know that weather she has some space for me or not. I last met with her 5 months ago and that was our last day in the college and that day I had a little argue with her for Group presentation. After 3-4 of the last day of college she called me and said that got a very good job then I wished her for that and from that day to 2day she has not called me once but I called her after 2-3 days of the day when she called me last time. We have accounts on facebook, may be she wanted to know that weather I love her or not or trying to tease me, for this she set her status that she is single!

  • aamir

    i love my classmate girl she is very friendly i want her love please somebody give me some tips on how i make her love me plz

  • vignesh

    this article rocks

  • Cerberus

    Hey, I just finished nibblin on my girl’s ear and she said it made her go crazy! Why is this?

  • Joel

    this would be awesome advice if i wasnt depressed all the time. im sry but i cant feel good about myself. i dont put myself down for her. i put myself down bcuz i really believe i have no point in life. ive been trying to better myself lately tho and i even if she doesnt end up with me i just want her to be happy no matter if she hates me or not. 🙂

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  • lance

    hi i in the same spot with they 4th guy who commented i really do love the girl and i may still be in H.S. but i do want to marry her

    thanks a ton for the tips

  • okesha

    that grat thank a lot

  • Nicholas

    i just want to say that this is a very good article,me and my lady are going through some bad times,it is my fault i did somethings that i shouldnt of,but its mad me realise the she is the one i want spend the rest of my life with

  • alberto legaria

    how do you seduce her and bring her back your life

  • Bryant

    Hi I was wondering what are the best spots to make a girl feel like there in bliss on there body I wanna make here feel like a woman or like she is on cloud nine pleas help thank you B.A.

  • Miles

    Great article, keep it up.