There is probably some girl in your life that evokes very strong feelings in you. Perhaps you’ve asked yourself this question a couple of times already, wondering how to make her fall in love with you the next time she sees you. It’s a question that many men ask themselves yet fear to seek advice on it. The truth is that although you cannot force a person to feel something for you, you can make her feel the same strong emotions towards you that you feel towards her. Let me tell you how.
Love is Precious
A woman’s love is a precious thing, worth more to her than any of the jewels she possesses. By giving you her love, she is opening herself up and making herself vulnerable to you. She needs to make sure that you’re the right person for this and you will need to prove that you’re worth it by neither being emotionally abusive nor excessively needy. Women need to know that you can handle the task of looking after her. They aren’t being bitches to you and trying to mess with you for no reason at all – they need to know that you have the cajones to deal with her shit tests in a way that only a man can handle. They may throw temper tantrums, say things that put you on the spot and even try and make you do things you don’t want to do, all to see if you will wilt and react to their behavior. Be nonreactive to all their tests. (See how to deal with cold women) If you show that you are unaffected by their actions and can stay true to your own personal principles, women will respect you more and see you as a man who can truly stand up to others and protect them. Be the rock in their life, the one that no storm can weather.
Women don’t pride you for your looks or your attitude. They may play a part in her attraction towards you but it is not that which will make them love you. A woman cannot love a man who is consistently dishonest to her – this will only lead to her being hurt. Be honest with them. I don’t mean to ask you to tell her your deepest darkest secrets tomorrow. Don’t lie to her about what you want. Don’t be afraid to say something to her for fear of her judgment or try to exaggerate to show yourself in the best light. Those are all habits we are guilty of and it is only through openness and honesty that a woman will truly respect you and trust you. Yes, the truth is not always pretty or nice but if a woman sees you as someone who will always tell the truth regardless of the consequences, she will be that much more amenable to giving you her heart. The next time you feel the urge to exaggerate or lie to make yourself look better, take a step back and just tell the simple, honest truth. You might be surprised at the results.
Building A Connection
Something that almost every girl in love says is “we had a connection” or “we just clicked”. Most guys who want a girl will try and jump straight into her pants, pushing for sex almost as soon as they meet a girl and have talked to her for a few minutes. Don’t try and do that – if you want a girl to truly love you, spend some time getting to know her. Learn about her hopes and dreams, her passions and delights. This is a real human being you’re talking to, one who feels the same emotions you feel. The more you learn about her, the more you will learn to appreciate her and love her for the person she is, and in this same way she will learn to love you.
Love cannot be forced. It is a natural culmination of the connection two people share. It’s true, there that there are things you can do to make women feel more attracted to you but for a woman to truly love you, you must be genuine and truly care for her. You may not love every woman you meet but for those few you find that you care about deeply, know that with the right attitude and genuineness, she can grow to love you too.
Falling In Love According To BrightSide
Picture this: you’ve been going out with a marvelous girl for a while, and you start feeling a deep affection for her. So you try to make the girl fall head over heels in love with you – and whoops, the whole relationship goes south from there.
Most guys have been there. What happened? Well, you made one fundamental mistake. But before we go into it, let’s look at some basics about getting a girl’s love.
Figure out what you want.
What is it you want to achieve? Are you looking for her company in order to fix something in your life? If so, you’re trying to fill an emotional hole inside you and consequently you aren’t coming from a place of strength. Insecurity and low self-esteem are a greater buzzkill than Buzz Killington. You need confidence, determination and independence, so sort out your issues and take control of your life first. Don’t wait for things to happen, instead, take the initiative and check out the highly recommended man transformation program. (This thing is huge)
The first mentality change you should adopt to create attraction is to not be afraid to check her out. Screen her! Is she the right one for you? Is she funny, interesting, clever, witty, sexy? Does she merit your attention and love? Remember, you don’t come for free. She’ll have to earn you just as you have to earn her. Two strong individuals are the best basis for a healthy, balanced relationship.
Now you can go get her love.
Rule number one: spread good vibes. She won’t love you if you brood and worry. Here’s an exercise: focus on your breathing and tone down the noise in your head. Let go of yesterday and tomorrow, and bring your attention to the here and now. Be present, live the moment. You will find beauty and happiness.
Oh, and avoid the dreaded “best friends” zone. Inject some body contact and sexual innuendo into your interaction early on. Know what you want and don’t beat around the bush about it. Be upfront (not intrusive!) about your intentions.
Slow down. Relax. Take it easy.
If you’re cool and calm, chances are you won’t turn into a blithering idiot with the girl. You have all the time in the world, so don’t rush things. Doing so will screw it up. Think about it: if you chase somebody, aren’t they going to run? Let her discover you bit by bit, and leave her room to breathe and be. Take it one step at a time, and don’t shoot for any outcome – the only thing you’ll hit is your foot. Who cares where you’ll be in one month, tomorrow, at the end of the night? You’re with her now and having a great time.
Displays of affection.
Compliments and presents are good things if done right. Make them on your terms: don’t give in to her every wish, instead tease her a bit and surprise her at a later point. You don’t want to look needy and clingy, so place your displays of affection carefully and make them count:
Instead of buying her dinner, look up a recipe and cook her something you know she likes.
Instead of buying her a huge random bunch of flowers, buy her a few of her favorite ones.
Make your compliments specific. “You’re hot” is unspecific. “Your hair is beautiful. Do you spend a lot of time on it?” is specific.
Show her you listen and care about her as a person.
Looking and listening will also keep you from overstepping lines, e.g. the line where teasing becomes annoying or the one where you start rubbing compliments and presents all over her (eeeewwwww).
Share memorable experiences with her.
Anybody can go to a restaurant. It’s ordinary, and having an exciting conversation over a couple plates and a candle is harder than in your city’s shopping alleys, on a boating trip, in an amusement park or at the zoo. A bunch of monkeys flinging feces can entertain you for hours!
Create comfort and commonalities. They can be inside jokes, memories or a unique understanding you share, anything that binds you together. Make her feel like she’s known you for years!
So, what went wrong when you tried to make that girl fall in love? Well, a great master once put it like this: “Do. Or do not. There is no try.” Don’t stiffen, “try” to run a script, or worry about what to do next. Just be natural, nonchalant, present, have a good time and don’t worry about the outcome. In other words, don’t try to figure out how to make her fall in love with you… instead, stay in control and take it easy – she’ll love you for it.