Dealing With The Best Friend When Picking Up a Girl

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Wouldn’t it be so much easier to pick up girls if they were by themselves more often? You’ll find single ones when you’re out in daylight, but at night, when you go to bars or clubs, they’ll likely be in groups of two: there’s one girl you really fancy, and then there’s the best friend she’s out with.

Many men wonder how to deal with the best friend when picking up a girl, but the solution lies in the approach to the “problem”: once you stop seeing a best friend as an obstacle, you realize that there’s nothing to “deal with” here, nobody to “handle”, “manage” or “dispose of”. The truth is, the best friend will present an opportunity for you, and if you embrace that, you’re on the right track.

Test their receptiveness

Your first benefit from a set of two friends is that you can determine their receptiveness before you even approach. If these two are in a deep conversation, constantly keeping eye contact and hardly ever looking up, you probably won’t have a good chance to open them up. They want to be with each other. On the other hand, if their conversation is light and casual, and if they look around a lot, they are out to socialize. In that case, they might be more dressed up, too. Now you can go in.

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Your positive attitude

When you shift your perspective from “the other one’s an obstacle” to “she’s a great opportunity”, on a deeper level, you go from a negative to a positive mindset: now, there are two really great girls you can talk to. Your attitude will make all the difference in the approach: you may be drawn to only one girl, but when you interact, you want to be friendly, curious and energetic towards both! These two are friends. If you focus your attention on one, discarding the other, you’ll piss both off – wouldn’t you be pissed off if somebody acted like a prick towards your best friend?

Be a safe guy to be around

The two girls will look out for each other, gauging any situation with regard to the other’s safety. They’ll communicate through eye contact, body language or subtle facial expressions, and rest assured: if one doesn’t want to be left alone with you, you won’t “get rid” of the other. That’s why you want to make them both feel comfortable and at ease: then, the best friend will deem it safe to leave her friend with you. There’s a good chance she’ll make an excuse and give you time with each other.

Be genuinely interested in wonderful people

Even if you get one’s number, by the end of the conversation, you should be genuinely interested in seeing both of them again, regardless of your romantic preference. You’re a really friendly guy who just met two really friendly girls. I’ve seen successful men: they weren’t necessarily “pickup artists” first, but they were authentically friendly people. They would radiate energy, honest interest and enthusiasm for everybody, learn about what interests and passions they had and then suggest activities to do together: “hey, your recipe sounds great. We should meet up and cook together! I could bring some ice cream for dessert and we could watch a movie while we eat.” If they like hiking: “you should take me to your favourite hiking spot. I’ve always wanted to see more of the area! I’ll bring that friend I told you about, you’ll love him.”

Your bonus chance: bring a friend!

Now, all of this applies if you’re out alone. When you’re with a friend, you have another great card to play: you can determine beforehand which girl you’re interested in, and when you two approach, your friend will engage her friend in a conversation. The above still applies: your interest should be about both girls. But now, you can have your “target” for yourself without having to worry about the other one. Also, she’ll be more likely to want to talk to you: after all, her friend is in a conversation, and she doesn’t want to be left outside alone.

Many girlfriends in my life told me they were attracted to that glow in my eyes when I was enthusiastic. Imagine the kind of attraction a girl will feel if you get that glow in your eyes about what they love doing. Next time you go out, don’t worry about dealing with the best friend. Instead, get yourself excited about the wonderful people you’re going to meet: look forward to talking to them. People will appreciate you just for being a really friendly guy.