When it comes to attraction, us guys are very physical. We go straight for looks, so most of us automatically react in the following fashion when we see an exceptionally beautiful woman: “She’s so ravishing. I’ve got to have her!”

Tell you what: bad move.

There are ways of making pretty girls fall for you, but they all involve letting go of this mindset. Just because a woman is beautiful doesn’t mean she’s intelligent, funny, charismatic, ambitious – in short: truly attractive. So here’s your lesson for today: get her off the pedestal and treat her as a human being.

Beautiful Women Like Strong Men

Why is it that so many guys turn into nervously fidgeting, asexual jellyfish when it comes to approaching hotties and keeping them engaged?

It’s as if beauty lifted women above the spheres of mere humanity and turned them into some kind of fairy tale princesses that can only be touched with satin gloves. I’ll tell you a secret: they’re still regular human beings made of flesh and blood. It’s true though that being beautiful will change a woman’s perception of the world and, thus, her personality: from her teenage years, she’ll get used to men bending to her every wish, and she’ll learn to use her beauty to her advantage whenever she pleases.


She’ll also get bored out of her mind. In fact, the nice, friendly wusses will eventually annoy the heck out of her, especially when they try to hide that they like her looks. Soon enough, she’ll long for a real male, a big bad ballsy hunk of man-flesh to treat her with some real masculinity. One who’ll give her a poignant teaser conversation and then say “You’re sexy and I like your sense of humour, we should go out. I have time on Monday” instead of talking to her forever and then choking on “I hope you don’t mind my asking, but would you mind awfully if I bought you dinner some time?”

This is where you should come in.

Alpha Male

If you want to take things anywhere with a beautiful woman, get your head out of your butt right now and act like the alpha male you’re supposed to be. Here’s a couple of tools for that:

1. Realize that there is variety. She isn’t the only beautiful woman around, and you are aware that there are other options. If you shift your mindset from “oh dear, I hope she’ll like me” to “let’s see if she has enough to offer so I’ll like her”, the woman will realize that you’re not an easy catch.

2. Show her that you’re not going to give in to her games and bitching. You have your own life and perspective, you’re in control of that and you’re gonna take things in your direction. Show her that you know what you want and you’re going to get it. If she doesn’t want to go along, it’s her loss.

3. Be funny, but don’t seek to amuse her. Amuse yourself! Before you go meet a girl, get yourself into a fun mood, e.g. watch one of your favourite comedies (40 Year Old Virgin is awesome). When you interact with her, always laugh inside. Think of funny ways to interpret what’s happening, or funny things to say: “Hey, you have something in your face.” – “Oh, really?” (wait for her to fidget around in her face) “Yeah. It’s your nose.”

4. Tease her. Be just a little too sure about yourself, just a tad arrogant! “We shouldn’t become lovers. I don’t think you could take me.” But always keep it on a playful note or else you’ll tick her off. For instance, stop in front of a mirror, call her over and say: “Hey, did you see the awesome pictures they have here?” If you show her that you know you’re attractive (and you are, don’t let anybody tell you otherwise), she’ll pick up on it. She’ll be attracted.

These are just some examples. Lastly, note that I’m not advertising treating a woman badly here. You still have to respect her as the beautiful being she is, respect her ideas, wishes and desires, and make her feel good about herself. You want her to be comfortable around you. Be positive, affirmative and funny, but show that you have direction and purpose, and that you’re not going to hand her your balls on a silver platter. Once you have your confidence together, attracting beautiful women into your life will be a much easier accomplishment.

  • Vera Maria

    This is nonsense. Iq is genetic and not much molded by the environment. AND atteactiveness correlates with brains!
    Example: kate beckinsale, iq 140, sharin stone, iq 154, emma watson: high iq, natalie portman, iq 149 or so. And all the other pretty ones, surely > 100

  • Kester

    From experience most extremely beautiful ladies are not that intelligent, as they focusses more on beauty than IQ.

  • benjii

    Hi Pete, it almost felt like you were reading my mind, stop the flirts that kill the flirt

  • pete

    little piece of advice to chicks out there: dont flirt with guys if you already have a boyfriend. so many girls do this and it pisses me off! dont flirt with a guy and then when he asks you on a date say “oh sorry i have a boyfriend!” then you just look like an snooty attention whore who flirts wherever she can just so she can get noticed by someone who isnt her boyfriend. i would never date a chick like that, i wouldnt trust her.

  • Elizabeth

    Sophie is right. I have been told through my whole adult life about my looks. I can say from experience that these women are very lonely and are looking for a great companion who can be a best friend and a lover at the same time. Be yourself and don’t be “masculine”. Beautiful women with intelligence are going to appreciate an honest men and will reject a men very quickly as soon as they realize the “games” he’s playing. Believe me, games only work on dumb beautiful women. If that is what you want, play your games. I’ve been married a very average guy (not good looking and doesn’t make good money) for over a decade and couldn’t be happier with him. He treats me with respect and has a very good personality. He’s a “nice” guy. He’s also my best friend.

  • Sophie

    This is such rubbish. If you are not comfortable with yourself and your esteem is sooo low that you have to play games, then you shouldnt be in any relationship until you’ve sorted your head out. Women aren’t necessarily attracted by looks – there has to be a genuine personality. Being an asshole isn’t attractive. Being a beautiful woman is actually tough and can be quite lonely, as men are intimidated and women distrusting. Beautiful women are more than just their looks. My advice to any man would be to develop his personality, life interests and sense of humour. Cut the crap because she’ll see right through a fake. Treat and value her like the great human being and woman she is – looks are actually incidental.

  • Sun

    Joe Roberts, you are absolutely right. Women are far too cunning for that advice.
    playing ful teasing will get punches on his face. I am being honest.
    Imagine how many guys are reading advices and treat beautiful girls like non-human beings and go overboard with their cockiness?
    this advice is awful and stupid in every possible way.

    If a guy acted like this around me, I am not only going to punch him in the face, I would never ever see his face ever again. plain and simple.

  • joe roberts

    Women are far too cunning for that advise, years of evolution, they can smell a rat a mile off.
    Its up to us men to get real, and get our heads from up the arse of our male human condition, be open and honest, if you have a good personality she will soon pick that up.

  • Brain

    Thanks for sharing! How come you relapsed into your old mistakes? My advice for now: look for other girls, build some attraction with them, and at the same time keep teasing her, flirt her up then pull back, in short try yourself out man. Push some limits. If you’re playful and enjoy yourself, she’ll pick up on the fun you’re having, and who knows where that may lead. Even if it doesn’t get you anywhere with this girl, you’ll have some great practice that will help you with others. Oh, and don’t hide that you have options. Most important thing to keep in mind: there’s billions of women on this planet to choose from 🙂

  • specton

    Hello man,

    congratulations for your article! You are 100% right!
    Recently, I had such an experience with a really beautiful girl, you know one of the famous one’s in my class etc… Well. I did a lot of mistakes, even if I consider myself quite experienced, mistakes that I haven’t done for years!!

    Eg, I was friendly enough, trying to amuse her and stuff like that… But I never showed her that I am the alpha male or stuff…

    Till I get really pissed off, and I realized what’s happening and what she’s doing, and started ignoring her, which shook her up a little bit…. but i guess it was too late…

    I know that she has dated 3 ‘Alpha’ guys till now, as you mention….

    Good advice anyway 🙂 Thank you, I just became a fan of your blog!