Do you sometimes worry that you’re running out of things to talk about with your girlfriend?

It’s a legitimate fear to have, by the way. Any good boyfriend knows that women need conversation in their relationships. And meeting that need would be easier if you simply had something new to talk about every single day.

But what if you feel you’re running out of things to say? This article will “rescue” you from your predicament, and make sure your girlfriend’s need for conversation will be well-met for as long as she’s with you.

What Actually Counts as Conversation

Most guys naturally think that conversations with their girlfriends should always be interesting, or positive, or exciting, or meaningful, and so on.

While it IS good to have conversations like that, you’ll inevitably have days when you DON’T have anything interesting/exciting/meaningful to talk to her about. What should you do then?

“Conversations can be ordinary and mundane… and STILL help build a happy relationship”

Fortunately, conversations don’t have to be profound. According to a study that tracked the conversations happy couples had with each other, conversations can be ordinary and mundane… and STILL help build a happy relationship between you. [R]

Source: Journal of Social and Personal Relationships 

This article will introduce you to nearly a dozen different kinds of conversations you can have with your girlfriend, ensuring you never run out of things to talk to.

The key phrase to remember is this: “Past, present, and future.”

Talking to Your Girlfriend About the Past

Look into your recent or distant past, and see if you can enrich your current conversation with your girlfriend with a story or two. Good things to talk about include:

#1: A Good Sense of Humor

Does your conversation remind you of a funny story you heard in the past? Bring it up – it’ll enrich the conversation and keep it going for a while longer. Positive humor use has been found to create more satisfying relationships between couples. [R]

Your conversation reminds you of funny topics? Bring it up during the chat and have a laugh

#2: A Positive Outlook

Does the current situation remind you of a positive experience in the past? Bring it up – not only will you lighten the mood, but your girlfriend might be enticed to bring up an experience or two of her own, as well.

Reignite your romance through positive past experiences

Talking to Your Girlfriend About the Present

Good things to talk about the present include:

#3: Interesting Things During Your Day

This one’s pretty easy – you simply tell her what happened during your day. The more interesting or busy your life is, the more there is to talk about!

Share your daily experiences and keep her closer to your heart

#4: How Is Her Day Going

This is also very easy – you can ask her how her day went. Your girlfriend will love this – it shows her you’re attentive and sensitive to her needs, and patient enough to listen to her rant if she has to.

But what if you are both busy at work? Then sending her quick messages over text on the phone asking her about her day is a great start, at least until you next meet up.

Show her your sweet side by asking her how her day went

#5: Inner Feelings

Your emotional health is every bit as important as your physical health, and so you’ll need to take care of it too. Being honest and open with your feelings, especially with your girlfriend, will help you stay on an even emotional keel… and it will strengthen your bond with your girlfriend, as well.

Be open and honest about your feelings for improved emotionally health

#6: Her Emotions.

It’s extremely easy to get your girlfriend to talk about how she feels about anything – girls love expressing their thoughts and emotions. Just keep in mind that when she does, she’s not looking for solutions – she’s looking for sympathy and support. Be sure to give it to her.

Her emotional health is also important, so be nice and listen to what she has to say

#7: Mutual Observations.

Are you both experiencing something at the same time? Talk about it. Give your opinion, and then ask her for hers. It’s a great way to start a conversation wherever you might be, whatever you might be doing together.

Stuck for ideas to talk about? Ask her opinion about something you are both currently experiencing

#8: TV Talk.

Ah, TV. It’s been called the biggest productivity drain in the history of mankind. Fortunately, when building a relationship with your girlfriend, you’re not looking for productivity – you’re looking for intimacy. Watch TV together and talk about the shows you watch – it’s something you can do for an hour every single day.

Use what’s on the TV set  and watch a good ol’ movie

#9: Conflicts.

That’s right – when you have a disagreement with your girlfriend, don’t give each other the silent treatment. It’s a golden opportunity for conversation – don’t waste it!

It takes a confident, level-headed guy to tell his girlfriend: “Hey, got a minute? We got to talk about this…” and then work out a compromise. Every problem you solve together as a couple will make you stronger in the long run, and help lay the foundations for a more productive, more satisfying relationship. [R]

Relationships are not like when you were first dating, problems will come and solving them makes you stronger

Talking to Your Girlfriend About the Future

It’s also healthy to talk to your girlfriend about your immediate and distant future together. Good things to talk about include:

#10: Plans to Go Out

You two have goals for your relationship – pick the next immediate goal you have, and talk to her about it. Ask questions, take down notes, make a list or game plan. Few things can beat the feeling that you’re “in this together” with your girlfriend, and work together to make great things happen.

Ask some great questions about the next relationship goal will show you care and bring you closer

#11: Household Tasks.

After planning comes the grind. Even discussing who does what around the house counts as a conversation, and it helps you show your girlfriend how reliable you are (and vice-versa). This is important – we all need our significant others to be the most reliable persons in our lives.

Even mundane household task are a topic of conversation

How to Never Run Out of Things to Talk About

If you’ll notice, you’ll never run out of things to talk about if you share a busy, active, exciting life with your girlfriend – there’s always something new to talk about. Your conversations may not always be interesting, exciting, or meaningful… but they strengthen your relationship nonetheless, and that’s the most important thing!

Just remember: Past, Present, and Future. Always have good stories to tell and inspiring goals to plan… and yes, don’t forget to ask her how her day went!

Some Parting Tips

Don’t forget your needs when focusing on hers

While you SHOULD be concerned about your girlfriend’s needs, be careful not to get TOO concerned. Many guys make the mistake of prioritizing their girlfriend’s needs and ignoring their own – and this is ultimately bad for the relationship.

Remember, she needs YOU to be in top shape too, both physically and emotionally. So don’t neglect yourself, and don’t give what you don’t have.

Resources & References

Want more information on fun things to talk about with your girlfriend or simply want to talk a look at our sources? Here they are:

  1. Mapping the topography of couples’ daily conversation – Journal of Social and Personal Relationships by Jess K. Alberts, Christina G. Yoshimura, Michael Rabby, Rose Loschiavo
  2. An interesting talk by CapstonePublishing on How to Reduce Conflict and Build Better Relationship… this also applies to relationships
  3. Humor Use in Romantic Relationships: The Effects of Relationship Satisfaction and Pleasant Versus Conflict Situations – The Journal of Psychology, Interdisciplinary and Applied by Bethany Butzer & Nicholas A. Kuiper
  4. The Secrets of Successful Communication by MarriageToday
  5. Emotion Regulation in Romantic Relationships: The Cognitive Consequences of Concealing Feelings – Journal of Social and Personal Relationships by Jane M. Richards, Emily A. Butler, James J. Gross