As a guy, learning how to talk to girls can be a challenging experience or it can be an enjoyable one. Would you agree that being able to carry a proper conversation with a girl would solve a LOT of problems ?
I know many guys agree that this is one of the most neglected aspects when it comes to dating advice, and yet, it is so critical to succeed!
One of the biggest issues among men that are struggling with women is that they “Just don’t know what to talk about!”.
I feel you.
I’ve had that awkward silence too.
The moment where something SHOULD of been said, but it was not.
The moment where you both kind of look at each other and think… “ok this is not good”
When this happens, women will often think: “We just don’t connect” and it’s at that point that the date goes downhill.
Actually, that’s probably one of the biggest fear that men have and it’s the reason why a lot of guys won’t even go start a conversation!
The Ideal Topic of Conversation
The reason is that most people try to figure out the “ideal topic of conversation” beforehand. As if, if you were to introduce this ideal topic, you would both have a wonderful time talking about it for hours and hours and eventually the woman would fall in love with you, just because you had the right topic of conversation.
That’s because it is.
Yet people STILL try to find that ideal conversation topic!
So do yourself a favor, do ME a favor, stop it and just start off with any conversation topic. Usually bad ones will do, and as the conversation progresses, you can steer the conversation to any topics you wish to discuss. From there, we have you covered when it comes to making every conversation memorable.
Alright, because we all like to be spoon fed information, I’ll break it down even more.
Pick Any Topic
I realize that saying “Any Topic Will Do” will not help most guys because you’re probably still wondering.. “OK, but what do I talk about?” Well start by things that are relevant to you first.
It’s really hard to be relevant to other people, and people with high value tend to think of themselves anyways, so STARTING with a topic that is relevant in your life is always a great way to start a conversation. At the same time, it will sub-consciously convey values of self-worth and confidence which are both attractive.
For example, if you’re on your way to go grocery shopping, start with that!
Example of how to talk to girls
“Hey, I was just watching the cooking channel and I was inspired to make some *insert funny meal*, so now I’m going to get the secret ingredient at the grocery store”.
Now it’s likely that she doesn’t really care about you going grocery shopping, but if the story, your thought process, is interesting enough, then it will be entertaining to talk about. When in doubt, talk about your thought process about an activity and it will ALWAYS provide natural conversation.
People are bored, stories about your life can be as entertaining as watching that last episode of Lost, House or even Desperate House Wives.
Conversations are like fires, once they are ignited with the right kindling, there’s no stopping them. Trust me when I tell you, you’ll know when to change topic, it will come naturally. Until then, just continue talking about what interests you the most, because if it’s interesting to you, you’ll talk about it in an enthusiastic and entertaining manner.
Now, if you want to learn how to build attraction while you’re talking to girls, then one of the books I strongly recommend you check out is Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo. He teaches you exactly to say so she’ll not only have a good time talking to you, but she’ll be deeply attracted to you as well.
The next time you wonder how to talk to girls, just keep in mind that conversations are like fire, they need to be slowly started with little light pieces before you can move on to the heavy stuff!
Recommend Talking To Girls Resources
Here are some more resources to help you accomplish your goal of talking to girls.
- Successful Man’s Guide To How To Talk To A Woman
This guide discusses the nuances between verbal and non-verbal communication.
- Good conversations and what to talk about with girls
You’ll learn how to keep the conversation going once you’ve started it
- How To Start a Conversation With A Girl
Get started with a few ice breakers and how to approach the situation
- Don’t Stop Talking Or You’ll Lose Her Interest
A look at how to keep the excitement of the interaction going
- 20 Ways To Talk To Women
Some inspirational tips on how to keep the conversation going with women
- 101 Conversation Starters
A really good list on conversation starters to get started
- How To Talk To Women and Make it Interesting
Great explanation between interesting conversations and boring conversations. This is all about not saying the same old thing over and over again.
- How To Talk To Girls Without Getting Rejected
This is part 1 of a 10 part series on talking and approaching women in an interesting way. This is a ton of good content.
- How to listen better TED talk
You can’t be a good talker without being a good listener as well so I highly recommend listening to this Ted talk (see what I did there?)
- A series of podcasts on talking to girls
Here are some podcasts on meeting, talking and attracting women