It’s a shame that most men don’t know a thing about how to talk to a woman. With these few basic guidelines, you’ll be chatting it up with all the most attractive women in no time. The trick with talking to girls is with the subtleties.
The first rule of talking with women is to replace the word “talk” with the word “communication”. When you adopt the idea that you want to communicate with another human being, it takes the emphasis off the words themselves, which are only a small part of communication anyways.
Real communication is actually 20% words and 80% body language & tonality.
“It’s not what you say, but how you say it”
So let’s get the words out of the way first, since it’s the easiest and it’s likely that you want to know that anyways. We’ll save the best (the other 80%) for later!
The words that you say should be simple, interesting and unexpected. How boring is this conversation?
– How are you ?
= Good, and you ?
– Pretty good.
Instead, painting pictures with words, triggering the imagination and using interesting words will always provide better conversation.
– Why hello there!
= Hello to you too!
– How are you on this semi-cloudy and mildly humid day ?
= Good! You ?
The second conversation has a lot more flow, and although you wouldn’t always talk like this, it’s a good way to start a conversation with an otherwise boring topic (the weather). If you can paint pictures with your words, people will have a much more enjoyable time speaking to you.
Conversation Topics That Are Interesting
In terms of topics, speak about things that interest YOU and then switch to topics that interest BOTH of you. When meet a woman, chances are you don’t know anything about her (a part from making assumptions based on her looks, body language and social surroundings), so instead of ‘searching for a topic’, just talk about something that entertains you at first. If it’s interesting to you, then your passion for the topic at hand will make it interesting for her as well. As the conversation progresses, you’ll likely drift to a topic that interests her as well… use it!
In the next part of how to talk with a woman, we’ll explore the rest of the 80% of communication, body language and tonality. Once you discover how to make those work for you, the times where you talked to someone only to have them lose interest and turn away… will be gone forever. Instead, people will chase you so they can talk to you.